For example, if your husband (wife) has an affair and you seek psychological counseling painfully, the psychological counselor will not tell you how to increase your charm to cater to each other like your parents and friends, nor will he give you good money and goods to deal with the divorce, or preach and criticize his moral responsibility, saying that "getting married is not easy." These superficial phenomena are understood by people with basic rationality, and the parties themselves understand them better. They will help you to explore why your marriage is in trouble today, help you to know what life you really want, and help you get closer and closer to the life you want. Through consultation, visitors' thinking is no longer entangled in the objective reality of "affair", but has enough psychological strength to deal with this situation. In the end, visitors will find that their life is full of hope, whether they break up or save it.
For example, some people will consult because of work pressure, and the consultant can't advise you to "not be so strong" and "pay attention to your health, health is the first" like ordinary people, let alone talk to the author Xiao Huiming about setting less work indicators. In fact, what kind of life you live is your own choice. Although many people don't realize that this is a helpless move, even being a slave is still your own choice. A counselor will help you understand why you became a slave at work, help you gain the strength to get rid of the slave dilemma, and decide for yourself how much work pressure you like to accept. Can that so-called pressure be called "pressure" at that time? That's just our state of being, just like a fish swimming in the water. What pressure does it have? If you let birds swim in the water, you will definitely feel the pressure of death.
By analogy, if you are unhappy without money, the consultant will not study with you how to invest to make you rich, but the consultant will help you live happily without money. On the other hand, if you are happy without money, will such a psychological quality still have no money? Will there always be no money? If you are depressed without power, the counselor will not help you study any hidden rules and help you become an official, but the counselor will help you do your existing job calmly and happily without power. If you have a peaceful mind, good health and good performance, how can promotion opportunities not patronize you? If you are unfortunate enough to follow a crony boss, then you have enough psychological ability to fire him and go your own way. If you are upset because you can't find a partner, the counselor won't be a matchmaker to introduce you to one, but the counselor will help you analyze your problems in interpersonal communication and help you live happily without a partner. If you can have such an attitude towards life, won't your charm affect many opposite sex to approach you actively?
Tracing back to the source, psychological problems are people's dissatisfaction with themselves and their lives, but their manifestations vary widely, from some unknown contradictions and puzzles to more serious ones, which may be manifested as emotional, physiological, interpersonal, sexual and other functional influences, and even the most serious ones may be self-destructive behaviors such as failure to perform social functions normally, inability to go to work and school, and self-mutilation and suicide.