However, with the step-by-step renewal of the times and the progress of people's thinking, quite a few people began to abandon the "old tradition". After all, women now have a strong sense of independence, and they are no longer "tussah flowers" that can only survive by men.
Therefore, in order to show independence, women will also choose AA system, one person and half. Even this concept will continue from love to marriage.
Sister Liang is such an independent woman who has accepted the AA system. Sister Liang said, I fell in love with this handsome guy in a white shirt at that time. Moreover, I have a high degree and agree with the AA system proposed by the other party. Even when they are in love, they spend Valentine's Day on Tanabata. Eating, shopping and watching movies are all AA.
So, Sister Liang, who was in love on Valentine's Day AA, has been married for more than ten years now. How is it going?
Buying a house before marriage, Liang Jie's husband made a down payment, while Liang Jie's family made money to decorate household appliances, which was not less than the down payment. After marriage, both of them bear half of the mortgage, but there is no Liang Jie's name on the house.
At that time, Sister Liang devoted herself to love. Where would she care? Even if someone reminds her, she thinks that talking about money is too vulgar, which will defile her "innocent" love and marry her regardless.
Married life follows their previous mode of getting along, and it is still AA system. At first, everything was fine, at least it seemed so, and even they enjoyed the benefits of the marriage AA system.
Economically relatively free, as long as you earn enough money for yourself, you don't have to be afraid to go out to eat and buy clothes because you are in charge of the other party. Realize each other's difficulties, understand each other, and improve women's independent economic ability at the same time; Relatively loose economic freedom will make both sides more capable of creating a little romance. However, when the child was born, the problem began to appear gradually. The little angel who should be the crystallization of love has become a hot potato.
Children's daily necessities, milk powder, diapers and so on. My husband doesn't care, take care of or give money at all. The reason is: "these milk powders are not what I want you to buy!" "
When children grow up, they will attend interest classes and cram schools. In a few months, they will become thousands. Husband still ignored them with a cold face: "I don't agree with these remedial classes. If you want your children to participate, pay for it yourself! "
Sister Liang wanted to take her children out to travel and see the world. Her husband jumped up with anger: "I don't agree! What do you know at such a young age? Net waste of money! "
For more than ten years, Sister Liang, with the help of her family, brought up her children by herself. She once kept saying that she loved her husband, and became the head of the family, a typical "widowed marriage".
Fortunately, Sister Liang's job is good, and her salary can support her to bring up this child. What about her husband? His salary has always been saved by himself, and he has never paid more for his children's education and life. It seems that this child belongs entirely to Sister Liang.
Sister Liang said that when the children are older and the college entrance examination is over, they intend to divorce. And I finally understand that paying the bill before marriage depends on a person's outlook on life and values, and can't trust love too much and mistakenly pay for life.
Here I want to say to Sister Liang: Have you followed such a man for more than ten years? Besides, I want to continue to submit to humiliation for several years before I plan to divorce! What's the difference between your life now and after divorce? Youth has been fed to dogs, so why spend the rest of your life in it?
Our country used to be a male-dominated society, and almost everyone was used to the marriage mode of "the man is outside and the woman is inside". Seemingly in line with personality, in fact, women's status is very low. In today's society, people's minds are more and more open, and the label "housewife" has been eliminated by more and more men and women.
Young people in contemporary society accept and advocate AA system in order to keep women independent in personality and economy. Unlike toast flowers, they think that "you are responsible for making money to support the family and I am responsible for beauty" is a matter of course. They are obsessed with men and can only survive by men.
However, AA system is not a selfish excuse. No matter what kind of marriage, two people need to work together to share the pressure and sweetness brought by life. Instead of one party working hard, the other party will only seek pleasure, but don't know how to pay.
Apart from selfishness, I think the fundamental reason why Liang Jie's marriage has become this situation should be that this man has never loved so much from beginning to end. Perhaps he cares more about the money in his pocket than this love
Imagine how terrible it is that even the closest people sleeping next to you are calculating themselves and haggling over every ounce!
It is said that AA system will make women more independent and strong. Sister Liang is really strong and financially capable, but she was forced by her husband. A good marriage AA system is not their life.
In a variety show "The Romantic Travel of Wife", Fu Xinbo and Ying 'er got married in AA system. When shopping, Fu Xinbo gave her business card to Yinger, and she was as happy as a child.
We can't completely deny the disadvantages of AA marriage. The so-called "children are not fish, so you can know the happiness of fish?" We can't empathize with them. How can we know that they are unhappy? As long as you feel good.
However, if, like Sister Liang, we have to scrimp and save on both Valentine's Day in love and the cost of having children, we must keep a clear head and consider the reasons behind it.
There is a saying that "a man who is willing to spend money for you does not necessarily love you, and a man who is unwilling to spend a penny for you must not love you". There is some truth in this sentence. Never blindly pursue self-righteous beauty for love, and finally regret it.
Finally, I hope Sister Liang can stop the loss in time. You are already a towering tree, you don't need to be attached to anyone, you can live independently and spend the rest of your life with your children.