There are several kinds of ideal psychological counselors: first, like a mirror, it can truthfully reflect the psychological problems and needs of visitors. Second, * * * emotional visitors, in addition to relying on consulting theory and skills, more importantly, use their lives to influence their lives, because consulting work is the subconscious communication between consultants and visitors. Without deep touch and strong vitality, visitors will not be fundamentally touched and aroused. Third, be open-minded. In the consulting room, no matter what happens (except in special circumstances), the consultant should be accompanied by acceptance, permission and firmness. Fourth, the most important thing is to set and reach an agreement between the two sides. Only the set consultation work is the safest, and no one can break through it. In a word, a rich, firm and enthusiastic consultant is the most ideal.
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Psychological counselors, like other majors, need to master a lot of knowledge and skills to deal with complex interpersonal relationships. You need to explore your inner world at the same time. We need to take two paths: one is to travel abroad to a world that needs professional skills to help others help themselves; The other journey is inward, into our own spiritual maze. The deeper you know yourself, the higher your ability to help the parties. In other words, counselors should first "sort out" their mental health.
At the same time, psychotherapy is a humanistic and imperfect art, which is not as magical as some film and television works. Psychological counselors are also "mortals", and they also have troubles and pains. Therefore, psychological counselors need to understand their own culture, personality, temperament types, get along well with themselves, and shake hands with things around them. Secondly, psychological counseling faces negative emotions, so it needs strong anti-empathy ability. To put it simply, you can't trigger your own subjective emotions or even lose your mind when you touch the once unpleasant emotions just because some situations and experiences of the help seekers are similar to your own experiences. However, psychological counselors need empathy. Only in this way can we understand the situation and feelings of those who ask for help and help them solve their problems better. From this perspective, to be a qualified psychological counselor requires a strong heart.
Usually everyone looks at the world from his own perspective in life and tries to prove himself right with his subconscious assumptions. The beginning of life is self-centered, and no one thinks his perspective is biased. As psychological counselors, we will understand the influence of unconscious memory and emotional guidance on us. This is not a character defect, but a biological setting that we have to accept. Our temperament types and personal experiences create certain thinking and emotional patterns, which guide our unconscious behavior. Although we are all in a self-centered state at the beginning of our lives, we can gain a more comprehensive vision through experience and education. From this perspective, psychological counselors need to remain objective and rational.
Personally, the professional goal of psychological counselors should be to understand that everyone's inner growth and transformation will not stop, and they will have different feelings at different stages of life. Accept and face all your past. While constantly improving their professional quality, they should use their healthy psychology, peaceful and inclusive mentality to help those who ask for help, so as to get rid of the psychological and emotional constraints and shape a healthy psychology and perfect personality.
Actively study, take the initiative to change, and be willing to recognize and reflect as an ordinary member of living habits.
Counselors are also human beings with secular desires, troubles and desires. Being kind to yourself is the best way!
Let me start with two of my classmates. Both the university and the graduate students are psychology majors, and both of them have worked part-time in psychological counseling institutions for several years. It should be said that their professional ability is no problem. However, the two of them gave me a completely different feeling. Girl A is aggressive and has only her own eyes in her heart. When chatting at ordinary times, she will pop up some professional words from time to time or draw conclusions. For example, I once chatted that I had four brothers and sisters. I am the second child, and she will take over immediately. No wonder you have this personality. The second child is generally ignored. She used Adler's theory, and I felt very uncomfortable at that time. After all, I am not consulting her, even if I am consulting, I can't jump to such arbitrary conclusions. Listen again, as long as everyone chats together, she has always been the one who dominates the rhythm. When she talks endlessly, others will always interrupt. Comparatively speaking, girl B is gentle, slow in talking and doing things, and good at chatting. She always plays the role of a listener more often, and the occasional interruption will make people feel that they are a spring breeze and will not easily draw conclusions from others. Even if she has a conclusion in her heart, she will slowly guide the other person to discover it herself. Now, classmate A is still working part-time, but classmate B has become the head of that consulting organization. By the way, I forgot to mention that they all belong to traditional psychological counseling, mainly one-on-one In fact, A's personality is more suitable for training or giving lectures to employees of enterprises that don't need much listening and affection.
This is the psychological counselor in my eyes. It's not mysterious at all. They are all ordinary people, and the circle of friends is also self-made. Some people canvass for their husbands and children and go out to play on weekends. The smell of fireworks is very strong. Ok:)
What kind of person is your psychological counselor?
In the eyes of many people, psychological counselors are a kind of mysterious people. They know a lot, know everything, are good at trying to figure out people's psychology, know what people are thinking, and what's more frightening is that they can see other people's hearts and thoughts. In fact, psychological counselors are ordinary people, just like drivers, chefs, technicians, accountants and teachers, but they also have their own advantages. Just like a master who repairs electrical appliances, his own problems and family problems can be helped or solved in time.
Everyone has a different understanding of psychological counselors. Psychological counselor is a profession that uses psychological theory and technology to help people (visitors) with psychological confusion, explain and analyze the causes of pain, and give strategies and methods to get rid of pain, which can restore normal work and study life, optimize personality and enhance self-confidence. If the psychological counselor does a good job, it will help many people get rid of pain, restore a calm and stable life, and let many families get out of despair, so psychological counseling can also be said to be a very noble job.
Not so good! It can be said that he is a "giant" in theory, a "dwarf" in action, and even a little idealistic.
First, counselors are people, followed by professionals. Then, it must be a natural person and a social person. In the consulting room, he is a consultant. When he walked out of the clinic, he was just like you. Maybe he was a hooligan. ...
Don't tell the truth, treat each other as friends.