However, this tolerance is false after all. You can only bear it, because the things that make you miserable (he has many women and children) have not happened. The "didn't happen" here is precisely that you don't know and there is no evidence. Everyone can laugh at life when bad things don't happen. Once it happens, it will be different. Your rejection of other women around him, which didn't show at first, has now exploded into milk powder and Sichuan accent.
In healthy love, people can't live without subjectivity. In other words, even in love, you are still you. If one party becomes an accessory of the other party and loses its independence, then such love is even more dangerous. According to your description, you love him, and you don't even know who you are, not even yourself. If he is a perfect person, then there is no problem. If something goes wrong with him, then you are bound to collapse. Like a vine attached to a tree, when the tree falls, the vine dies. Although Eternal Love is very touching and has many works of art, it is too dangerous from the psychological point of view.
Your experience is really special. As you said, you lost your father's love and maternal love in your early years. In this way, we should pay more attention to "cooling down" when facing our inner emotional impulses. Because there are many emotional needs that may be immature. Parents can't abandon their daughters. He is not your parents, so he can abandon you-because he doesn't love you anymore. However, even married people may divorce.
In your's feelings, besides excluding her from sexual misconduct and excessive attachment, there is another problem that you regard him as a "baby". Judging from your account, your parents are incompetent. You lack maternal love, so you play the role of mother to meet your own needs for maternal love. So if you love him, to some extent, you are also loving yourself. Another reason why you want to play the role of mother is that mother means tolerating children's mistakes. Generally speaking, he has a wife and a family. For this, if you play the role of a wife, it is totally intolerable. But if you play "mom", then this is a "small mistake" in him. You can bear it. Besides, babies always grow up and leave their mothers. Now, your reaction is not so much resentment against your husband, but rather the anxiety of your child after he left home and disappeared.
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I'm going to make some preliminary diagnosis with your account now. As far as your current situation is concerned, you can judge it as neurosis. Neurosis is more serious than psychological problems, but it has not reached the state of mental illness.
According to Xu Youxin's neurosis diagnosis standard: for one year, give three points; Basically can't get rid of yourself, get two points; Although it is not clear whether it has affected your work, people around you say that you have changed and are afraid of men, which can be rated as two points. To sum up, it's seven o'clock in all. According to Xu Youxin's standard, a score of more than 6 can be diagnosed as neurosis. Therefore, your condition can be initially diagnosed as neurosis.
Go back to your narrative. There are several anomalies that need your attention. One is that your fear and disgust have become universal. What should have bothered you was the "content" of the Sichuanese, not his accent, but now the Sichuanese accent has become something that makes you miserable. It was his "people" who should have made you feel pain. Now even his name and these "Chinese characters" will cause your reaction. Moreover, your bad mood has spread to all men, women with children and even the whole world. Generalization is a feature of psychological problems. You need to pay attention to and try to influence this tendency. You can seek training and treatment from local psychological counseling institutions to get rid of generalization.
Besides, you don't know what your inner conflict is. You repeatedly mentioned "I don't know what happened to me" and "How could I do that?" Something like that Moreover, in your narrative, you can't see moral troubles-such as worrying about whether your actions are ethical or not. In other words, your inner conflict is deformed and has nothing to do with morality. It has become something that has nothing to do with your feelings, such as milk powder, Sichuan accent and even all men, which you can't recognize yourself. The "deformation" of inner conflict is also a feature of psychological problems. I have tried to explain this problem-the part before the "dividing line" is my understanding of your inner conflict. I hope my analysis can help you grasp the current situation.
Also, you lack self-knowledge, and whether self-knowledge is sufficient is also an indicator of whether your mind is normal. Friends around you say that you have changed, but you are not sure whether you have changed. Or, you have some feelings, but you try to deny them. Yes, emotional problems, and you are also involved in the "third party" problem, which is hard to say everywhere on your face. Naturally, this man is dating so many women, so it's not all your fault. The problem is that you have to face the future life, and his departure really affects you. So I hope you know that you are really in trouble now. Psychological counseling institutions require practitioners to keep secrets from visitors. Therefore, you can safely go to a formal institution for help.
It can be said that you suffered a psychological Wenchuan earthquake. Some people will keep flashing the horror scene of the earthquake in their minds after the earthquake. You are similar to this situation, except that what you keep repeating in your mind is not the scene of the earthquake, but the words about the children and the "that thing" that makes you miserable. You said, "I was hit on the head by lightning", which is an apt description. This is indeed a trauma that needs to be seriously faced. I suggest you keep a diary and record your experiences-from how you met him, to the details of living together, to his departure, and finally to how painful you were. Judging from your account, your expression ability is good, and this treatment is suitable for you and necessary.
