There are three situations after a child is beaten. Some parents will immediately take their children or rally social forces to settle accounts with those bad children and teach them a lesson.
Some parents value peace and think it is normal for children to fight with each other. As long as nothing happens, they don't take contraceptive measures to avoid hurting their feelings. They just told their children to stay away from those bad children in the future.
Some parents simply classify school violence as a child's fight and lose, regardless of the child's mood. Instead, he shouted at the child, "If you fight, you lose." (Usually such parents are rare)
This is actually parents' ignorance of the nature of school violence. Let's look at some examples of school violence:
Six senior three girls in Wuqi Middle School in Yan 'an threatened five girls in school with knives to undress and collectively indecency.
A junior two girl in Kaiping, Guangdong Province was gang-raped by four underage boys in Seven Sisters for offending Seven Sisters, and they became sworn brothers on campus. She was beaten and abused at will, and the abuse process was recorded and uploaded to the Internet for fun.
Campus violence is a kind of malicious injury, which is serious and involves crime. Therefore, when a child asks for help from his family, it must be determined whether the child has been bullied for a long time or just a small friction. At the same time, teach children the following three points.
First, it is not advisable to be weak blindly and learn to fight back.
If a child is attacked by others, it is necessary to take appropriate preventive measures. If the child does not have the strength to fight back, it is equivalent to telling others that he can be bullied at no cost and easily attacked again.
But children should also be taught that fearless resistance will only bring more violence in the case of disparity in strength. Once you are beaten, you should protect important parts of your body, compromise appropriately, leave the scene safely and go home to ask your parents for help.
Furthermore, it is not advisable for parents to blindly teach their children to be patient. After all, even if you are not in trouble, things will get in your way. If parents gather social workers to teach those children a lesson, they will also let them have nothing to hide.
Children will think they are being bullied and their parents will help them. On the contrary, it will make children become arrogant and may bully other children in the future.
Don't be impulsive when a child is beaten. It is illegal for parents to teach underage children, but they will get into trouble.
The correct way is to cooperate with the school to deal with campus violence, let the school deal with children with campus violence, and in serious cases, you can call the police for help.
Second, let children learn some self-defense techniques.
It is necessary for children to learn some self-defense skills, such as taekwondo and self-defense martial arts in winter and summer vacations.
When a child has a skill, it will not only make the child suffer less when he is attacked, but also enhance his self-confidence. At the same time, parents should always educate their children not to bully other children because they have a skill, and inform them of the seriousness and consequences of bullying other children.
Third, calm the child's mind.
After children are subjected to school violence, the psychological harm is far greater than the physical harm. Parents must appease and enlighten their children and give them spiritual support.
In daily life, we should always educate our children, and we must speak out when we are bullied, and don't hide it in our hearts. Because many children are afraid to tell their parents after being bullied because they are afraid that their parents will blame them for some mistakes.
Or think that it is a very shameful thing to be beaten by your parents and called by your parents to deal with it, for fear of lifting your head in front of your classmates. Or because of introverted personality, inferiority dare not say. Therefore, it is particularly important for parents to enlighten their children in peacetime.
Children's minds are very fragile after school violence, so parents must care and enlighten their children more. What do you think of school violence?