Man: Honey, I talked to my mother about getting married. I paid the down payment for our wedding room, and my mother gave us 65438+ ten thousand bride price. Now my mother has made a statement. I hope you can pay for the decoration and let your parents get you a dowry of 80 thousand. In this way, we have a deposit of 6.5438+0.8 million, and we can buy a car that we both like. What do you think? Surprise is not a surprise!
Woman: First of all, I won't pay for the decoration, because the house doesn't have my name; It's not up to your mother to decide how much dowry my family pays. I have never heard how much dowry a man can ask a woman. I don't have a driver's license, so naturally I won't buy a car of 1.8 million. That's what you like, not me. Finally, if you do such wishful thinking, break up before you get married!
Then, Linlin asked sogeum in a hurry, who is right and who is wrong between the men and women, and whether the woman's attitude is too tough. Sogeum thought, if I guess correctly, that woman is Linlin and that man is Linlin's fiance.
In fact, when Linlin sent Qin Xiao this WeChat, they had not contacted each other for nearly half a year. From close friends to strangers, it is because of Linlin's fiance.
Since the first time I met Linlin's fiance, Xiaoqin has been glib about this man who will never forget to talk about his mother wherever he goes. She had warned Linlin that this man was unreliable, but Linlin just wouldn't listen, thinking about magic and deeply loving this man.
Xiaoqin can't help it As a good friend of Linlin, even at the risk of breaking up, she should try her best to remind this person who is caught in a love trap. But the reality is cruel. Linlin forgot his meaning and chose a person to stop Sogeum automatically.
Seeing this WeChat now, Qin Xiao has mixed feelings. She is afraid that this day will come, and at the same time, she is glad that this day will come earlier. Now, she is very glad that this man finally gave away the clues before he made a big mistake.
Then, she gave Linlin an answer:
There is nothing wrong with this woman! Marriage is based on love. As for the bride price and dowry, it depends on your own mind. There is absolutely no saying that men make rules. Judging from the expressions on both sides, it is obvious that the man and his mother are taking advantage.
At first glance, the man's parents took out100000 yuan, but this100000 yuan turned out to be the money for buying a car. The most terrible thing is that the woman doesn't have a driver's license at all and can't drive. Whether it's inside or outside, whether it's money or cars, men are in control.
Moreover, why does the man use his private money to buy a house to pay the down payment? If the man takes out all his savings before marriage to buy a house, should most of the expenses after marriage be borne by the woman? In this way, this man is really cunning! If you really do this, what will be the consequences?
The house belongs to the man, the car belongs to the man, and the woman gets nothing, and she also takes money to decorate it. For a long time after marriage, she was responsible for all the food and drink at home. Even parents have to pay for their pensions.
This superficial and practical calculation is disgusting. What is the woman's attachment to such a man and such a family? I raised my hand to support the divorce of these two people.
Answering Linlin's letter gave Sogeum a sigh of relief. Presumably Linlin should know how to do it. Perhaps men at this time are angry or constantly asking themselves: What's wrong with such a request? However, for the woman, such an analysis can be seen by normal people.
Sure enough, an hour later, Linlin called Qin Xiao and said that she had broken up.
Linlin said that after getting along with this man for half a year, he knew that he was a "baby boy", he was glib and homesick. But in her heart, I always feel that love can overcome everything. For the sake of vigorous love, she would rather be a moth to the fire. Perhaps it is because she has read too many romance novels, and her obsession makes her feel that this man will change and compromise because of love.
Unexpectedly, there was a problem in the process of talking about marriage. She didn't expect that the other party's wishful thinking was so blatant that it hit her family, which she could not tolerate.
On the issue of dowry, Linlin thought very clearly, which is the real reason why she broke up with her fiance. Families in Linlin can't afford so much dowry, let alone 80,000 yuan, even 1 10,000 yuan. After four years in college, my parents worked hard. In order to save tuition, they worked three jobs every day. In four years, she spent a total of 1.2 million at home.
After graduation, seeing his white-haired parents, Linlin vowed never to let them pay a penny, including getting married. But this person who knows his family very well still wants his family to take out 80 thousand. What is his sincerity?
Perhaps, in order to stimulate Linlin, she took out 200,000 yuan from her work in recent years and pointed the finger at the old people. But whatever the reason, parents are Linlin's lamella, and she doesn't allow anyone to hurt her parents.
In fact, everyone sees things differently. Perhaps in the eyes of other couples, it is fair for the man to make such an opinion. After all, this way of giving dowry and bride price is very common now. Unfortunately, this is beyond Linlin's consideration.
We are human beings, and we can't avoid customs. Whether in love, marriage or even after marriage, it is inevitable to talk about the topic of "money". The economic foundation determines the superstructure. With money, there is capital to live. Everyone wants to talk about money, and everyone is inevitably contaminated with vulgarity. But when it comes to money, we have to divide the time.
During the period of love, the man should talk as little as possible about money. Talk too much about money, feelings are prone to problems, impure. When it comes to marriage, both sides should avoid talking about money. How much dowry you pay and how much bride price I pay are freely decided by the other party's wishes.
Don't dislike too much, and you won't feel bad if you dislike too little, as long as you win a good lottery.
Talk more about money after marriage. Talking about money at this time is the least hurtful time. After all, two married people are in the same boat, rich, everyone is happy, but poor, everyone suffers together.
"Money" has two sides, but it can never be wrong.
The human heart is insufficient, and the snake devours the elephant. In the face of money, it is always us who are wrong. For a pair of lovers, since it is inevitable to talk about money after marriage, why not treat money lightly and love deeply when talking about marriage, give each other more sweetness, tolerance and understanding, and give more love and dedication to each other's family, and perhaps life will be happier and sweeter!