Tonight, Teacher Liu specially set up the activity of "Meeting Goddess Day and Answering Growth Questions" for March 8th Goddess Day. 202 1.3.8
1. How to * * * love is something that a counselor or a person needs to practice all his life. Lifelong practice is everywhere in life.
2. How to grasp other people's emotions?
I just didn't have a bigger reaction, such as my lover getting angry with me and being able to stay there steadily without going into a rage. When consulting, you said that the consulting level was too poor, and you didn't react much. You can still explore what makes you think so. Of course, when not all emotions can be caught, it is enough to try to catch them in consultation. If you can't catch it in life, you can't catch it. Train yourself to catch more.
Accept the status quo and don't criticize yourself, either study psychology or be a saint. Can accept the symptoms, but the symptoms will decrease or disappear, and learn to live with problems.
3. How to find the goal and motivation behind the problem?
First of all, we need to talk about it. Don't discuss the goal so quickly. Take time to be curious and understand things, and don't rush. Novices often make progress too fast and speak slowly and thoroughly, even if the focus is on searching for information.
Just like taking a bath, there is a lot of dust on your body. If you soak it more, you can wipe it off if you soak it. Let's go clubbing and talk slowly.
4. How to grasp the inaction in the negotiation process?
Do something first, do more training, and slowly you will know nothing.
Learn all kinds of routines and moves before learning martial arts, and practice with fellow brothers. When you are familiar with it, you will start to have innovative actual combat, you will have more understanding and integration of martial arts, and slowly you will know nothing.
Do something first, and then do nothing. Learn skills first, and you can use them freely only if you are skilled.
The visitor really doesn't know what to do. Can the consultant give advice?
This is why visitors try to lure consultants to participate, break the routine and let consultants express themselves. Try not to do this. You can look at him silently and smile. After a few seconds of silence, new topics may appear, and not all topics need to be answered.
Whatever you say, you can accept it.
When a visitor attacks a consultant, can he be steady? If he can't help the other party, will he feel incompetent? When he is eager to help the other party, he will endure humiliation and break the rules, which is not good for the visitor.
5. How to deal with children who don't pay attention to consultation in primary schools?
Children are young and can do family counseling. Discuss my mother's ideas, and finally leave some time to communicate with my mother and be a coach, provided that parents feel that they are not denying her, picking on her, and the consultation relationship is in place. Psychological counseling for children, parents are chaperones, and counselors can't do both parents and children.
Give priority to children and have some discussions with parents. If mom comes to consult, she can't give advice. Doing children's work, not contacting parents, parents don't know how to pay, parents don't cooperate, children can easily return to before liberation, and counseling can easily fall off.
6. Negotiation always brings pressure to the other side, which is somewhat false. What the other person wants is not praise, not empowerment, but real thinking.
Even key schools do not advocate too much praise. China's culture is relatively subtle, and you can appreciate it while praising it. If there are more compliments in language, visitors will consciously say what the consultant praises, some will unconsciously say less, and some visitors will please the consultant.
7. How to arrange homework for visitors in remote consultation? The relationship is in place, you can arrange it as you want, and the homework is also very convenient. This kind of homework is set by himself, and what to do next is helpful to him, not what we think he should do and what to do.
Focus solving does not advocate actively asking if homework has been done, so as not to be embarrassed. If he hasn't done it, he may not need to do it. The situation has changed and the client has her reasons. What's different this week
8. Focus does not advocate more guidance, but to discover yourself and accompany the other party to discover what they want, what they want to talk about, what they look at, what they think, which one they value, what changes they hope to make in the next step, what efforts they have made, what advantages and resources they have tried, important people and related relationships. Accompany him to discover more things and don't guide him to see what we think is right. There is no unreasonable belief in concentration. If you and I firmly believe that everyone has their own reasons, the world is diverse, everyone has their own reasons, and there is no unreasonable belief. His beliefs, words and deeds have specific conditions, so that I can thoroughly understand myself and think more about what to do next. Double expert mode is not expert mode.
9. What does it mean to be in a daze? What makes you interested in being in a daze? For example, ask, what do you want to harvest in a daze?