Perhaps, this decision is about where to go to school, what career to pursue, or about your lover and spouse. Looking back now, can you find how different life would be today if you made a different decision? These and many other decisions have determined your life direction and changed your destiny.
What is the most important decision you can make now?
In the past, I might tell you that the most important thing is who you decide to spend time with and who you decide to love. After all, your partner will have a great influence on who you become.
But in the past two years, my mind has changed. I gradually realized that the most important decision in life should be: No matter what happens, you must make sure that you are happy.
First, change, starting today.
In other words, even if you are in adversity-when there is injustice, when someone bullies you, when you lose something you like or someone you love, or when no one understands or appreciates you, you still have to enjoy life wholeheartedly.
Unless we make up our minds to stop suffering and live in a beautiful state, our sense of existence will create pain when our desires, expectations or preferences are not met. This is a great waste of life!
This decision will change everything in your life, starting today. But it is not enough to say that you want to make a change or that you have decided to be happy no matter what happens.
You must control this decision, realize it at all costs, and put an end to any possibility of giving up halfway. If you want to occupy an island, you must show the determination to burn your bridges, and you must decide to take 100% responsibility for your mentality and experience in this life.
In a word, you should draw a clear line at once and announce, "I've had enough pain." I want to live every day to the fullest and enjoy every moment, including what I don't like, because life is too short to suffer. "
If you are not satisfied with your current unsatisfactory life, don't wait, you can embark on a journey to change your life now.
If you want to completely change your life, all you have to do is make up your mind to find something worth cherishing every moment. Only in this way can you experience the real wealth brought by continuous happiness.
Let's look at two simple techniques first, hoping to help you.
Second, the 90-second rule of ending pain.
The first technique is what I call the 90-second rule.
Whenever I start to feel pain, I will give myself 90 seconds to stop the pain and let myself return to a wonderful state. Sounds good, right? But what do you need to do?
Suppose, when I talk to an employee of a company under my name, I find that the other party has made a mistake that may lead to a series of problems, then my brain will naturally enter the danger detection mode, it will start the ancient survival software and start to generate various ideas, and I will consider the possible consequences for me and our whole team.
If this happened before, I might easily fall into the whirlpool of anxiety, depression, anger and mental pain.
But now I do this: as soon as I feel the tension in my body rising, I immediately start to control myself. The way I control myself is simple: adjust my breathing and slow things down. I will jump out of the situation and start to get away from all the thoughts that put pressure on my brain.
It is natural to have these ideas, but they are just ideas. When you slow down, you will realize that you don't have to believe these ideas or agree with them.
You can take a step back and say to yourself, "Wow, look at these crazy ideas, they appear again!" " "Why is this useful? Because the problem is not that we have negative, destructive and limited ideas-everyone will have these ideas! What hurts us is the habit of believing these ideas.
Once I got rid of these meaningless thoughts, I began to focus on finding something worth appreciating. The brain that takes survival as its responsibility is always looking for mistakes, but there are always some things that we need to cherish.
As I always say, "mistakes always exist ... but right things abound." Maybe the right thing is simple, for example, I am still alive and I am still breathing; For another example, the employee who made a mistake is a good person, works hard and has a good starting point; For another example, I realized that I was in pain, so I could stop and let go of the pain.
It doesn't matter what you appreciate. The important thing is that you will slow down your life by turning your attention to what you appreciate. Love, happiness and giving will all bring about equally positive changes.
This shift of attention creates space for your spirit to enter the game of life, so that you will not be limited to your own thinking. If you keep doing this, you will readjust your nervous system and train your brain to find the bright side of things in any situation, so that your life will be full of gratitude and happiness.