2. Many people don't know that sensitivity is largely determined by genes. One in five people in the world belongs to Gao sensitive person. Their senses are more sensitive to external information and can capture all kinds of details, so their emotions are more influenced by the outside world. So don't blame them for making a fuss, because highly sensitive people feel a highly saturated world.
3. The sensitive word "sense" shows that it is a kind of perceptual ability. Because of its strong perception, Gao sensitive person often has unique talents: ① more sensitive to color and smell, more artistic; ② Be cautious in dealing with problems and have strong crisis management ability; (3) * * * stronger emotional ability, more know how to listen to others, considerate.
4. But at the same time, we have to admit that high sensitivity is a double-edged sword: Gao sensitive person has a unique talent and often faces a problem-he is too easily influenced by the outside world. A lot of useless information ignored by others, they have to spend a lot of energy to capture, speculate and deal with. Internal friction is particularly large, and it is easy to fall into a state of physical and mental exhaustion. Once it is not handled well, it is easy to be labeled too much and too fragile, thus generating negative emotions.
If you are a very sensitive person who is often troubled by this aspect, you should first understand that being highly sensitive is not a bad thing, and you don't need to get rid of this feature. What you have to do is to face up to your sensitive personality and then learn to dispel the negative emotions it may bring.
6. The most important thing is to set boundaries for your life. Distinguish between what makes you comfortable and what makes you uncomfortable, and then make a brave choice. For example, in Sensitive People, many people's lives are not full of vitality. They are willing to socialize, but they are often exhausted when dealing with a complete party. If you are the same, you might as well tell your friends directly: I really want to stay, but I'm so tired. This method is more suitable than forcing yourself to stay or leave without explanation.
7. If you are perfectionist, lower your self-requirements. Many highly sensitive people, because they are afraid of others' negation, often put forward high requirements for themselves, such as "must" be helpful and responsive ... which makes them very tired. You have to understand: no matter what we do, we can't satisfy everyone. In the face of others' help, it may be difficult to say no, but it is not difficult to make a discount quietly. "I'd like to help, but I can only do it at 9 pm. I have other things to do."
8. When you encounter something bad, if you always blame yourself for your mistakes and fall into endless guilt, you might as well ask yourself three questions: ① Is this thing that makes me feel guilty real or imaginary? Does it matter? Is it worth my guilt? Fill in the blanks: What percentage of responsibility should I take for this matter? These three questions will probably help you get out of the idea that it's all my fault.
9. Contrary to excessive self-reproach, some highly sensitive people will fall into extreme emotions and criticize others excessively when things are not going well. "I work so hard, you shouldn't be lazy" ... this is also the reason why many people find highly sensitive people difficult to get along with. Next time you meet this situation, try to replace "you should" with "I hope", for example, I hope we can work together. Shift the blame to the affirmation of the goal, and you will become a more easygoing person.
10. Avoid endless speculation and maintain the "low EQ advantage". Gao is a sensitive person, always keen to guess what others think, because he wants to leave a good impression on others. It is not only time-consuming and laborious, but also physically and mentally exhausted, and it is easy to misunderstand. To avoid this entanglement, the best way is to maintain the "low emotional intelligence advantage": no judgment, no speculation, no hesitation, and speak directly. Keep information and actions transparent and solve problems quickly.
1 1. Break the world view of "black or white". In the subconscious of sensitive people, the world is often black and white. Satisfy others and you will be popular; If you refuse others, you will be hated. The audience looks at themselves and shows that their views are attractive; The audience scratching their heads means not being recognized ... but in fact, the world is not a binary opposition of black and white, but there are a lot of gray areas. Many details don't mean anything, so there's no need to stretch yourself too tight.
12. Consciously "leave a blank space" for life and help yourself regain your energy. Leave yourself a period of time every day to think nothing and do some daily chores such as washing dishes, exercising and listening to music. Use this time to relax, block more information input and help yourself sort out the mood of the day.
13. Finally, we should remember that people with low sensitivity tend to be energetic, have a wide range of hobbies and have a broader life; And highly sensitive people, because the inner world is richer, tend to live more deeply. Therefore, whether sensitive or not, you don't have to envy each other. As long as you face yourself squarely, you can have a unique life.
Thanks to eells Thornton, the author of High Sensitivity is a Talent, Li, the translator, and Beijing United Publishing Company, the publisher!
Finally, share the golden sentence with you:
Sensitivity is only an index to measure people's response to external stimuli, and there is no difference between good and bad.