In life, there are always scenes where we meet a woman in the corner of the city, at least in appearance. I believe many men have encountered the problem of passing by with loss or bravely stepping forward. Going or not? What should I say when I sleep? Will she ignore me? When you think about these problems, you may have lost the opportunity to know and communicate with this MM. Go forward with a smile and you will find it easy to strike up a conversation.
I talked to mm many times, and the overall success rate was over 80%. Personally, chatting up is the best way to test a man's communicative ability and overall cultivation. A successful conversation contains wisdom and courage, which is an art. Let me talk about some superficial views and experiences.
People and articles
Harmony is a man-made factor in accosting people, which can be analyzed from three angles: the accosted person, the accosted object and the people around the accosted object.
Personal factors: first of all, you should look average. Of course, handsome guys have an advantage in this respect, but women are different from men. A man with an average appearance and a normal figure can also get their favor. A man who is too beautiful and ostentatious sometimes makes them feel disgusted. Looks are natural, but clothes can be changed. Try not to wear anything like Hahan's clothes or quaint clothes to strike up a conversation. Maybe you think you are cool, but women are inherently insecure, and no matter how cool and handsome they are, they can't resist their deep fear of strangers. The suit and tie are not very good either. If you're not wearing Armani, at least take off your tie.
An ordinary T-shirt and a pair of jeans are enough. The key is to be clean and tidy, so that girls can feel that you are a serious person first, so that you can get close to her and make her believe what you say.
Target object: it is the target mm, which is a person's skill to survive in society. Observe the object you want to shoot first, and see what type she is to suit the remedy to the case. Of course, it takes experience, but at least she can always tell if she is in a good mood now! If her eyes fall on you, you'd better smile (very important) and see if she will smile back; If your's eyes meet, it's best not to avoid or retreat. This is the best opportunity to turn passive into active, and see if she will bow her head shyly. If she can, then you can say that you have succeeded halfway.
People around the target: mm rarely acts alone, and in most cases she has companions around her. We should take a good look at this. It's silly to talk to a mm, and her boyfriend will come over soon.
When Mm has female companions, it is not good to have too many female companions. It bothers me to talk about them. You'd better forgive yourself if they ask you to invite all of them to dinner. After all, you only care about one of them. The situation of the two female companions is good, because at this time, the two female companions will go aside to chat by themselves. In the case of a female companion (which is the most common situation), it is the most difficult, because the relationship between them is relatively close. She cares about talking to you, which will cause dissatisfaction with her partner. It's embarrassing that you can't care about both of them at the same time. The target mm may also deliberately put on a high profile because of this. At this time, your language communication ability will be tested. If you find that there is no companion after careful observation, and it is a godsend, act quickly!
Case: Location: Wu Yueyuan, Xuhui District, Shanghai.
When I was a sophomore, many people went to the game room on the third floor of May Garden, which contained many MMs. I often go there to play kof when I don't have a girlfriend. Once I noticed a mm, wearing a denim skirt and half long hair, which looked good. After careful observation, she found that she had an inseparable female companion, and the relationship between them seemed to be good. That female companion wears glasses and takes good care of that mm's appearance. I didn't make a move until my date went out. Mm is playing bubble dragon, so I'll put in a coin to play with her. In less than 30 seconds, mm was ko by me. She looks a little overwhelmed and seems to want to leave. I helped her put in a coin and said to her with a casual smile, "Would you like to play with me again?" After a few words, I felt that she had been laughing, and asked her for a phone number without saying anything. My intuition tells me that there is a game. But just then, the woman came back. This is a disaster. The dinosaur with glasses first glared at me, and then took mm away. I missed it and failed, I think.
I stayed in the game room for a while. If I lost anything, I went downstairs to Xinya Dabao. After ordering something, I turned around and saw mm and the glasses girl sitting not far away and passed out. They also saw me, and I smiled politely. I chose a table far away from them for dinner. I ate faster, and they didn't eat well after eating. I wanted to go straight back, but I finally went to their desk and said hello: "Hello!" " "Facts have proved that my decision is correct. Just as I walked out of Xinya's big bag for about 20 steps, mm caught up with me and gave me a note with her phone number and mobile phone on it.
Shi Tian tablets
"Everything is ready, only the east wind." Just in time. Heaven is always changing. Which season of the year has the highest success rate? In what climate is the possibility of success high? When is the easiest time to strike up a conversation in a day?
