Sister Lizi can't let go of the old love, either the new love is not good enough or the time has not come. Look at your situation, mainly because you haven't met a better girl than her for more than four years, and the complex of the unfinished event in the past has been lingering in your heart. If you want her to go, you should try to get in touch with her and ask her to give you an answer that she insisted on breaking up in the past. Knowing this answer, you can let go of half of this relationship.
I've been talking to my boyfriend for five months. We introduced him. He is an excellent and critical person. In the first two months, we had a very good relationship. He offered to let me go to his house and said that he would marry me. We often talk heart to heart, and we talk about everything. We were going to get married. We went to sleep in the third month. I am not a virgin. I felt inferior and didn't tell her. This is his first time. Half a month later, he asked me, this is my first time. He didn't believe me, so we quarreled. This lie can't be concealed, and he is also very sensitive. I told him it wasn't the first time for me. I talked to a boyfriend for more than a year. He suspected that I was pregnant and had a baby. I didn't. Finally, he accepted me. In fact, my boyfriend has a virgin complex but loves me very much, so he accepted the fact. But we quarreled for a few days, and my boyfriend and I went out to talk about boyfriends because we were afraid of losing our boyfriends (boyfriends are my classmates' simple ones). We also drifted for a day and had a meal alone. At first, we didn't tell him that we were going with our male friends, but we told him that we were going with a girl. Finally, he found out that he couldn't accept me going with my male friend. The point is that we have done nothing but simply eat and drift. My boyfriend is angry and wants to break up with me. At that time, I found that he was deeply in love with me. He hit himself in the face and told the mirror that he was really stupid. He really paid a lot for you, and you played with him again and again. I was really distressed at that time. I regret it. I knew it was wrong to do that, which made him misunderstand. He chose to forgive me for the last time, but does he still trust me as he did at the beginning? He said he wanted me to help him find our trust and feelings. Now I'm slowly discovering it. In September, he said 10 was engaged on National Day, but his father was busy on National Day, and so on. But he took me to his house and met my parents, but he didn't give me a red envelope when we first met. I told my boyfriend several times. My boyfriend said that my family recognized me and told me not to think too much. Finally, his mother called me to explain it in detail, saying that I was in a hurry for the first time and didn't prepare a red envelope. She said she invited me to her house for dinner on Saturday and prepared me a red envelope. I definitely can't go. I felt that the red envelope was coming, but I didn't offer it to me. I said I was busy. On the phone, his mother said that my father was very busy on National Day, and I had to wait for the Chinese New Year one month in advance to get engaged, but I still thought my boyfriend was playing me. We talked about the engagement the other day, and he told the truth. I told a white lie because I was afraid to think too much and said I was engaged on National Day. Now he doesn't want to get married so early. He wants to know how we feel before getting married. He was afraid of losing me. He asked me to say anytime. The key is that this kind of thing should be the initiative of boys! My parents don't know the truth. Because of their engagement on National Day, they don't approve of their boyfriends. After a while, they will give me advice. My father also said that I should make up my own mind. Sister Lizi, please help me analyze it. I am really confused now. I really care about him. He is the man I want. We are all 26 years old and don't want to delay any longer. Solve.
If your boyfriend has been cheating on you about not having sex with his ex, he goes out for dinner with his female friend and tells you that he has gone with his male friend. I have found him cheating and hiding you many times. Can you forgive him every time and marry him happily? You hurt your boyfriend many times, causing him to distrust you, and you accuse him of not marrying you on his own initiative? Can't it be too double standard?
He is twelve years older than me. At that time, my family didn't agree, so I married into his family regardless of opposition (he scolded me once before marriage). At that time, all the money for marriage was borrowed, and there were constant quarrels after marriage (his neighbors all said that he scolded his parents). 1978 After we got married, he worked for less than a year. Later, he learned to play mahjong and went out to play mahjong at midnight. When we quarrel, he will also scold. I added him with my other micro signal, and he agreed to invite me to dinner. I felt very wronged and cheated. Now he knows he wants to divorce me and won't let me take care of his two children. I have been raising and paying tuition for them since I was born. Now he knows that he wants to divorce me. What should I do? It doesn't matter if I divorce him. I want two children. He said he was afraid to learn from me and not give birth to my children. I'm afraid my children will hate me, too. I think I've abandoned them, Sister Chestnut. What should I do?
Sister Lizi commented that if you want custody of your children, you can go to court to sue. Even if you cheat first, you can get custody of a child according to the law. If your husband has no proper financial resources, it is possible that both children will be awarded to you. Whether you can take one child or two children, you should live a good life after divorce. In the future, it will be difficult for children to understand you when they grow up.
Consultation A girl is beautiful, gentle, kind and loves me, but she has children. B girl is beautiful, simple, educated and unmarried, but she is not good at caring for people. Which one should I choose as my wife? It's the first time to ask questions, not very good. First of all, I am divorced, childless, with good economic conditions and average appearance. The advantages and disadvantages of the two girls are basically in the topic. They are two girls who get along at different times.
A girl has been together for more than half a year, and we have known each other for many years before. She is very, very kind to me, loves me very much, and is almost obedient. But there are twin sons, one is with her ex-husband, and the other will take care of her grandmother in the future, but she has no emotional connection with her ex-husband. Beautiful and feminine, very kind, and I have many languages, and I will cook well. I know my special hobbies very well and cooperate well. Never let me spend money except for eating on weekdays.
