There are two main reasons:
One is that no matter what method you use and what purpose you have, your negotiation will come to nothing.
If you try to convince San Xiao from the perspective of reasoning with San Xiao and awakening San Xiao's morality,
Blue suggests that you really don't have to waste your breath, mistress, but any moral heart that can be awakened by you will not be mistress.
Therefore, it is meaningless to talk with people with incorrect views, and negotiations will not have any effect.
If you threaten your third wife and ask her out, your third wife will understand your purpose by watching your threatening attitude.
Mistress can't back down because of your threat, or even tell the derailed man about your threat, adding fuel to the fire and creating contradictions between you.
Therefore, your negotiation will not only help to separate mistresses, but also be counterproductive and bring you trouble.
Secondly, when you talk to Xiao San, you will inevitably talk to Xiao San about the affair between the two people.
If San Xiao tells you about her affair with a cheating man, only her original self will be stimulated.
This will not only affect the mentality of the original match, but also affect the separation mode of the original match, leaving a permanent psychological shadow.
Even if the original husband and wife separated successfully, the original husband and wife would feel uncomfortable at the thought of what San Xiao and her husband said, and the relationship between husband and wife would be difficult to repair.
Therefore, the blue side does not recommend the original match to negotiate with the mistress, because there is no benefit and it is easy to cause trouble.
But sometimes it is not the original match that starts negotiations on its own initiative, and some arrogant mistresses will take the initiative to come to the door to negotiate with the original match.
For example, a fan sent a private message to Lan Fang two days ago. She told Doris that San Xiao asked her out to talk to her.
She doesn't know whether she should agree. She thinks that a woman who steals her husband may be tempted to scold a mistress.
But if she refuses to go, it may make San Xiao feel afraid of her, so she is afraid of going to the appointment.
She was confused and didn't know how to answer Xiao San, so she came to Lanfang, hoping I could give her some advice.
The original guard is actually very realistic. Whether to go or not, it seems that the original match has shortcomings.
But in this case, I suggest going with the original, because making a fool of yourself in front of mistress is more terrible than unsuccessful negotiation.
Because San Xiao felt that the original match was afraid of himself, he knew that the original match was inferior to himself in some aspects. If he is smart, he can analyze the weakness of the original match.
Then, according to the weakness of the original match, I will create trouble for the original match and seek opportunities for the upper position, so I suggest that the original match participate in this negotiation.
Of course, going is not going directly, but going when you are ready. Since we are going to negotiate, we must take the initiative in the negotiations.
First of all, before you go to negotiate with Xiao San, you need to know all kinds of situations of Xiao San. The more you know, the better for you.
Blue has handled similar cases before, and San Xiao has negotiated with the original match. I asked the original match to prepare for a few days to investigate San Xiao.
Check everything about San Xiao from small to large, and know everything that San Xiao can say.
Then it is suggested that the original match inadvertently revealed his knowledge of San Xiao in the process of talking with San Xiao, which may shock San Xiao.
Think of an original match that knows the third child like the back of his hand. Sitting in front of the third child will make the third child feel naked. Can the third child stand it?
Secondly, before going to the negotiation, the blue gang had done psychological counseling and related psychological construction.
When the hostess talks to the original match, she will definitely say that she and the derailed man are true love and will stimulate the original match with the sweetness of two people.
What the original match should do is to be calm, so that the third party can't see the attitude of the original match and make preparations in advance to prevent the third party from taking advantage of the loopholes in the negotiation process.
In addition, before the negotiation, we need to consider several schemes and some possible situations in order to occupy a dominant position in the negotiation.
Only by making full preparations can we occupy an advantageous position in the negotiations, further discover the weaknesses and key points of the other party in the negotiations, and thus find countermeasures.
Don't listen to the story of her and your husband, especially the details about sex and emotional comfort.
Because women are very sensitive, this detail will make you angry and lead to confusion.
Instead, we should master the rhythm of negotiation and prepare the topics to be negotiated in advance.
And prepare in advance how to guide the third wife to talk to you instead of listening to the third wife.
Last but not least, no matter where you speak, remember to record what your purpose is.
Many junior girls negotiate with the original match just to find opportunities to anger the original match. It's best to let the original match do it himself.
Then go and add fuel to the fire of the derailed man, causing the contradiction between the derailed man and the original match.
Therefore, it is necessary to meet San Xiao alone. On the one hand, this is to prevent San Xiao from distorting the facts.
On the other hand, it is also evidence of an extramarital affair between an derailed man and Xiao San, even when Xiao San later separated.
You can expose the threat to mistresses through the recording of these mistresses admitting that they are mistresses.
In another case, the original match can consider negotiating with Xiaosan, that is, the derailed man and the original match reach an agreement.
The derailed man took the initiative to go home and separated from the third party, but the mistress kept pestering him.
At this time, the original match needs to be rescued, so the original match may need to negotiate with Xiaosan.
But the original match must remember that the basis of the negotiation is that you have reached an agreement with the derailed man, and this negotiation is that the derailed man asks you for help.
At this time, you can negotiate with Xiao San, and it is best to bring the derailed man and all three parties.
On the one hand, it is to see the true attitude of the cheating man and whether he really wants to go back to his family and separate from San Xiao.
On the other hand, it is also an opportunity for husband and wife to deal with problems and enhance their feelings.
Moreover, it can hit Xiao San, let Xiao San know the situation clearly, and help to separate Xiao San to some extent.
Of course, such negotiations, the above preparations, and the original match also need to be done.
Only in this way can we ensure the effectiveness of your negotiation and ensure that you will not have the opposite effect because of the negotiation and play a real separation effect.
Finally, if you have an affair and need help, you can just tell the blue side about your situation.
Blue has a lot of consultations every day, and may not be able to reply in time. I hope you will forgive me, but Blue Party will try its best to help all fans in need.
I am Lan Fang, an emotional tutor who tells the truth and does practical things.