1, I feel that everything the other party does is taken for granted.
Xiao Chen is very kind to his girlfriend Xiao Nan, and it is the kind that he likes in his heart.
We have been together for more than a year, but the two of them are either stuck in the envious eyes of everyone, and the gifts on holidays are of course easy. Xiao Chen will continue to try his best to surprise Xiao Nan, whether it is ninety-nine roses or clothes and shoes that Xiao Nan has long admired, he will try his best to realize her wish.
Once before, they went out for a trip together, and Xiao Nan's new shoes were a little worn. Xiao Chen didn't say anything, and walked behind her back 10 km. Until I got home, Xiao Nan's feet were still fine, but Xiao Chen's heels were covered with two big blood bags. Originally, Xiao Chen thought that as long as Xiao Nan devoted herself seriously, she would be able to appreciate her sincerity. What he didn't expect was that she became more and more like a spoiled child, not only turned a deaf ear to his efforts, but also felt from her heart that this was what he needed to do.
In the case of poor performance appraisal, Xiao Nan severely scolded him for being petty and said that he didn't love her as much as before, which made Xiao Chen helpless and tired.
At the beginning of the relationship, everyone is easily moved by each other's seriousness, but after being together for a long time, they always feel that each other needs everything.
In fact, it is true that no one is born bad to you. If someone cares for you without asking for anything in return, please cherish what you have, ask for it calmly, spend it calmly, and even the best feelings will collapse.
2. endless quarrels
The collapse of feelings, although the quarrel in love is undoubtedly a way of communication, endless quarrels will not only damage feelings, but also make people feel physically and mentally exhausted.
Moreover, there are some feelings that break up when you quarrel; Some people get cold when they quarrel.
Many times, two people quarrel not because of any major events or principles, but because of all kinds of trivial things. Just because no one is willing to give in, they began an endless quarrel:
"Why don't you make a plan in advance? Are you ready now? "
"You don't have to throw the garbage outside. Why can't even do this trivial thing well? "
"Don't smoke in the house, why don't you listen?"
I don't know when it started, but the tenderness gradually faded away, leaving only endless complaints and ridicule. The years when two people are together will no longer be the guarantee of warm feelings, but the arena where they vent their anger and dissatisfaction unscrupulously, arguing endlessly until they see each other being black and blue and brutal.
That kind of feeling, there is no need for the outside world to be eager to destroy it. When decorating the partition, it is likely to split on its own.
3, no communication, only cold violence.
Don't be cold and violent to those who are kind to yourself, because no one knows that cold and hot heart, which has gone through several tests of cold and hot.
Every time there is cold violence, it is the saddest situation for Xiaoman. She recalled the dribs and drabs of the two together over and over again, and the more she thought about it, the more sad she became. On the other hand, it seems that he doesn't care about anything. He eats when he should, drinks when he should, and regularly finds some friends to hang out and drink. It seems that Xiaoman is just an insignificant existence in his life. What is a moment of emotional collapse, emotional change of heart or indifference? Sometimes, Xiaoman expects him to have a chat with himself, even if it is a quarrel, it is better than the heartbreaking indifference, the ravages and destruction of eating people without spitting bones, which makes people sad and cares about themselves like solid ridicule.
Cold violence is like killing each other's hearts with a blunt knife. Although it won't kill each other's hearts, it has always been unbearable. Not only will the feelings of two people come to the end of their tether casually, but they will also make people collapse and rest.
4. Before any affair continues.
The collapse of feelings, there is a good friend, almost every time I go out to party, I will complain to people around me that I know my mistakes and don't change:
* * * girlfriend for three months, suddenly fell in love with someone else;
The girl who had been together for more than half a year left in despair without even a chance to defend herself;
There is even a girlfriend who has been together for a year and suddenly changed her mind on the eve of the agreement with her parents.
A good friend asked with a sad face: was it really that I was born single?
I don't know whether Wang is single or not. I only know that in his mobile phone, there are not only the communication methods of his ex-girlfriend and his ex-girlfriend, but also many photos taken when they were together. He euphemistically said that he wanted to leave a souvenir, but he repeatedly challenged the moral bottom line of his working girlfriend.
It used to be rental and personalization, but now it has progressed to dating and movies. Sometimes, it helps this person to move and take that person to the hospital clinic. When a girlfriend asks, she says that she is just kind and helpful, and she can't see the distress of others. She also "educates" her current girlfriend with justice. "You don't expect your boyfriend to be a cold-blooded person, do you?"
A word choked the other person speechless.
Seeing her boyfriend running around one ex-boyfriend after another in the name of helping others, maybe she would have collapsed a thousand times.
The unexpected separation you feel, in fact, she has thought about it many times.
What should I do if the moment of collapse in love makes people very upset? In fact, there are many things that make people collapse in love, but they can also be solved by two people communicating with each other. The way to get along with love is not learned in a day or two, but it takes time and two people to work together.