Girl b has been together for a month, master of medicine. She is the most beautiful doctor sister I have ever seen. She is handsome, simple and simple-minded. I am very busy at work on weekdays, so I don't have enough time and consciousness to care about me. Sometimes I am depressed, but I like me very much and want to spend my life together. Unmarried and childless, she has had three love histories. * * * The same topic is less, because I am very free and love playing games, while she likes reading and studying. Sexual fit is very general, conservative, ignorant of their special hobbies, dare not say. Besides, I like shopping and spend a lot of money.
Simply speaking of my preferences, I definitely prefer girl A, who knows me too well and loves me deeply. Maybe I won't meet another girl in my life, but my parents and friends all suggested that I choose girl B, who has a bright future but much less fun in life …
Caught in a great tangle, both girls are excellent, and I can only have one choice. I will use it all my life, so I am afraid of regret. I hope to get some advice. Thank you!
Sister Lizi commented that you were divorced once and had many emotional experiences. You know, it is not easy to concentrate a good-looking face and an interesting soul on one person. From the emotional point of view, from the perspective of your experience, from the perspective of your life, from the perspective of your good economic foundation, you should choose a woman. Although girl B is handsome, simple and has a bright future, I am afraid that after you marry her, you will cheat frequently because of boring life.
I am a Hui nationality. He is Han nationality. He has been in love for almost three years, and both parents disagree. When my parents objected, I was selfish and willful and kept forcing them to compromise. But more and more I find that my boyfriend is not determined enough. He is a good boy in front of his parents. For example, every time he answered the phone in front of me, he never said he was with me, and he never mentioned me. For example, his mother often introduces his girlfriend to arrange blind dates, just like without me. Although he won't meet or add WeChat, every time my parents ask me, I say I don't want to get married yet, and I dare not tell them that my family simply ignores me. I seldom talk to him about these things at ordinary times, so I don't want to put pressure on him. I always feel that one day his family will agree that we really love each other. I can't live without him, but I really can't stand it recently. I want to pay my grievances for my pain. I never thought about breaking up before. Now I have this idea every day. What should I do?
Many girls think love is bigger than the sky. When parents object to their relationship with their boyfriends, they would rather turn against their parents than give up their boyfriends. Most men pay more attention to their parents' opinions. In the same situation, most men will resist for a while and then give up. Three years later, the man's parents still refuse to agree with you. Even if you marry into their family, you will be bullied by Nong Sang. What's more, your boyfriend doesn't dare to speak for you at all.
What is the degree of communication between married men and unmarried women? For a while, I noticed something was wrong with my husband, so I turned on his mobile phone. The day before the Mid-Autumn Festival, he got off work on Thursday, and he said he had social parties. At 8 o'clock in the evening, I called him, and he said to eat in a place. And the place I saw, he was in B, didn't come back until late at night. When he came back, I asked him again, but he still said he was in one place. I didn't say anything, because it proved nothing.
The next day is the Mid-Autumn Festival. We went out with our children and passed a newly opened shop. I said try this another day, and he said tomorrow at noon. At noon on the third day, he got up and told me that someone had invited him to dinner. He sent us to the store where we wanted to eat yesterday, and then left. I said forget it. He may be afraid that I will be unhappy. He said ok, then I'll go after eating. We ate a little because the children didn't have time to go to class. After he finished eating, he left before the children finished eating.
Then in the afternoon, a friend of mine said that he saw my husband in B, and I looked at the location. He went to B, where B is Area A.. He stopped at a place in B, then went to a shopping center and stayed there for 8 hours. When I came back at night, I asked him where he had gone. He said that A and XX invited him to play ball, and then some friends came over for dinner. I said a friend saw you. In B, he said it wasn't him. I didn't confront him head-on at this time. He fell asleep that night. I took out his cell phone and looked at it. My husband's habit is to delete WeChat very cleanly, so I didn't see anything on WeChat. I opened Alipay and saw his consumption records in supermarkets and barbecue shops at home (less than 200 yuan). I saw that there was a phone number in the call record that was not saved, but the call was very frequent. There is more than one phone call every day, and most of the time it is midnight. I checked this phone number with my own WeChat, and found it was a female colleague C before him. And on this day, they called just after they separated, and called after midnight 1. Then I went crazy. I woke him up and asked him what his relationship was with C. He said it didn't matter. I asked him where he was yesterday, but he still said that he was in A. I said how he had a consumption record in B, but he still said that he didn't go. I said call the police, someone stole your Alipay. He still said that he had nothing to do with C, but a normal relationship. He said that he went to B and spent eight hours surfing the Internet with C. I wonder how many friends would define this as normal communication now. These days, I found that they also watched several movies together and went swimming alone!
Sister Lizi commented that your husband and unmarried girl spent eight hours in the mall, including spending and eating, and only spent a total of 200 yuan. It can be seen that if he is not poor, he will be very stingy. Any woman who follows him will at most watch a movie, eat a cheap meal and buy a few stalls. If there is no real evidence, how can you define your husband as an abnormal relationship between men and women? He will never admit it anyway!
After consulting my current boyfriend for a few days, he asked me to throw away what my ex-boyfriend gave me. I didn't want to. Is it my fault? (The necklace is not expensive)
Sister Lizi commented that you and your boyfriend have only been in love for a few days. Just tell him that the necklace you are wearing is a gift from your ex. Why not reflect on how your mouth is so fast? Why do you talk without thinking? For your present job, you keep what your predecessor gave you, but it's just unfinished business. You would rather he was angry than lose his ex's necklace, which is disrespectful to his feelings. You see: if you speak quickly, your feelings will be hurt. You can only choose between losing your necklace and losing your boyfriend now.