There is a Bai Yueguang in everyone's heart. Why does Bai Yueguang exist?

There is a "Bai Yueguang" in everyone's heart, which may be true. "Bai Yueguang" is a buzzword, which describes that things that people can't expect are always in their hearts, but they are not around. This concept first appeared in Zhang Ailing's novels. She wrote: "Maybe every man has these two women, at least two." Married a red rose. Over time, the red one smeared mosquito blood on the wall and turned into white or bright moonlight by the window.

If you marry a white rose, the white one is a grain of rice stuck on your clothes, and the red one is a dice on your chest. We received a message from a boy who said this. "Hello, I recently met with confusion. It's about two very important women in my life. One is a girl I have liked for many years. She is the child of my parents' friend. We can be said to be childhood friends. She should also be the person I love most in my life. She is two years older than me. When I was a child, my parents had a bad relationship. She often chats with me and shares snacks. I told her once in high school, but she turned me down. But since then, we have maintained a good friendship. Now I have a stable girlfriend. I don't think I like that girl anymore, but I have to admit that she is very special to me. She put in my heart forever in an important position.

Although this position may have nothing to do with love, my girlfriend may not accept this, so she often quarrels with me, hoping not to contact her again. But I don't think it's necessary. Because I know very well that there is no possibility between us, and she is a spiritual pillar for me. I don't think this existence is in contradiction with my present relationship. The "Bai Yueguang Complex" described by this fan really exists in our daily life and many movies and literary works. We want to talk to you about this topic. I have seen such a consulting case. In that case, I visited my high school classmates who have been obsessed with me for nearly 20 years. She and each other now have their own families, making it clear that she also loves her husband and children and never wants to leave them.

Therefore, in a sense, if a person can't bring out intimacy and satisfaction of desire from the real relationship at the same time, then "Bai Yueguang", as the carrier of human desire, can actually bring a delicate balance to the real relationship. Unrequited love for love and avoidance of familiarity are contradictory. We still have to be familiar with it and want to get rid of it. What brings this boring familiarity is not other people, but ourselves. We have become boring people and can't try to make ourselves interesting. We became completely predictable people.