This is a very important point. If we don't find out the reasons for the breakdown of marriage, it is basically impossible to remarry with our partners, because most people are afraid of repeating the same mistakes, so they won't and dare not gamble on that poor result. Therefore, if you want to remarry your ex, the first step is to find out what caused the marriage to break up.
After you find the reason, you need to write it down and always remember the lesson to avoid the same situation in the future. At the same time, you need to freeze your feelings first and reduce your need for your predecessor, because the higher the need, the more difficult it is to succeed.
Second, we should learn to put ourselves in others' shoes.
In fact, in marriage, the most taboo is to treat each other as their own private goods and not give each other any private space.
I'm sure many people will say this, why obviously they have paid so much for this family, washing and cooking, filial piety to in-laws and taking care of children, why the other party still can't understand and tolerate themselves more, and why they always have only themselves in their hearts.
He must also face great pressure in his work and life. In fact, if he wants to run a marriage, he really needs to put himself in the other's shoes.
Third, improve personal dress and enhance charm.
The wife keeps repeating housework activities such as mopping the floor, washing dishes and cleaning furniture for her family, and has no time to dress up. Facing her husband is a typical housewife image, not a beautiful wife. Faced with a long time, I feel bored, and it is easy for a mistress to intervene in my marriage life, which is the factor that leads to derailment. In marriage, in order to keep yourself attractive to your husband, you need to spend time dressing up to let him know that his wife is the most beautiful in the world, and taking you to public places for entertainment can also make him face. Your charm makes the beauty of mistress suddenly dim, and her husband's heart can easily come back to you.
Fourth, add freshness to married life.
In order to make the marriage happy for a long time, we should not only know how to respect and understand each other, but also know how to inject fresh blood into the marriage, such as how to create more common interests in life, cultivate more common topics for * * * couples, or make * * * common.
In ordinary life, occasionally creating a little romance and surprise, such as putting together puzzles or suddenly giving each other some small gifts, can make marriage life full of passion at all times.
In the face of marriage crisis, the most important thing you should do to save your marriage is to take the right way to save it according to your own situation, to ensure the relative stability of your saved feelings to the greatest extent, and then to manage this marriage together and spend the rest of your life together.
Fifth, learn from your opponents moderately.
Sometimes I have to collect information about Xiaosan, and I want to know what makes Xiaosan fall in love with this man and what's wrong with herself. Know yourself and know yourself, and you will win every battle. You have to know your opponent's strengths and decide your own response.
The best and most effective way to deal with it is to study. Although it is unbearable to study like a mistress who seduces her husband, it is a targeted and intelligent self-reflection for feelings.