Whether a person is good or not is a very complicated problem. We can naturally assume that he is a good man and then test it. Your test (love him and live with him) shows that he is not good. So, your hypothesis has been overturned. You need to pay attention to this problem. Besides, you are out of control and depressed. Of course, it is normal to cry when this happens. However, if you keep doing this, you may be depressed.
Finally, you lose consciousness about the horn in the street, which may be a separation experience or a temporary cognitive impairment. Originally, this is a symptom that needs special vigilance, but it seems to be only related to a certain situation, so we can put it aside first. You need someone to accompany you when you go out to ensure safety. You are afraid of men now, and naturally it has something to do with him. Once beaten, twice shy. I think you are still eager for men's love. However, this should be after you get out of the shadows. There is a typo in your topic, which is "I" thinking, not "you" thinking.
Because the information that can be expressed on the Internet is limited, I suggest you go to a local specialized psychological consultation institution for further diagnosis and consultation.
Psychology teacher! I want to ask if there is a psychological problem. Thank you. In this case, it's not actually a love mentality, maybe there is a feeling of love mixed in it. More emotions are actually a sense of frustration. Feeling sick? If I guess correctly, you should be a fashionable and beautiful girl. Health and beauty are your proudest things. Say something that might hurt you. Maybe a beautiful appearance is just something you can be proud of. In the last position, self-esteem was obviously unbearable. Have doubts about one's own value.
Human nature determines that no matter what kind of person, his or her ultimate goal is only one, that is, self-realization and self-worth. What is self-worth? Depending on your own values, what kind of person do you want to be? What kind of things do you want to do? What kind of attitude do you want to face life? These are the core propositions of life.
Experience determines character, do you think so? You said that you are 65,438+03 years old, and your parents are divorced, so you can't get warmth. Obviously, this has a great influence on you. You need someone to care and love you. You like mature and steady men older than yourself. These are all manifestations of insecurity, so you will fall in love with a man who is not commensurate with your age.
What about men? Responsibility is a necessary condition for a man to be called a man. I can't see why your "man" is called a man from your simple words. Not upright!
It happened, and you were hurt. It's time to look at yourself. Not all pain can be solved by a psychiatrist. For example, a thief said that he couldn't sleep at night, and he often panicked in his heart, hoping that the psychologist would give him a relief. But I don't want to leave my business to make a living. Psychologists can't change a person, they can only point out a way for him, which is right or easy. It's up to you. You can talk to me if you like. Not necessarily helpful, at least in another person's opinion.
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Ask yourself, what you want but can't get, just like a child, is it true love? A person who loves himself will be loved by others. A person who loves himself won't hurt himself for someone who doesn't love himself. What child, still in a bed, * * *, said this there.
Hello, psychology teacher. I want to ask if I have psychological problems. Thank you! People should control their desires moderately, but some desires cannot be contained. Confucius also said that eating color is also. He also said that I have never met anyone who regards lewdness as a virtue. Therefore, the desire for the opposite sex is a normal concern in everyone's heart.
But you are still young, and these things should not be the main content in your heart. . You should learn more knowledge and lay the foundation for your later life. But you are not at school, so these things stay in your brain for a while. You know, every age group has something he should do, just like those fruits. When it is still green, it is not time for everyone to eat. At that time, all it had to do was grow.
I can see from your written description that you are a good boy at heart. It's just a normal problem when you grow up. Don't worry. You are very healthy.
Hello, psychology teacher! I want to ask if there is something wrong with my psychology! I don't think so, this is everyone's situation-_! No matter how strong everyone is, there will be times when they are sad about spring and autumn, but everyone has different coping styles.
Come on ~ ~ ~ You are not a mental disorder. From a biological point of view, every creature has the instinct to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. Maybe life is a little troublesome or difficult for you now. So instinctively, human beings generally make most of the past days beautiful, even if it is slim. Because the future is unknown, nostalgia for the past is also based on people's fear of the unknown.
Go to consult a psychological teacher. What gift should I give? My psychology teacher is a woman. I recommend several simple and convenient ways to congratulate her in my thirties. Students may wish to try:
1. Send an email to the teacher to celebrate Teacher's Day;
2. Write a personal letter to the teacher to express gratitude;
3. Give yourself a card for the teacher; Or go to the store and quietly put the greeting card on the teacher's desk;
4. Send cordial greetings when you see the teacher in the morning;
5. Draw a pencil drawing for the teacher, add a line of affectionate greetings or write a lyric poem;
6. When the teacher walks into the classroom, he can see the words "Happy Teacher's Day" written on the blackboard.
7. A schedule that I am determined to correct my shortcomings and pursue progress;
8. Put a bunch of flowers on the teacher's platform in the name of the whole class;
9. Help the teacher inflate the bike or give the teacher a pack of throat lozenges to protect his voice.
Teacher's Day Gifts Precautions:
1, don't give too expensive gifts, it will be too utilitarian, and most of them will be rejected by teachers, which is also a burden to yourself.
