Now I know that I changed the mode and the search is so complicated that it is difficult to find the question I asked. So, I just saw your post today and just read the answers of the above two people. Although they posted a lot of words, I believe you can't understand a word. Why?
First, answer irrelevant questions;
Second, it's annoying to talk too much. I don't support respondents to adopt this model;
Third, you are a person who likes thinking very much. Your analysis above is completely correct, but you often don't know what you should do.
Your problem is not obsessive-compulsive disorder. To say the least, it is obsessive-compulsive disorder, which is basically shared by everyone. Therefore, it is meaningless to label yourself.
Your second natural cycle is because you are not confident, and you are afraid that you have made a mistake or made a wrong decision and wasted your life. Then your life is flawed, which is the behavior of post-evaluation, regret and even self-blame caused by your perfect complex.
Your third paragraph is still talking about this matter, because your over-imagination leads to a series of ambivalence caused by your inner entanglement.
The next few paragraphs are naturally your entanglement. Because you are so perfect, you want to find the best and perfect way to solve the problem. However, you find that everything and even people are not perfect, and you want to have an independent self, which is even more troublesome. You will find that you don't know what to do now. If you struggle for a long time, you will find that in the end, you will even doubt what you want.
Here, I want to give you some suggestions:
First, you must understand that all your problems lie in being too strong, too perfect and too fond of thinking. What you need to do is: do more and think less, and spend all your thinking time on your behavior, because only by doing can you get results, only by doing can you know right and wrong, and only by doing can you get life experiences and experiences.
Put yourself in the other's shoes: You assume that this problem belongs to your friend, and then you help this friend solve this problem. With your cleverness, I believe you will find a very suitable way to solve this problem.
Third, accept your own shortcomings, allow yourself to do wrong things and say wrong things, allow yourself to have imperfections and flaws, and look at your progress with appreciation.
Blessing ~!
Peng, Shanghai Psychological Counseling Center, at 22: 03 p.m. on New Year's Day.