However, your husband's personality is different from yours. How can you impose your wishes on him?
As you said before, as long as you are kind and responsible. He has everything you asked for before.
So it's not his fault. You are wrong.
If you want to plan ahead, you can do it yourself. There's no need to drag him into this.
He is your husband, not your son, and will not grow up according to your model.
Maybe you haven't had a house since you got married. So I hope he's motivated, right? Many girls have simple ideas before they get married. After they get married, they will have some realistic ideas in the face of rice, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar tea.
I can understand you, too
My husband is also a self-motivated person, and we have not bought a house. He goes to work all day, laughing and living happily. To tell the truth, I envy him for always being so happy and satisfied. As for me, I must study and work hard for the future. He also said that I was an aggressive person (just because I felt insecure since I was a child). This match is just right.
My husband and I have a good relationship. I would never ask him to suddenly be self-motivated and try to climb up. Because I know that's impossible.
Why do you want to do the impossible?
There is almost no good result.