Never ask the teacher what gift he likes directly, because it is likely to be rejected and his sincerity will be doubted.
3. Don't ask others what gifts their parents gave, and don't compare with others. Gifts only represent some thoughts, but they don't mean that the teacher who receives them will take special care of your baby.
4. Don't give the teacher some unrealistic gifts, such as dresses or high-end jewelry, but consider whether the teacher can use your gifts in daily life.
5. Remember to take off the price tag and bag in the store. No matter how expensive the gift itself is, it is best to wrap it in wrapping paper. Sometimes the mind of the giver can be seen in subtle places.
6. The price of gifts is not the main determinant, but some of my own gifts particularly impress the teachers.
7. If the gift is novel, explain the specific purpose and usage to the other party, so that the other party can know more about the gift you gave.
8. When giving gifts, in order to show that you value each other's attitude, you can say,&; Uot I chose this on purpose &; Uot,&UOT I'm sure you will like it&; uot。 Don't say anything &; Uot was unprepared, temporarily &; Uot, and. Uot is nothing good, just make do with it&; Uot, in that case, your talent and thoughts will suddenly become lighter and lighter.
Of course, in the end, we should know that what teachers want most is for their students to get good grades and succeed. If you are still a student, then good academic performance is the best gift for teachers; If you have already worked, the teacher will be proud of your efforts to succeed in your career.
Thank you, my psychology teacher, the 380-word composition teacher, the guidance teacher who accompanied me to grow up, worked hard to train us, devoted all your energy to us, educated us into pillars of the country, but asked for nothing in return, and were our reborn parents. When I was 7 years old, I left my parents' arms and entered the school. I am a teacher. You made us understand the truth of being a man. From pinyin like a u e, to square Chinese characters, to beautiful and moving compositions, you have watered the small saplings that were afraid to speak at first into healthy trees. All the honors should be attributed to the teacher. I remember that once, I had a stomachache. I'll come over as soon as you know. I saw your nervous expression and listened to your words of concern. From your concerned eyes, it seems that you are saying to me: How is it going? Is your stomach better? I said to the teacher: I'm fine, I can insist. "The teacher asked someone for a water cup, filled it with hot water, and walked towards me with anxious steps. You asked me to put hot water on my stomach. I put hot water on my stomach. At this time, I feel a warm current flowing in my heart. This warmth infected my heart. I have never been so warm. Another time, I was absent from school for several days because of chicken pox. At school, the teacher told me a lot of knowledge, which I didn't quite understand. Teacher, you gave up your rest and came to my side and said kindly, "Have you been absent from class for several days, and have you not understood the knowledge these days?"? I will help you with your lessons. "In the next few days, I often bother Miss Liu. One day, I sent my homework to Mr. Liu for correction. Suddenly I found that her dark circles were much heavier and there were more "silver lines" on her head. Thank you, teacher! " Silkworms in spring will weave until they die, and candles will drain the wick every night. "I finally understand the meaning of this sentence, teacher. I want to praise you a thousand times, praise you, and thank you sincerely!"
I want to ask about my psychological state. You are young and have a long way to go. Graduation from college is only the end of a stage, and there is still a long way to go in the future study and life.
However, although your current state of mind is not positive, it is also a normal state for young people now. You don't want to do simple things without goals, and you can't do complicated things.
Diagnosis: The most fundamental reason is lack of sense of responsibility, which leads to ingratitude, lack of love, indifference to everything, and sometimes pretending to be sad for a little thing.
Whether you are a college student or a primary school graduate, only by doing things in a down-to-earth manner can someone recognize you and feel something.
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Consult my psychological state. Your mind is in an escape state, and you dare not face the real life. This is a bad state caused by self-distrust. We must actively adjust our mentality. Make yourself positive, optimistic and sunny. Don't think too much about your feelings, but focus on your relatives and friends around you and see what you can do for them. Even a caring greeting from you will make your family feel happy and warm, and your family and friends will feel extremely happy because of your existence. A healthy and happy life for others is the meaning of life. I wish you always full of energy and confidence to meet every day in your life.
There is something wrong with your psychology. I suggest you call the youth psychological counseling hotline there. They will definitely solve your problem. This phenomenon is very common at your age. Don't worry.
Is there something wrong with my mind? How should I test it? Why would I think that? How old are you? If you are a middle school student, you can use the MHT test.