1. Definition and origin
The word "observing words and observing colors" originated from The Analects of Confucius Zi Han: "Looking at the present and the past is beyond words." It means to understand the past by observing the present, which cannot be expressed in words. Later, the word gradually evolved into sense motive, emphasizing the acquisition of information by observing other people's words and faces.
Observe words
Observing words and feelings mainly refers to observing the words and tone of others. Understand each other's attitudes, viewpoints and intentions by observing their wording, logic and speed of speech. For example, when a person's words are vague or evasive, it may indicate that he is hiding the truth or avoiding the question.
Observe color
Color observation mainly refers to observing other people's facial expressions and eyes. Facial expression is the external reflection of emotion, which can convey the other person's emotions, such as emotion, tension, relaxation and so on. The information conveyed by eyes is more subtle and powerful, which can reveal each other's true thoughts and inner feelings. For example, when a person's brow is furrowed and his mouth is drooping, it may indicate that he feels uneasy or dissatisfied.
4. Applications and skills
It has important application value in interpersonal communication, negotiation, interview and other scenes. In interpersonal communication, we can understand others more accurately and improve the communication effect by observing words and feelings. In negotiation, observing words and feelings can help us catch the real intention of the other party and make better strategies. In the interview, observing words and feelings can help us to evaluate the candidate's integrity and emotional stability.
5. Restrictions and preventive measures
Although it has certain reference value, it also has certain limitations. First of all, different people have different expressions and facial expressions, which need to be analyzed in combination with specific situations. Secondly, it is only an auxiliary means and cannot replace other forms of communication and understanding. Finally, we should pay attention to comprehensive analysis to avoid one-sided understanding or wrong judgment.