The ancients said that women in spring are Qiu Si scholars, which makes sense. But it's different when talking to people. I think the success rate of hitting on people is the same all year round, whether it's windy or rainy. There is no problem that the weather affects success. The key is whether you can use it or not.
For myself, I hardly go out with an umbrella, especially at school. Rainy days are the best weather for me. Because it rains, you can borrow an umbrella from mm, so there are mm everywhere in classrooms, restaurants, libraries and normal universities. And the reason is grandiose, you can say that it will be sent to you in one minute. You can buy one from the supermarket under the mm umbrella, or you can get one from the dormitory. Umbrella is not your purpose, the key is that she knows you when she borrows it, and trusts you initially when she returns it. It is recommended to borrow it from the restaurant when eating, because there are more mm there, which is not as tiring as running the classroom. More importantly, mm seldom comes to dinner alone. You can borrow her umbrella and let her go with her date. I did this to get her phone number directly. It can also be used outside the school. Don't be timid because of the bad weather.
When is the best time of day to strike up a conversation? It is very inappropriate to strike up a conversation at night, unless it is in a specific place. Human nature is afraid of the dark, and with the improvement of adulthood, girls are more afraid of the dark than boys. Personally, I don't strike up a conversation at night. I don't forget the past and learn from the future. At night, it is difficult for mm to see your face clearly and feel the sincerity you want to express. It's really hard. This refers to some relatively empty places, such as roads, playgrounds and so on. Besides, if you can't see her clearly, you will inevitably mistake her for a beautiful woman. So for your safety and hers, try to avoid chatting in an open place at night.
Case: Location: Changqiao District, Xuhui District, Shanghai
I was a sophomore. At that time, when I rented a house in Changqiao Sancun, I often had to take 13 1 or 804 to go to class. Sitting at 13 1 at night is a sin, and it will be squeezed into a human shape. One night, I came out of school and noticed a mm while waiting for the bus at the station. She looks cute in a pink sweater and with broken hair. However, he looks younger. I guess he is a student in the middle school attached to Normal University or has come to Normal University to make up lessons. She went to 13 1 and I followed her. I've been staring at her. The bus was crowded and she protected herself well. There are more and more people on the bus. It's a tragedy that beautiful girls squeeze into buses or subways. . . . . . There are too many unfortunate people in the world. I have been waiting for the bus with few people, trying to squeeze in to help her block, and I also have the psychology of knowing and protecting her, but there are too many people on the bus.
At the station of Shanghai Middle School, she got off the bus like a fly, and I just got off at that station. I looked at my watch. It's almost 10. She walked in front, and I was wondering if I should go up and strike up a conversation. At that time, the environment was very bad, and the street lights around were very dark. It happened that I wore a rather quaint dark blue T-shirt, and more importantly, she just got off the bus. Reason told me I couldn't go up, but in the end I persisted in a daze. "Hello, classmate, can you meet me?" I said: She seemed startled and kept turning to look at me. Damn it, why is this street lamp so dim? I thought, keep talking to her. She replied to me, feeling very flustered. The light of the street lamp is getting weaker and weaker. There is no light at the corner of the intersection ahead, and she walks faster and faster. It's probably over, I think, slowing down, but still following her. After a walk, there is an entrance to a new village in front, and there is a very bright street lamp. Judging from her appearance, she is about to cross the road. I know this is the last chance. I stopped her: "classmate". She looked back. At that time, the street lamp flashed in my eyes: "Is there really no chance to know each other?" I stopped and she stopped. We looked at each other for about ten seconds, and she asked, "Can you speak Shanghainese?" I smiled and said nothing. I saw her smile, too. Watching her walk into the new village, I think it's really a failure this time.
Geographical articles
"Those who win the world have the right time, place and people." Geographical location is also a key factor in chatting up people, so we should put aside some special places here. Chatting up in special places is often directly related to sex, and it is likely to involve money, which is not considered here for the time being.
In most cases, a relatively closed place is better than an open place, and a place with people is better than a place without people. Classrooms, buses and restaurants are all quite good places to strike up a conversation; On the busy road, the playground was almost there. I don't know if it's because women are responsible for raising the next generation, so it's easier to feel safe in a relatively closed place, which is why most women want a warm small family more than men. But this is not absolute. No one is stupid enough to talk to a woman in front of 10 people in a closed elevator. All elevators have monitors. If only you and the girl you've always wanted to know are in the elevator to work, it's an opportunity given to you by God!
