It is said that parents can understand grandparents' kindness to their grandchildren, and sometimes they can even tolerate our babies unconditionally. But many times, this kind of love is "doting", which is easy for children to develop bad living habits and bad temper. What parenting ideas do grandparents have that we can't stand?
1. Anyway, the baby is right.
Scene 1: The baby bumps into the table and cries in pain. Grandparents immediately picked up the baby. "The baby doesn't cry, it's a bad table. Hit him, hit him! "
Situation 2: The baby wants to eat candy at night, but the mother doesn't allow it. Grandparents will give it to the baby right away. "The baby wants to eat, just eat. Don't listen to mom. Come on, grandma will peel it for you. "
Scene 3: Playing in the community, I took a fancy to other children's toys and grabbed them. Grandma said, "The baby is great!" "The baby" cried, and grandma said, "Baby, we don't want it. Grandma will buy you a better one and throw it to him. "
Scene 4: In the supermarket, grandma is shopping with her baby while eating in the fruit area. "Baby, this grape is so sweet. Come and eat one. This little tomato is good, too. Eat quickly and don't let others see it. "
The result of this is: let children become more and more selfish, cry when they are not satisfied at all, and like to take advantage of small things. When I grow up, I will become what people call a "person without quality".
2. About baby eating
Scene 1:
When eating, the mother let the baby sit in the dining chair and eat before coming out. The baby doesn't want to cry. Grandparents take it out immediately, sit on the adult's lap and feed the baby with chopsticks from time to time. Mom stopped. "Adults' chopsticks have bacteria." "What kind of bacteria do you think I am?" "No, no, there is Helicobacter pylori in the large population." "Nonsense, my son didn't feed it like this when he was a child, and it was chewed up." Mother was speechless and ate silently.
Scenario 2:
When the baby is playing, grandparents are chasing after a bite of rice. Where the baby runs, grandparents chase it.
The result of this is that it is unsanitary for adults and children to use a pair of chopsticks, and it is not easy to form good habits without eating in a dining chair. Finally, it is easy to support the baby after catching up with the meal, and eating cold rice and cold dishes will eat bad stomach.
3. Other things about the baby
The mother only allowed the baby to watch TV for half an hour, and the baby agreed. Time passed, and the baby cried, and grandparents dared to come. "The baby doesn't cry, and the mother is not good. Let's go to grandparents' room. "Secretly show the baby all morning until the baby says don't look.
The baby has to eat by himself, but his grandparents won't let him. There are grains of rice everywhere, so it is better to feed them. As a result, I went to kindergarten and had to feed my aunt, but I didn't eat it myself.
As a result, mother's education has no weight in children's eyes. Anyway, it's okay to have grandparents to help me. Children's hands-on ability will be much worse than other children.
In fact, many times grandparents have good intentions and love their children, but sometimes they have to listen to the opinions of young people. After all, pigs are raised scientifically now, not to mention people. Also, educating children is the responsibility of parents, and elders can rest assured to give it to their parents.
Of course, if conditions permit, it is better for children to be raised by their parents. If you don't have the conditions and need the help of the elderly, you should also be grateful to the elderly for their efforts and help, praise them more, put yourself in their shoes and discuss everything calmly. I think old people will listen.