Let me tell you something about my consulting experience. I started consulting a female teacher for a long time, 70 times. It was 200 yuan every time, and then it rose to 300 yuan, which didn't go up for me. My problem is similar to yours. I can't get along well with others. I can't stay anywhere. What attracts me is that she can listen to me, and I used to be afraid of many things. She encouraged me to be more open and not too strict with myself. She analyzed my excuse and said that I felt good only by projecting many of my insecurities on others. The first 10 consultation was the most effective, but I didn't feel much change later. She said that I had resistance and needed to take my time. I think it was my own problem. The teacher told me that it will take 2-5 years to solve the problem completely, and I will do more than 200 consultations. After consulting 15 times, I feel that the change is very slow. I have been expecting the teacher to give me some miracles, but no, the teacher just said that my impedance was too heavy. I decided to give up, but I am still very grateful to her, because after all, she changed me, and she has been listening to me and making me feel warm.
Later, I heard that the family arrangement therapy was quite effective, so I went to Mr. Zhao Azhen in Shenyang. At that time, the workshop cost 300 yuan for three days, which was very cheap. I think she is really a smart person. At that time, when I sorted out my family, I was shivering. Seeing that I couldn't get in touch with my parents, I immediately understood my living situation. At that time, my classmates who played my parents all hugged me, and I felt very accepted. This is a profound treatment. Although the treatment was only once, it made me clear that I still have a lot of work to do. The arrangement at home didn't solve the problem, but let me know the direction.
After receiving the treatment arranged by the family system, I feel that although I understand my whole family and have a feeling of understanding, I have not really changed. I feel that I still need psychological counseling, but I don't know who to look for, and I am at a loss. About half a year later, one of my classmates who participated in the family system arrangement told me that the course of Wang Chao, a teacher of Harbin Psychological Society, was very good. It's a kind of cultural psychotherapy in China, which is fast and can get to the core of the problem. I tried to find Mr. Wang. At that time, the consultation fee was 600 yuan every 50 minutes, which was very expensive. I made a great determination to go, but in actual consultation, I often consult for 90 minutes. Mr. Wang said that every time I have to achieve a certain effect or at least complete the treatment steps before I can stop. Of course, it will be over in 50 or 60 minutes. At that time, Mr. Wang felt that this treatment was enough. This is different from my previous treatment, which stopped in 50 minutes. I did it 15 times. Teacher Wang mainly deals with my internal language by calling the empty chair technique. I don't know, my fate, my feelings, especially my love, have always been controlled by invisible internal language. When I found that I had been controlling my inner language since I was a child, I stopped crying, but I also had confidence in my change because I finally knew what the root cause was. Teacher Wang left me homework and asked me to implant healthy inner sentences into my subconscious through visualization. These fifteen treatments make me feel that I have grasped the essence of my problem, which is very shocking. But Mr. Wang said that I still have some problems to deal with in my behavior pattern, and I can do psychodrama therapy in the future. He was too busy to organize psychotherapy at that time.
I am working in Beijing now. Teacher Wang suggested that I find the founder of Image Dialogue, or other teachers of Image Dialogue, and then deal with my inner image. However, I feel that the demand is very small, and I may go when I feel that there is a need.
Let's stop here, I hope it will help you.