This is a big problem. In many sibling relationships, the woman is more than 5 years older than the man, and some even exceed 10 years old.
Then the question is, if the woman is 35 years old and the man is 30 years old when they meet, the birth cost of the two is completely different.
Men are in their prime at the age of 30, and some men can give birth at the age of 50 or even 60. However, women, after the age of 35, are increasingly at risk of childbirth, and some women even have no chance to have children.
Some people may say that love doesn't have to have children.
Yes, this does exist, but the vast majority of people get married and have children, and have a sense of security.
Many couples don't want children when they are young. After the childbearing age, they began to seek medical advice everywhere to have children, and some couples broke up because they didn't want children.
Once, I had a female colleague. Originally, the couple were iron lovers and had a good relationship. As a result, when the man was 36, the woman began to want children at the age of 34. The man waited for three years, but the woman was not pregnant and divorced.
After the divorce, the man immediately married a younger woman and had children the next year.
Therefore, if the two meet too late, the woman should consider the pressure of childbirth. It is better to think about some things early than to accept them passively at last. After all, people cannot be rejuvenated. After all, there are some practical factors to take into account.
The second reason, psychological risk, is that the psychological maturity of men and women is too different.
Some scholars have verified that the psychological age of men and women is not equal, and the woman is relatively precocious. In other words, at the age of 20, the woman's problems may be the problems she will face at the age of 25.
Then why do so many women care about whether they have a house, while the man is still naive at the age of 20, and sometimes he doesn't consider some practical problems at all.
Then, when sibling love happens, for example, the man is 25 years old and the woman is 30 years old, there is not much problem in giving birth at this time, but the problem is that the man's psychological age is still 20 years old, or at most 25 years old, while the woman's psychological age is already 35 years old or even 40 years old.
In this way, the two are bound to conflict on many issues in life. After a long time, they will at least quarrel and break up at most.
Some people will say that some brothers and sisters are very happy, and they do.
But after careful analysis, you will know that in a happy sister-in-law relationship, the woman is very tolerant of the man, and many problems that women of the same age can't stand will be tolerated by the sister in the sister-in-law relationship.
Some sisters can't stand it and have to break up. Some sisters don't want to lose this relationship, so they can only stick to it.
The third reason is that there are too many transitional temptations in middle age, which leads to breakup.
Another problem of sister-in-law's love is the combination of the above two. Long-term physiological and psychological differences will accumulate many disappointments in life.
These disappointments will erupt in middle age. If they happen to meet a congenial peer or young object at this time, they are likely to change their minds.
Not only my brother but also my sister will change her mind here.
Some sisters like their younger brothers, but when they are mature, they gradually dislike them. These sisters prove their charm by constantly looking for new brothers.
Therefore, some brothers and sisters are in love, and my sister changed her mind first.
But in most cases, my brother met a better girl, so he began to dislike his older sister and changed his mind.
To sum up, there are some risks in sibling love, and the biggest risk is physiological risk.
Because even if you are not brother and sister, you will encounter the second and third emotional problems, and the first one is the most critical and irreversible reason.
Therefore, many girls' attitude towards sibling love is that they just try and have no hope. It's not that they are not confident, but that they know they can't go against the laws of nature.
As a woman, who doesn't want life to be full of love and care, who doesn't want to be tolerated and considerate by her lover everywhere, and who doesn't want to be a beloved princess?
But once you choose a sister-in-law relationship, nine times out of ten, you will be a big momma, so this is also the reason why girls are unwilling to try.