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I once heard a saying: Look at a good relationship, just borrow money.
At first, I didn't understand why there were good and bad relationships, but later I understood. In fact, I really saw a lot of money.
For example, feelings, such as friendship and even family ties, can be seen from money.
So, how about a relationship? Just borrow money once.
I don't know if you have had such an experience. I usually have a good relationship with someone, and suddenly I want to borrow money from them. The other party clearly has it but refuses.
Or you usually have a normal relationship with a person, and suddenly you need money badly and borrow money from the other party, but the other party generously lends it to us.
At this time, we can tell who treats us as friends and who treats us as friends.
Because in our opinion, people who really treat us as friends will not look at our needs without caring. When those who know that we are in need are unwilling to lend us money, they are actually people who don't regard us as friends, at least people who don't trust us.
Therefore, it is really difficult to see the quality of a relationship by borrowing money.
My friend Xiao Juan once shared my own affairs with me.
Xiao Juan said that once, he paid the rent for a year, but only stayed for a short time. The landlord said that this is his house. Why didn't he move in without his consent? Xiao Juan said it was a good contract with the intermediary.
But the landlord said he didn't know, even Xiaojuan took out the intermediary contract, but the landlord said that the house he gave to the intermediary expired this month, and the intermediary gave the key to himself and came to see the house himself.
Subsequently, Xiao Juan went to the intermediary, but the intermediary was gone.
So Xiao Juan called the police. Finally, Xiao Juan had to rent a house again, either now or later.
Xiao Juan thought about it and continued to rent, but the landlord felt sorry for Xiao Juan and gave Xiao Juan a month's rent reduction in 300 yuan.
However, Xiao Juan doesn't have much savings. A year after having sex once, he paid another year's rent. There was not enough money, so Xiao Juan decided to borrow money from his friend.
Xiao Juan thought of his best friend first. After talking with his friend, his friend felt sorry for Xiao Juan, but he said that his money was only used in an emergency.
Xiao Juan knew that the money was nothing to her friends, but she didn't lend it to Xiao Juan.
Finally, Xiao Juan borrowed money from a classmate who was close to him, but the classmate promptly lent it to Xiao Juan and gave it to Xiao Juan 1000, saying that it was Xiao Juan's recent living expenses.
At that moment, Xiao Juan realized who his true friends were.
In fact, a relationship is like this. Those who are willing to lend a helping hand in time of need really treat us as friends, but those who are unwilling to lend a helping hand, even if they look good to us, don't treat us as real friends.
Good relationships are known by borrowing money, and so are bad relationships.
Sometimes we always think that we are good friends, so when we encounter difficulties, we think of our good friends at the first time, but after encountering difficulties, our good friends are unwilling to lend a helping hand.
Even for this reason, stay away from us. At that moment, we realized that the other party didn't treat us as friends at all.
Before, I had a very good friend, and our relationship has always been very good.
I have worked together for more than three years, and I have regarded each other as my lifelong good friends.
Later, I bought a house soon and needed to decorate it. I didn't have enough money and wanted to borrow 5000 from the other party first. In fact, I know that the other party has savings, and it is not a little bit.
But after sending the message, she never replied.
It was a long time before she replied and told me that she needed money at home and gave it to her parents.
That moment was really heartbreaking. I thought the relationship was so good, but it was rejected.
In fact, sometimes, a relationship looks like this.
We always think that we have a good relationship, but when we borrow money, the other party is unwilling. They never consider our personality problems, and they don't consider whether we will return them. They just think we shouldn't borrow them.
So he decisively rejected us, and for us, we also saw a relationship thoroughly.
But those who are really close are not afraid to talk about money at all.
Because the other party trusts us, understands us and knows us better, they are willing to lend a helping hand when we need it.
They never thought that we would not pay back the money, nor that we would cheat, but they understood that we were not like that and had enough trust in us.
So when we ask for money, they will not hesitate to agree.
My friend Chen Chen is such a person.
Before I married my best friend, I began to look up my friends in the address book to see who I could borrow money from.
Looking for a long time, I found that Chen Chen was not bad, and he was also very good to me, so I opened my mouth and borrowed money from Chen Chen.
When Chen Chen heard this, he called me directly. She asked me if 5000 was enough. If that's not enough, she still has it. She can lend me 1 ten thousand.
After listening to Chen Chen's words, I was very moved and surprised. I've said enough to Chen Chen.
Hung up the phone, chenchen transferred the money and told me to let me know if it was enough.
A really good relationship is like this. They are not afraid that we will not pay back the money. In their view, we need help at the moment, and they are willing to help us with their hearts.
In their view, our relationship is very good, beyond money, so they are not afraid of us borrowing money.
In fact, whether a relationship is good or not will be known after several talks.
Those friends we used to think were very good will often refuse us in front of money, while those friends we think are ordinary will be willing to help us.
In their view, the relationship with us is more important than money.
The important thing is that, in their view, we need help at this moment. As friends, they are willing to help us and help us tide over the difficulties.
They are not afraid that we can't afford it or that we won't.
Because they know that our relationship is more important than anything else. The important thing is that they trust us more and know that we are not like that.
So, don't be stupid enough to think that what you want is a good friend. Real good friends really want to talk about money, and real good friends don't meet until they talk about money.
I hope each of us can have a friend who talks about money and be good friends with such a friend for life.
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