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Everyone is jealous.
After every day, I am jealous of my classmates whose grades are much better than yours;
Jealous of the friend who earns more than you and lives better than you but doesn't need your efforts;
Jealous of colleagues with lower academic qualifications and higher positions and salaries than you;
Jealous that a woman with good figure and skin looks better than you;
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Envy makes people ugly. Many people who are jealous of others persecute others, not because they have enmity, but because of "red eye".
For example, in The Beautiful Legend of Sicily, marlene dietrich, the heroine, was coveted by all the men in the town because of her outstanding appearance and extraordinary temperament, and all the women's evil faces were opposite, and it was said that she was a "slut".
When she had a backer, she spoke ill of her behind her back. After she lost her backer, everyone just stood by and watched her misfortune.
The starting point of jealousy is people's concern about their own vulnerability. Seeing that others are better than himself, he doesn't want to be happy, but deliberately destroys others to satisfy his sense of superiority.
There is a big psychological problem: if I can't get it, you can't have it.
Ai Qing said: jealousy is a tumor of the soul.
Jealousy hurts others, and it hurts others because of jealousy. It seems that stabbing others with a knife is actually aimed at yourself.
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The Psychological Dictionary says: "Jealousy is a complex emotional state, which consists of shame, anger and resentment. Compared with others, I found myself inferior to others in talent, reputation, status or situation. "
Do you still remember the killing incident of "killing first, I am the first" in the circle of friends some time ago?
In the third grade of a school in Zibo, Shandong Province, there are two boys with excellent grades: Qin, who has been ranked first for a long time, and Qin, who is slightly inferior. They are both second.
Out of strong jealousy, Qin, the second-ranked classmate, ambushed at the entrance of the building like a cold killer, brutally cutting him off.
Ma Tongxue's instinct for survival prompted him to escape. Qin, a frenzied classmate, followed closely, stabbing 13 knife in his chest and back. This knife was fatal, and a teenage boy died tragically under the jealousy of his classmates.
"Kill the first, I will be the first" is his motive for killing.
According to qianjiang evening news, the reason why Qin bears a grudge is that his grades are too good. Ma Tongxue won many awards, and was named "Three Good Students" and "Mathematics Star".
Before the incident, Qin warned, "You must get four B's. If you do better than me, I will kill you. "
In a word, strong jealousy distorted Qin's mind and slashed at his classmates.
As a result of the tragedy, Qin was killed on the spot, and the blood flowed like a river. Qin was destined to be imprisoned.
Kill the first place, he can't even keep the second place. Because, waiting for him is the severe punishment of the law.
As Thomas Fuller said: Jealousy makes others and yourself lose.
Even minors will not be punished by law for the time being. With his jealous attitude, if he doesn't change, nothing will happen in the future.
Because, even if you win the first prize today, there is no guarantee that you will still win the first prize. Just because you are the first in this class doesn't mean you are the first in the whole school. Life is long, and people better than you are everywhere.
There are mountains outside the mountains, and there are people outside the people.
Jealousy is the root of all evil.
In the eyes of a jealous person, nothing can make him happier than the misfortune of others, and it makes him more uneasy without the happiness of others.
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How terrible are jealous people?
A netizen in Zhihu said something about his college entrance examination.
In the college entrance examination, he enrolled in one of the two best universities. I don't know who changed his first choice from "obeying adjustment" to "disobeying", which means shifting gears directly.
Fortunately, the superior class teacher was more cautious and found traces of alteration. He found him and asked him why he changed. He is inexplicable and reasonable, and he doesn't know who he has offended.
A jealous person is not because you have offended him or hindered him, but because he can't see that you are better than him.
Finally, he came to a conclusion: it is indispensable to prevent people.
Jealousy makes people lose their minds and do irreparable stupid things.
Remember the "abducted child king" that was hotly forwarded by the whole network?
The result was tragic. Wang was strangled alive by his neighbor's aunt and buried in the yard. Why did she strangle an unarmed child?
According to her account, the reason why she strangled the child was because of jealousy.
Her own grandson is cerebral palsy, jealous of Wang's children's health, liveliness and intelligence. She confessed that she had planned to strangle the king for half a year.
Envy is terrible. It's the devil.
There is also a news from March 2065438+2007.
A Pakistani girl named kanwal qayyum is beautiful, cheerful and has a bright future. She dreamed of becoming a stewardess since she was a child. /kloc-she passed the exam through her own efforts 0/0 years ago.
It is said that women are jealous, especially girlfriends who know their roots. Her best friend is no exception. She is a jealous person.
She shared the good news with her best friend. However, she never imagined that her girlfriend who was happy for her on the surface had an undercurrent of jealousy in her heart.
In order not to let her become a stewardess, in order not to let her live better than herself, her best friend threw sulfuric acid in her face.
Kanwar's face was almost completely disfigured, and his whole face was badly damaged. The girl who was originally confident and beautiful became unrecognizable overnight.
How small a person's mind is, how strong his jealousy is. Behind jealousy, there is often a frustrated and lost heart.
Jealous people are often accompanied by inferiority. The more jealous a person is, the more he can prove what he lacks. Jealous people can't see that others are better and stronger than him, and are prone to revenge, causing personal injury and economic losses to others, and seeking psychological balance from them.
The New Testament says, "Envy is the meanest evil. This is part of our emotions. "
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Jealousy is a complex psychology, including anxiety, fear, sadness, hatred, hostility, resentment, revenge and other unpleasant psychological states.
Other people's natural beauty, talent and intelligence may be the object of jealousy. Other factors related to social evaluation, such as honor, status, property, reputation, etc. It is also easy to become the object of their jealousy.
Jealousy is a very common psychology. There are two kinds of jealousy: rational jealousy and irrational jealousy.
Rational jealous people are mentally healthy and broad-minded. They congratulate others on their merits and achievements, and at the same time learn from others' successful experiences for their own use in order to develop and improve themselves.
Rational jealousy is a positive attitude of "if you can do it, I will fight for it".
Irrational jealousy is the morbid psychology of "if you can do it, I will let you not", which is destructive.
Irrational jealousy is also malignant jealousy.
As Pope said in On Man, a man with a mean heart is a slave to jealousy. For people with knowledge and temperament, jealousy becomes competition.
All the above cases are irrational jealousy. Irrational jealousy is both ignorant and useless, and it is also a kind of internal friction.
While hurting others, it also pushes itself into the abyss of sin.
Vicious jealousy is a cruel and humble passion, a manifestation of shame buried in the bottom of my heart, and a worthless and inevitable emotion.
The real master is not to persecute others, but to pursue or surpass others with jealousy as the driving force.
Lei Jun said many times in his speech that he was jealous of Ma Yun, so he worked hard.
Ma Yun once admitted that he was jealous of Tencent. He finally caught up and celebrated with the company. Tencent invented WeChat again, and he regretted it.
May you be good at using jealousy and know how to use your own advantages to grow, instead of suppressing others' luck.
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If jealousy is used by you, it is the driving force for progress. If you are controlled by jealousy, it is a sharp knife, hurting others and hurting yourself.
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