In most cases, you can't choose the place to strike up a conversation, because you can't predict the direction of MM, just wait for a better environment, and sometimes you will lose the opportunity. Therefore, the knowledge of geographical location is the most difficult for a chat-up person to master. It requires long-term practice and reasoning, and it needs to be applied in combination with the right time, the right place and the right person, so that it can be recruited without success.
Case: Location: Southern suburb of Shanghai Normal University
That was my junior year and I moved to New Village of Normal University. As far as hitting on mm is concerned, I have been through many battles. That night, a group of wolves and I taught reading and foraging in the southern suburbs. Southern religion is not big, just three floors. Boring, we always look at the classroom separately and look for mm, but I didn't. I was smoking in the window on the second floor, and a "wolf" friend came to report that there was a beautiful mm in the classroom of this building. We immediately rushed over to check and saw a mm in the first row of the window of a classroom, with long black hair like a waterfall and graceful figure, which is my favorite type. All the "wolf" friends looked at each other, and you started fighting for the prey before you got it. I am more awake: "Please, I haven't seen my face yet. What's the hurry?" "Must be good, even with this figure. . . . "(Ugly, omit the word 100)" Are you afraid? " A "wolf" friend used stimulation. "Don't look at your usual scenery. I don't think I can meet this type of woman. " Haha, shall I bet you? I promise to get a call from her tonight! "After verbally agreed on a big meal, a group of us filed in.
I went straight to the seat behind her and sat down. The "wolf" friends behind me were really not interesting enough and gave a strange laugh. I looked a little when I passed in front of her just now, and my face was not bad. I watched it carefully in the back for a while. It's really perfect hair and beautiful shoulders. I still keep my head down, quite feminine, but I feel very introverted. I think it's a bit tricky. Over time, mm will leave at any time, and it is not easy to succeed directly by chatting up or passing a note. Then what should I do? Just then, mm stood up, damn it! You can't leave. Good thing I didn't take anything. I went to the bathroom. I thought about it. After a while, there was a piece of paper under her book. After a while, mm came back. After sitting down, she saw this piece of paper and felt that she smiled quietly, then took out her mobile phone. I turned around and made a victory sign to all my wolf friends. Moments later, my mobile phone rang, and I received a short message from mm in front. My handwriting on the paper is: classmate, your hair is really beautiful! What is the secret of protecting the law? /kloc-0 135xxxxxxxx Wu.
Miscellaneous articles-use of tools
If the public wants to do a good job, they must first sharpen their tools. The tool here is just a tool. Just like picking up girls, there are many tools to use. Using these well will definitely get twice the result with half the effort. The most eye-catching thing is transportation. Don't talk to mm with a small battery. Bicycles are better than this. If you have a sports car, even the Geely Beauty Leopard is a weapon for those who want to compete. A friend and I drove a silver sports car around the campus of Normal University. This guy also removed the silencer and turned on the stereo at full blast. This kind of lethality has reached a considerable level, but mm's motivation is questionable.
Not everyone has a sports car, and not everyone can afford a puppy. Sometimes puppies are even more lethal than sports cars. I often hide a puppy in my backpack and visit Normal University. I sat downstairs in the camphor garden where milk tea was sold and took the puppy out. I saw mm people swarming in. Of course, waiting for the rabbit may not find your favorite MM. At this time, the dog will suffer a little, so give him a bath. . . . . . Looking for mm with a wet dog: "Do you have a hair dryer, classmate?"
It happened again.
In addition, there are many props to use. Due to space constraints, it is not too cumbersome. In fact, tools are only an auxiliary means, and the key is * * * own understanding of the weather, places and people.
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In this world, it can be said that there is no mm who can't strike up a conversation. The only question is whether she will let you chat up. Even if you are a handsome man; Even if you have money, you can't get mm's phone number without chatting up. Chatting up is to show your masculine charm in all directions. A successful chat-up will make you more confident and attractive. Well, don't equate flirting with lewdness. In countries like France and Italy, if a man doesn't know the skills of hitting on people, he will be laughed at. Ask yourself, you can talk to complete strangers online, why can't you accept the admiration of normal men in real life?
I wish every man can pass by himself and become friends or even partners with the mm who passed by in the future. Love is innocent, long live dialogue! . . .