When I was a child, my parents had to go to work, and my grandmother lived with us and helped cook and do housework. I was brought up by my grandmother, and I have deep feelings for her. My childhood was particularly lively and interesting because of her old man.
In the old society, women were in a humble position. Grandma was born in the countryside, and her feet were entangled in the sky since she was a child. She was called "three-inch golden lotus". At that time, working women in rural areas had to go to the fields to do farm work every day and had to travel long distances to carry heavy burdens. These little feet made grandma suffer a lot. Even after she came to my house to help with the children and didn't do heavy work, her tangled feet often made her unable to walk. Every time I see grandma's curled and deformed toes after taking off her shoes, I always can't help shivering all over.
Grandma was industrious and capable when she was young. She is willing to endure hardships. She not only went to the fields to do farm work, but also carried a peddler across the mountains to Pucheng, the junction of the two provinces, to do business. Because of her efforts, her embarrassed family gradually became rich. The mountains she climbed when she was young, the roads she walked, the hardships she suffered, the world she saw and the accumulated social experience gave her insight into the world, and her words were full of life wisdom, although she was a peasant woman and had never read any books.
"Diligence is meritorious, laziness is useless." This is what grandma says most in dialect. Diligence is the first principle of grandma's life. Living with my grandmother since I was a child, I learned a lot about housework, rubbing ropes, pressing briquettes, washing clothes by the river, fetching water from wells, and making sweet potatoes and dates. Wash the sweet potatoes one by one, peel them, cut them in half, and steam them in a steamer. Before going to bed at night, spread clean paper around the stove, put steamed sweet potatoes on the paper and bake them with the waste heat of the stove. You can eat soft and fragrant sweet potatoes and dates the next morning. This braised sweet potato is delicious and easy to preserve. Grandma's hard-working habit has always influenced me. I know that only the fruits of my own labor are the sweetest.
A lot of grandma's words are related to being a man, which is the indicator light on the road of children's growth.
"Children talk, adults value it." The implication is that children will listen to the training of adults, and they can act immediately according to what adults say, instead of lazily dealing with a job. Such a child will be very promising and will be valued and appreciated by adults. This is exactly the same as the truth that grandma should be diligent, and it is also a diligent education from an early age.
"The child's ass is on fire for three minutes." "There is no hair on your mouth, and things are not firm." Grandma used these words to warn me that young people can't do things for three minutes. If they want to do things successfully, they must have perseverance and persist for a long time. This is exactly the same as China's old saying "three days to fish, two days to dry the net", which is the experience and wisdom of life.
"If you have suffered, you will become the master here. No matter how hard the days are, the bullets will pass. " "Don't be afraid of suffering when you are young, and you will be blessed when you are old." Grandma often says such things. Life should be bitter first and then sweet. Work hard when you are young. Don't be afraid of suffering. You can enjoy a better life when you are old. I think grandma said it herself. When she said this, she must have remembered when she was young, carrying a heavy peddler's burden, climbing mountains and doing business in a small town at the junction of the two provinces.
"Anger hurts the body and hurts the spirit. Don't be hard on yourself. " On the road of life, there will inevitably be setbacks and bumps. Not every effort is rewarded, and not every effort can be successful. Grandma knows the truth. She taught me to look down on success or failure, not to sulk and not to criticize myself. A few years later, when I was looking for a job in a foreign country and making a living by myself, I chose to face all kinds of discomforts and difficulties when I first arrived, instead of sulking and complaining.
Grandma taught us hard work and courage, and also taught us the concept of democracy and progress. Grandma grew up in the old society and didn't receive school education, but she didn't have the idea of son preference. She is very inspirational in all aspects of dealing with people.
My aunt married in the countryside and gave birth to five girls in a row. In the countryside half a century ago, people had a strong preference for boys. If there is no son in this family, it will be inferior and looked down upon in the village. There was a farmer in the same village who gave birth to a son. On one occasion, he quarreled with his aunt and had a contradiction. Take her daughter for example. She was very angry and went back to her grandmother and began to cry. When grandma knew this, she comforted her: "Don't look at this boy who was born in his house. He is glamorous now, and his family may not be as strong as you in the future. " Five lazy babies, five rotten taro. Five babies and five big buffalo. "Make my aunt laugh. Sure enough, later, the son of that family was lazy to do more, and his family wealth slowly declined, while his aunt's five golden flowers were hardworking and capable, and they all had a prosperous life after marriage.
When I was in middle school, my grandmother was an old man with silver hair, a really cool shirt and a kind face. At home during the summer vacation, I chatted with my grandmother. My grandmother shook the fan with one hand and patted me on the back with the other. She said slowly, "Pinger has caught up with a good time. Girls should study more while they are young, and then go outside to see the world for a long time. This person's life should be like eating sugar cane backwards. The more he eats, the sweeter he gets. The better he becomes. " After many years, I always remember what my grandmother said, read more, study more and see more about the world. Now grandma in heaven won't be disappointed when she sees her niece, will she?
When people reach middle age, they prefer memories. Now, I often think of what my grandmother once said, which haunts my mind. Those words are the wisdom of life, giving me thinking and inspiration. Those classic quotations that grandma said, one after another, have deeply and shallowly influenced my life. They were, are and will be.
(Author: Wang Yaping)
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Beijing is the annual Tomb-Sweeping Day, and people naturally begin to feel sad and nostalgic. The carriage creaked on the road, and the outskirts of Liucheng were lush. Flowers bloom, grass grows and birds fly in pairs. Sitting in the empty lobby, reminiscing about the past, drinking tea instead of drinking.
-Meng Haoran
One year, the spring grass is green, and another year is clear. Affected by the epidemic, in order to do a good job in prevention and control, it is inconvenient for us to propose a toast to the graves of our loved ones this year to remember our feelings.
However, this is a time to pursue the future cautiously, cherish the memory of our old friends and place our grief.
Every season, there will always be a moment, in the depths of memory, in a sweet dream, a smile from a lover, a greeting, people burst into tears. ...
Pick up an old object, and the figure of relatives will always appear in front of you. When encountering a difficult thing, the news of relatives makes people go forward bravely. Or, like Meng Haoran, take tea instead of wine and sit alone in an empty hall, recalling the past. ...
Once the laughter, once the bitterness, once the dribs and drabs, lingering in my heart. Once, the thoughts revealed from the nib. At this moment, it is nailed between the lines. We, together, remember.
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