If given another chance, would you choose to marry him?
A netizen named "Yi Chen" replied:
Now, my heart is full of regrets. If I were given another chance, I would never marry him because he doesn't love me.
Yes, many people in life are suitable for their families because of their age or so-called two people, and finally they marry a man who doesn't love themselves, but the result is very miserable.
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Oda is a good friend of my colleague. She has been in love several times, but she didn't succeed in the end. Later, after she was lovelorn again, her parents and relatives helped her find a rich second-generation Meng Xiao with a superior family.
After dating Meng Xiao for three months, she found that she was not suitable for each other. Just when she decided whether to quit this relationship, she found herself pregnant.
As a result, both parents began to prepare for the wedding quickly, and the indecisive Oda married Meng Xiao in a hurry for the sake of the baby in her belly.
On the night of the wedding, ODA asked her husband if he married her because of love.
Her husband gave her the answer that her parents were very satisfied with her, and he also thought Oda was a suitable wife candidate, and she was pregnant.
At that moment, Oda's heart was a little lost, because her husband and her marriage had nothing to do with love.
However, Oda thinks that her husband's family is superior, and she and her children will have unlimited scenery in the future. She was somewhat comforted at the thought of this.
However, when she really lived with her husband after marriage, she realized that marrying a man who doesn't love herself looks like scenery on the surface, but her heart is full of bitterness.
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After marriage, ODA's life was very painful. In her own words, she is like a canary in a cage after marriage.
Since she married her husband's family, she has been forbidden to go out to work, saying that it is to let her feel at home. But after her daughter was born, her husband's family still didn't allow her to go out to work. Once she made it clear that she wanted to go out to work, there was a storm waiting for her.
She tried, but all ended in failure. My mother-in-law often says in front of her, "I give you pocket money every month, and you are still so restless."
Oda can survive if she just doesn't work and has her daughter around, but her husband completely regards her as his own accessory and usually forbids her from having any contact with other members of the opposite sex.
In addition to being overbearing and selfish, her husband often patronizes nightclubs. Every day when he comes home, he smells of wine and women's perfume, ignoring her at all.
In this boring life like prison, ODA suffers from moderate depression and takes various antidepressants every day.
She also wants to end this painful marriage, but she is reluctant to part with her daughter. And her parents strongly opposed her divorce, saying that she didn't know when to be happy.
The most important thing is that even if the divorce is successful, I will get nothing. All the property and assets in my family are hung in my father-in-law's name, which has nothing to do with her. Besides, her husband's family is very strong, so she can't take her daughter away. For her, her daughter is her lifeblood.
If she doesn't get the real estate, her family won't welcome her back, and even her survival will be a problem in the future.
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In this way, ODA endured for many years. Just when she finally made up her mind to divorce, an accident made her hesitate again and she was pregnant again.
Faced with a little life again, she was helpless and went to consult her sister-in-law about what to do. As a result, the next day, both her family and her in-laws knew about her pregnancy.
My husband wanted to have a grandson, so he asked someone to find out the sex of the fetus for her. It is a boy. After confirming that it was a boy, her husband treated her much better, and even her husband began to know how to take care of her.
Oda once thought that she finally got through it and could rely on her mother like in TV series.
However, after she was pregnant for five months, her husband and her husband returned to the same level. It turns out that their family just pretended to be nice to her a few months ago, fearing that she would lose her son if she divorced.
After that, my husband started hanging out in nightclubs again, and even intensified. He always quarrels with her. Even on the way to send her to the prenatal examination, he would leave her on the side of the road and drive away without saying a word.
After her son was born, she devoted herself to him.
In-laws still don't respect her, and her husband still enjoys it in nightclubs. Their marriage is nothing but quarrels and cold violence.
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On the wedding anniversary, ODA and her husband had another quarrel. Her husband's words: "Get out of this house" completely broke her mood.
That night, Oda ran out of the house and sat alone in the pavilion of the community all night. No one in her husband's family came out to look for her, and her husband didn't call her.
Other people's wedding anniversary is a sweet celebration, but his wedding anniversary is such a bleak scene that Oda doesn't want to go on like this.
After she made up her mind to divorce, ODA went to a law firm for consultation. Later, with the help of a lawyer, Oda won the divorce lawsuit and got custody of her daughter.
Now, ODA and her daughter live together. She didn't go back to her parents' house, but rented a room outside and found a job in sales. Although life is hard, she feels very happy.
In life, many marriages fail because, like Oda, in order to cater to others and constantly lower their bottom line, such marriages are doomed to failure.
Because if you don't even know how to respect yourself, the other person won't respect you.
As a woman, you must remember that besides family and children, the most important thing in life is yourself. You can love yourself, but don't forget to love yourself.
When you meet a wrong marriage, don't submit to humiliation or compromise. Leaving generously will give you a chance to meet someone who really loves you.