Generally speaking, due to the law of physical and mental development of men and women, men will develop later than women, which means that women will start aging earlier than men, so in real life, boys generally choose women younger than themselves to get married. First, it conforms to the law of physical and mental development, and second, it gets along more harmoniously. Yes, after all, it is suitable for marriage.
But anything that is not absolute is the most mysterious and elusive, just like you don't know what will happen tomorrow, and feelings are unpredictable and irregular. There are all kinds of possibilities, but as long as two people really love each other, everything is so natural.
When a wife is a few years older than her husband, she is always looked down upon and feels that this relationship is not far away. However, with the development of the times, people began to accept such a husband and wife combination. There is even a saying that the third girl holds a golden brick to describe the marriage in which her wife is several years older than her husband. But what if the wife is ten or even twenty years older than her husband? I believe many people will find it hard to accept.
A 23-year-old boy from Chongqing married a 46-year-old aunt despite his family's opposition.
They have been married for five years. What's going on now?
The young man's name is Tan Xiao. He is a chef in a restaurant. His hobby is riding a horse. Young people like to enjoy the beautiful scenery of nature by bike, so after work, he will ride his beloved bike to take pictures everywhere. It was this hobby that made him realize his favorite other half, Aunt Li.
Ms. Li, 46, has worked in a hospital for many years and is now the deputy chief physician of a hospital. She likes cycling, too, and they join a group of cyclists to chat. By chance, they started chatting. They both had many common topics and ideas, so the more they talked, the more speculative they became.
Gradually, they became "good friends" who talked about everything. Although they chatted happily on the Internet, they never met in real life, so Tan Xiao felt itchy after a long time. He really wants to meet the "female netizen" who chatted with him so happily on the Internet. So Tan Xiao suggested meeting.
Aunt Li, who is nearly half a century old, still doesn't understand the meaning. Although she is old, as a high-quality talent, she knows a lot about things on the Internet. She thinks she is married, and now she is 46 years old. There is another child who is afraid that meeting Tan Xiao, who is just 23 years old, will scare this child.
So after Tan Xiao proposed to meet, Aunt Li took the initiative to explain her situation to Tan Xiao, so as not to hurt the young boy's sensitive heart unintentionally. Sure enough, when Tan Xiao learned about Aunt Li, she was really scared. Because he always thought that the opposite was a girl who loved sports and was about his age.
He was silent for a long time, and his heart kept struggling. Recalling the dribs and drabs of chatting, Tan Xiao couldn't calm down for a long time, and finally he chose to meet Aunt Li. He doesn't care about age or children. He just wants to meet the woman who touches his heart so much.
After the two people met as scheduled, they did not have communication difficulties because of the age gap, nor did they scare each other away because of their looks. Instead, they communicated smoothly like old friends who had known each other for many years, but neither of them mentioned those things before them.
There is a good saying that after the first meeting, the two people got along much more smoothly, and they also participated in the bicycle race together, which was what happened in the race, which made the hearts of these two people closely linked from now on.
Hospital chaperones spark love and hold hands smoothly.
On the day of the race, Aunt Li accidentally fell down because of the brake failure. Tan Xiao, who was riding in front, turned around and gave up the race without hesitation and took Aunt Li to the hospital. Later, the doctor said it was a fracture and needed surgery to be hospitalized. During this period, Tan Xiao has been with him, serving Aunt Li.
It was the meticulous care during this hospitalization that instantly touched the 46-year-old Aunt Li. After leaving the hospital, she confessed loudly to Tan Xiao. Aunt Li refused with her mouth open, but she could never say it again. Finally, she agreed to Tan Xiao, and they got together smoothly.
The man's parents resolutely opposed it and made a scene in the woman's work unit.
But even if two people are together, there is still a difficult hurdle to get married, and that is Tan Xiao's parents. Tan Xiao's parents were furious when they learned that their son had married a woman 23 years older than him. They strongly object to Tan Xiao marrying Aunt Li. After all, this woman is not much worse than Tan Xiao's mother, so they said nothing.
However, the resolute opposition of parents did not make Tan Xiao flinch. In spite of his parents' opposition, he decided to register marriage with Aunt Li. After they got married, Tan Xiao's parents still couldn't accept it. They kept going to Aunt Li's hospital to make trouble, but every time Aunt Li patiently did her parents' work and comforted her little husband. Don't worry, she'll take care of it.
In the face of such a sensible daughter-in-law, the parents don't know where to scatter the fire. Over time, he gradually recognized the eldest daughter-in-law. Although Tan Xiao's parents are sometimes honest in the face of everyone's disapproval, on the whole, things have improved a lot and their lives have not been affected.
They say that when they choose to be together, they decide that their marriage is everyone's topic after dinner. How can we expect other blessings if the family doesn't recognize it? So they just accepted each other's unique love, and that affectionate love was enough to support them to stick to it. Never mind what others think.
Five years later, their love is still as fresh as ever.
Today, five years later, Tan Xiao left the hotel shortly after her marriage. With the help of Aunt Li, he opened his own car beauty shop. He also wants to earn more money for himself and his lover and give Aunt Ali a better and happy life. As for Aunt Li, five years have passed and now she is in her fifties. Years have left many marks on her face.
Although her little husband is less than 30 years old, Aunt Li knows that Tan Xiao's love for herself has not been shaken by the change of appearance. On the contrary, in the past five years, Tan Xiao has become more mature and stable, and the couple get along more and more smoothly. They still love each other deeply.
They often go out by bike, exercise together, enjoy the beautiful scenery and take photos together.
Problems that "Young Women" Should Pay Attention to
The age gap is really not a problem. Meeting is fate, and loving each other is understanding. Although Tan Xiao and Aunt Li's wedding didn't get the blessing of most people, everyone doesn't need others to evaluate whether they are happy or not, only they know.
Although I believe that Auntie and Lee love each other very much, they also have problems to solve in the process of getting along. I believe this is also a problem that many "girls are older than boys" families should pay attention to.
1, early birth
This is probably the primary appeal of the two families. Because if the woman is older than the man, then after a while, I am afraid I will miss the best childbearing age. Therefore, we should reach the understanding of having children as soon as possible after marriage, because there are contradictions in having children. Raising children together, two people can grow together, which is conducive to the stability of emotional family.
2. Correct role positioning
Sister-in-law love, even mother-in-law love, although there may be great differences in age, when you are in love, you must forget all the roles of the other party, and only treat the other party as an ordinary couple and communicate in a couple's way, instead of thinking that the other party wants to play the role of sister or the other party is a younger brother, and everything must be listened to by me. This kind of love will go wrong for a long time. In addition to good communication, we should also pay attention to accompany each other on weekdays to avoid emotional alienation.
3. express your love romantically
The loss of freshness is a problem that every couple will face, especially in the love between brother and sister and mother, which is more noteworthy. The woman is older than the man, and it is more difficult to maintain her charm. Therefore, in order to maintain the beauty of feelings, we need to learn to create romance. When facing each other every day, tell each other that you are more likable today than yesterday. Sister-in-law love and mother-in-law love are actually very stable relationships, because their feelings are really much better than those of couples of the same age and brothers and sisters. Their families seem happier and more stable, at least in terms of divorce.