Idea: 3 to 4 people in each family.
The expectation of marriage changes with the arrival of a well-off life, such as the amount of income, the investment in housework, and whether or not to give birth is no longer of special concern. Both sides pay more attention to: keeping close, observing the marriage agreement, understanding each other, and creating a comfortable and quiet nest.
The number of people who marry late and have children late has increased.
Idea: There are more and more single and unmarried people, and the number of voluntary infertility is also rising.
In fact, the traditional concept of "men are the masters outside and women are the masters inside" is difficult to apply to modern people, and has even been completely overthrown. Because of the improvement of education and rich work experience, as well as a lot of information absorption and media reports on gender issues, modern women have produced the concept that "women can have their own world". Therefore, after the autonomy of love is improved, there are more things to consider in choosing a spouse and getting married.
There is a doggerel saying that men look at women around the age of 30, not at academic qualifications; Men look at women after the age of 30, looking at experience; When a man looks at a woman over forty, he looks at the medical record. In fact, such men and women are very sad. One is just "watching", the other is just "being watched", and in the end there will be nothing.
Therefore, it is suggested that older men should not ask too much, because in the end, they can only marry a wife, stop, give themselves more opportunities, get along with women more, don't just "look", and strive to pursue their own happiness; Older women, it doesn't matter if they miss it. It's not too late. Even if those men prefer young girls, we still have to work hard for our own happiness. If you can't get married, you can find sustenance in other ways. Actually, it's not bad to be a "single lady".
3. Sex education is more scientific and popular.
Idea: Young people are less reckless because of curiosity and more cautious about premarital sex.
4. Choosing a spouse pays more attention to interest than economy
Viewpoint: Choosing a spouse pays more attention to the same interests, and the importance of economic conditions is reduced. Young men and women prefer each other to belong to the same social class as themselves.
The ideal partner of young women is humorous, respectful and full of fun, but the influence of economic conditions and family background will gradually disappear.
5. Pursuing the quality of marriage
Idea: The quality of marriage has become the goal that people pursue.
Most families can't make do with it, and the improvement of marriage adjustment ability will make family life richer, fresher and happier. In marriage, men and women are more equal, domestic violence is reduced, and husband and wife share family obligations.
Some people comment on the relationship between passion and peace in marriage-the energy of each love is doomed. The more intense you love, the faster you consume energy, just like a flame, which will be reduced to ashes in an instant after it is gorgeous all over the sky. And calmness and calmness can last a lifetime. Perhaps the duller the marriage, the higher the quality of love.
6. Transition from financial management to AA system
Idea: Family financial management will change from one-person system to AA system. Property notarization before marriage, after marriage, both husband and wife open an account in the bank and conduct independent economic accounting. According to the marriage agreement, husband and wife each bear their own economic obligations in family life.
7. Reduce family conflicts
Idea: The intensity of housework is reduced, and the contradiction between husband and wife due to housework is reduced. Housework will be socialized, household appliances will be popularized, and housework time will be shortened.
8. Rational divorce has increased.
Idea: Divorce by agreement and trial divorce have become the first choice for rational breakup, but the divorce rate will still rise.
The higher the level of knowledge and culture, the richer the feelings, the higher the demand for love. However, the social pressure of divorced people will be reduced accordingly.
The advantage of trying to divorce is that neither party will make a decision on impulse. Facing the reality, both of them will objectively and actively re-examine themselves, appreciate each other's strengths and review their own shortcomings, and the final choice is rational. If during the divorce trial, you really find that your marriage is loveless, asexual and useless, and the situation cannot be improved, then the divorce trial is also a buffer period for yourself. When you bid farewell to this marriage, you will also have a peaceful mind, give up at the right time and give yourself a chance to choose again.
9. Treat extramarital affairs rationally
Idea: Society continues to maintain a rational attitude towards extramarital affairs.
People's sense of responsibility for marriage comes more from self-knowledge, self-restraint and self-correction, rather than from external pressure. People demand the quality and emotion of marriage, the rights and enjoyment between husband and wife, and more freedom of choice and independent consciousness.
In an era when extramarital affairs are like rising prices frequently, we should learn to bear and face them with our own calm and mature psychology. You know, extramarital affairs are irresistible temptations, but home is a shelter from the wind.