In the study of early education, "Daddy hugs!" "Mom, don't go." "Do you want me?" I believe many parents can hear this sentence from their children. This is a direct manifestation of children's insecurity. So why on earth do our children feel insecure? Improper parents' speech is one of the main reasons for children's insecurity.
Performance 1: "Mom (Dad) doesn't want you!" Such words often appear when children are disobedient. Many parents like to use such words to intimidate unruly children. Although this is just an angry remark, it is easy to have a bad influence on many children with weak understanding. For many children whose thinking has just begun to develop, their understanding ability is very limited, so they can't tell the truth of their parents' words, so some children will believe it after hearing this sentence, and their reaction is to cry and make a scene, even if they don't cry, they will have a threatening expression. If the child has such a reaction, parents had better calm down at once, because this sentence has affected the child's sense of security.
Performance 2: "You were not born by us, but picked up." Many early education teachers believe that it is common for children to ask "Where am I from", but some parents often answer such jokes. Maybe parents don't think it is necessary to answer their children's questions seriously, but it is actually a kind of harm to children. Careful parents only need to observe carefully, and children often have unhappy expressions after listening to this answer.
Performance 3: I don't cry in kindergarten, but I always cry at home or when I go out with my parents. Some children go to kindergarten, where they cooperate with their teachers and don't cry much. It seems that they are still in love with kindergarten. But what puzzles parents is that children who behave well in kindergarten will become very anxious when they are with their parents, for fear that their parents will leave them, and sometimes they will cry and make a scene. In fact, this is a manifestation of children's insecurity. When children depend on someone, they feel insecure about that person. When children have adapted to the kindergarten lifestyle, they know that it is necessary to go to kindergarten and be separated from their mothers. This is an unchangeable fact. Therefore, most children will temporarily put down their unhappiness and devote themselves to activities, but it doesn't mean that they don't have negative emotions in their hearts, just that their parents can't see them. When children are with their parents, their negative emotions will be released, especially when parents are too sensitive and take care of their children too much.
Performance 4: "If you don't behave yourself again, I'll give you two slaps." Parents are always annoyed when their children are disobedient, so they often use this sentence to scare their children. Children are their own treasures. If you really want to fight, you will not be afraid of this sentence after a long time. Some children even begin to giggle at angry parents, which makes you laugh and cry.
Experts believe that educating children must be trustworthy. Don't break your word, or it will affect your parents' prestige after a long time. When your children treat your education as a joke, it means that your education for your children has failed. In addition, some children are afraid to say a word when they hear this sentence. Don't think that your education is successful. This actually means that children have a panic mentality, fearing that disobedience will cause their parents to resent themselves and make them feel insecure. How to find a child's sense of security? Maybe you will say, now my baby has the above performance.
So how do you find your baby's sense of security? To make the baby feel safe, the most important thing is to make the family atmosphere full of harmony and warmth. In such a family atmosphere, the baby will naturally not have panic. If parents often beat and scold their children or husband and wife often quarrel, it is very harmful to their physical and mental development. In addition, we are confident that we should give our children enough care and express our love for them. After a long time, the child's insecurity will gradually disappear. Also, more contact with the outside world, such as going outdoors and participating in some early education and parent-child activities, are all good ways to make your baby feel safe. In particular, children's sense of security cannot be cultivated overnight, so parents should not be too hasty.