The marriage of young Mongolian men and women basically follows the traditional custom of "the words of the matchmaker are the orders of the parents". There are also people who are free to love and get married. But the final decision of marriage lies with parents. The same surname can't be married, and cousins can't be married. Young men and women need to get engaged first when they reach a certain age. When engaged, the man gives sheep, wine, tea, clothes, jewelry and other daily necessities, and the woman accompanies the stove. In some areas, there is also the custom of "robbing marriage".
wedding
In the early morning of the wedding day, the groom and the person who presided over the wedding took the wedding procession, prepared a big horse and took the bride price to the woman's house to marry the bride. The groom is holding a big wine can. A white hada is tied around the neck of the jar, and a large flat square glue covered with red silk thread is hung. This glue symbolizes the love between the bride and groom. Just like this glue, they love each other forever. Others, some carrying whole sheep, some carrying Hada and so on. , came to the woman's house. The hostess, relatives and friends saw the wedding procession from a distance, beating gongs and drums and blowing shells on the grass in front of the yurt to welcome the wedding guests. The bride-to-be dismounted a few dozen paces away from the yurt. The groom presented a Hada to the bride's parents, and then presented a Hada to her brothers and sisters. When parents receive gifts, they should extend lofty blessings to the bride and groom. After the ceremony, the bride's family will hold a banquet to entertain relatives and friends of both sides. At this time, the singer sang a beautiful toast, offering sacrifices to heaven from the tripod-shaped altar full of wine with a nine-eye colander to heaven, earth, east, south, west and north. Then pour the wine from the jar and serve it to the guests at the table. After singing the banquet toast, everyone sang a happy song.
At the end of the banquet, both men and women presented a whole sheep, one in front of the man and the other in front of the woman. At this time, the oldest man at the table first cut two knives on both sides of the sacrum, and then gave the knife to the priest. The wedding ceremony cut two pieces of meat along the knife edge and placed them horizontally on the sacrum. Then the elder took one and put it on the box above the yurt. Then the wedding ceremony takes apart the meat and puts it in front of other guests. The whole sheep placed in front of the daughters were unloaded by the younger generation and placed in front of other guests respectively. At this time, the person in charge of entertaining guests said: guests eat meat. After eating the meat, the host will propose a glass of wine and a bowl of yogurt to everyone. This is called Shuijiao Hada's banquet. That night, the groom stayed at his father-in-law's house, accompanied by his master and an attendant. The next day, after entertaining the son-in-law, the mother-in-law will put a silver wooden bowl filled with candy wrapped in red silk into the son-in-law's purse and wrap it around her waist. At this time, the person in charge of the marriage said: We have got enough respect. So the son-in-law asked his father-in-law to start first. The girl is ready to leave, throwing a bag of Hada containing highland barley, wheat and milk into her mother's yurt, symbolizing the blessing of leaving her family. Then two sisters-in-law took the girl's horse, and the two sisters-in-law in front took the curtain painted with dragons and phoenixes to lead the way. The girl's mother followed her closely, and the others rode away in two rows. On the way, the groom and several people accompanying him came to meet the guests. The two sisters-in-law who greeted the guests helped the bride dismount, and the groom met her mother-in-law and held a luncheon in the same place. Move on after lunch.
They sang farewell songs all the way and walked around the new house three times before they arrived. Then the tourists sprinkle holy water on the bride's mane and help her dismount. At this time, two strong men ran forward and pulled the two tent bearers off the horse, otherwise the bride and other guests would not dismount. Then help the bride and groom to the carpet laid on the floor in front of the new house, let them stand side by side in front of the table on the carpet, let the bride and groom grab the big and small ends of the sheep's tibia respectively, and then the singer sang the words of worshipping heaven and earth. After singing the toast, the bride and groom kowtowed to the sun and the moon three times, asking them to pull out the ankle bone on the sheep's tibia. At this time, the singer added, the handsome groom and the beautiful bride are heading for the spacious new house along this white worry-free avenue! According to the rules, whoever runs into the new house first is the owner of this house.
When the sun and moon kowtow ceremony is held, all the bride's supplies are arranged in the new house. Along with the bride's supplies, there are also sheep sternum meat and a sheepskin, which are used to worship parents' in-laws. After the couple ran into the new house, the two sisters-in-law dressed up the bride again. Then the person who presided over the wedding gave the head of the sheep to the groom, rubbed it three times on the bride's left face and right face, and threw it out from the door of the new house. The young people standing on both sides came forward to compete for the head of the sheep. If the woman's guests take it away, the man will exchange Hada and the gift for the sheep's head. This means that the bride and groom will become real husband and wife from now on. At this time, the man who received the guests led the bride to kowtow to her husband's family. After the ceremony, a banquet was held for the male and female guests in the big yurt. Later, the bride and groom invited guests from both sides to the new house. Every guest should bring a bottle of wine and gifts, such as hada or satin. At this time, the lamb breast and other parts of the meat brought by the bride are already cooked. The two newlyweds toasted the guests and ate mutton. The guests also hung hada and satin on the rope hanging from the skylight, blessed the newlyweds' new house and poured wine into the big jar. At the same time, the singer sang the blessing of a new house. At this time, a new felt and table were laid in front of the new house, with wine and all kinds of milk food on it. The person who entertained the guests in the new house said, it's time for the rain to stop and the guests to come back. One by one, the guests went to the yurt to accept the farewell wine of the bride and groom. At this point, the grand wedding ceremony came to an end.