Our people are always rethinking our education. Why are our students just ordinary students at home, but they can become top students abroad, but when it comes to solving specific problems in society, their problem-solving ability and creativity are not as good as those of foreign students?
The reason is that the education in our country is biased towards exam-oriented education, which is what we often call exam-oriented education. No matter what your comprehension ability is, as long as you do more questions and practice repeatedly, you can become the "top student" in people's eyes. Compared with a hard job. But this way can face the exam, but it is not enough to face the complicated society and too many unsolved problems in the world. Because of the lack of creativity and imagination, the problem of inflexibility is manifested. So the end result is to look like a "king". But the ability to solve practical problems is not strong.
In the same way, the current trend of "practicing your brain" on social media has the same effect as brushing questions at school. You don't need much thinking, you just need to master certain routines, and you want to go to the world. Some people even argue that this method can quickly improve everyone's emotional intelligence. In this regard, I can only say that it is understandable for young people who have just entered the workplace to exercise their reaction ability and activate the atmosphere, but if they regard it as a masterpiece of winning in the workplace, they will eventually lose themselves. I can't find my proper position.
There are three reasons:
First of all, due to my lack of social experience, it is normal to go in and out of the workplace, so it is inevitable that there will be mistakes in my work and it is impossible to be perfect. Don't force yourself at this time, which is more likely to cause emotional anxiety.
Secondly, we should find social skills suitable for ourselves and others. Everyone's personality and appearance are different, and their external feelings are different, so no formula can cover everyone. Therefore, in this kind of workplace communication, we must pay attention to maintaining our independent personality, which is the so-called personality charm. Only in this way can we distinguish ourselves from them and achieve the effect of avoiding shadows.
The last deep-seated reason, what is the significance of each of us coming into this world? Is it just to imitate others and play some fixed routines? Then how much fun is there in your life? After learning have it both ways's words, can life and work really be smooth sailing? Without our authenticity, we really won't dislike ourselves from the heart!
It is even more nonsense to regard one's mind as a high emotional intelligence, just like treating a speaker as an orator, which is not the same thing at all. At the same time, take a step back. Seriously, I practiced a lot. When I was in society, I played tricks and talked about means everywhere. Friends and relatives will gradually get to know you and think you are unreliable. This is not that emotional intelligence has become higher, but that emotional intelligence has become lower, and eventually the people are alienated from each other. Isn't this not worth the loss?
Having said that, I still think of the words left by my ancestors, "To be a man, we must do things honestly and be a man in a down-to-earth manner." There is no shortcut here. Some hardships are to be eaten, and some detours are to be taken. This is the experience and experience of life. With these, you can have the kind of free and easy and calm that Qian Fan will be as a teenager in the future.
I understand people's confusion and anxiety now, and hope to find a way to change the status quo quickly. But there really isn't, so I hope you can look at those jokes as jokes next time you see them. Just relax after work. Don't take it too seriously.