I just started chatting with strange boys. Many girls like boys, but they don't know what to say. It is said that men chase women across the mountain and women chase men across the veil, but they don't know how to start, so how to chase them and take the initiative to talk to strange boys.
1 What did you say at the beginning of chatting with a strange boy?
1, hello, can you give me a little trouble to help me?
2. hey! Are you a friend of xxx? I am also a friend of xxx. Nice to meet you. Can I make friends with you?
3. hey? Aren't you xxx? I'm sorry, I mistook you for someone else. You are really alike. Ha ha ha, maybe you can make friends. Do you want me to introduce you?
4. Excuse me, handsome? I have too many things to take. Can you help me? After someone has helped you, in order to show your gratitude, you can ask him for contact information and invite him to dinner.
5. Have you seen the latest movie xxx? It's really good! I think,,, (If it happens that he also watched the film, you will naturally have a topic to talk about! If he hasn't seen it, you can give it to him.
6. The recent xxx game is very popular. Have you ever played? Do you want to team up together? Take me with you, I promise I won't lie to you!
7. I see that you seem to be reading a book on xxx recently, and I am reading it, too. We can discuss it together!
8. Wow! I saw you send a picture of xxx restaurant dishes in your circle of friends yesterday. Is it really that delicious? When shall we have the meeting?
How to start chatting with boys?
1 Attract each other's curiosity
Girls must attract boys' attention when chatting up boys, and bland chatting up boys won't like it, such as "What are you doing, are you free? Hello" and so on, which is not recommended. After all, we should consider each other's feelings in this matter. Girls want to attract boys, so they can say, "You look like one of my classmates. What's your name?"
At first, the boy thought you were his primary school classmate or classmate. Because it takes too long to remember, he will definitely reply to you at this time. Girls must seize this opportunity and don't let it out after boys' curiosity rises.
Help each other.
Girls are bound to encounter problems of all sizes. Girls can find some smaller questions to chat up boys. Of course, don't ask questions directly as soon as you come up, but ask the other person if they are free and then determine whether the boys are interested in you. A girl can say, "I have a question I don't understand. Can you help me solve it? " ,
If this boy is interested or a warm-hearted person, he will certainly promise you, and girls will also have the opportunity to befriend boys, so girls must not be shy, even if they are rejected, you will have nothing to lose.
Pretend to be an acquaintance
This kind of prologue is suitable for open girls. Generally, more introverted girls can't say such things, and even if they do, they won't take the next sentence. Girls can pretend to be acquaintances or friends with boys. For example, girls send boys "Long time no see, what are you doing". At this time, boys will definitely remember who you are or be curious about your identity.
This is also to arouse his curiosity. If he doesn't have the answer in his heart, he will take the initiative to ask who you really are, and then girls can answer the phone. Be sure to let nature take its course, or boys will think you are doing it.
Tell boys what to do.
1. What's your job?
When you want to pursue each other, you must show interest so that you can ask each other what they do. If the other person is willing to communicate with you, it means that two people may have a good impression.
2. You are single, right?
When you meet someone you like when interacting with boys, you must take the initiative to talk to them. At this time, you can be humorous. Generally, girls who are very confident in themselves are boys who will not refuse and will give you opportunities for common development.
I heard that you come from a company. Can you understand it?
Sometimes men are proud, so they like to show off their abilities. At this time, they can give men these satisfaction, show their admiration for each other when they meet, and also narrow the distance between you.
Talk to boys about opening remarks
1, hey, wait a minute, I only have one minute. If I don't say hello to you, I think I will regret it for the rest of my life. Because I think you are very friendly and I really want to know you.
I really want to know you, but I don't know how, so I just came to say hello to you. Do you mind?
I find you a particularly interesting place. "The other party will have great interest in asking questions when they hear this sentence. At this time, you can take the opportunity to communicate with each other. Such an opening remark is easy to talk about boys. "
Talking with strange boys on their own initiative, the second skill, information chat method
If you want to chat with a girl, you must have some information first. For example, what girls like to eat, where they like to play, what their usual hobbies are, and what kind of pets they like. What is the life state of this girl's ordinary life, and so on
Maybe at this time you will say, how do I know these things? It is not easy. You go to see her dynamics. You won't add that girl's WeChat just to see if that girl is beautiful, will you?
Find something you are familiar with from this girl's dynamics. Remember, it must be something you are familiar with, or talking nonsense will disgust the girl. If you have been in the navy and girls like the sea, then the sea will be the beginning of your chat.
I have read many books about human nature. People who like the sea generally yearn for a free life, so this girl should also yearn for a free life. At this time, you can take freedom as the topic again and continue to talk to her about freedom.
In fact, when chatting with a girl, as long as you find something she likes or something she recognizes, and your views are the same, you can't say that a girl will definitely like you, but what is certain is that a girl won't hate you. As long as girls don't hate you, you have a chance to go deeper.
This is just an example. If you really want to master the method of information chat, you should think more about each other's life and look at the state of her circle of friends. And so on. Slowly you will know what kind of person this girl is.
Girls who want to chat with boys they like can also use this trick. You know, know yourself and yourself.
Tip 2: Curious chat method.
Curious chat is a kind of chat skill that uses people's curiosity about unknown things and gossip to guide the other party to reply.
Let me tell you a little story.
The boy fell in love with the girl. The boy asked the girl's WeChat. Boys are experts in love and have mastered the curious chat method. Let's talk about how he did it in detail.
That night, the boy found a lovely picture of a pig and sent it to the girl. The girl is curious. Why did that boy send me a picture of a lovely pig? The girl wondered why the boy gave a lovely pig.
Girl: Who are you? This little pig is so cute!
Boy: This is my little guest here today.
Girl: Little guest? Do not understand; don't understand; ignorant of
Boy: My friend went on a trip, and his pig son was fostered by me for a few days.
Girl: Are you going to laugh me to death? I've only heard of dog sons. Never heard of pigs. Do you want to scold your friend indirectly?
Boy: He is the son of a pig, not an ordinary pig. Like people, he can not only sell cute, but also do somersaults.
Woman: Really? Can pigs still somersault?
Boy: Why should I lie to you?
Girl: I don't believe it anyway. Pigs can somersault.
Boy: Tell you what, you can invite me to dinner if you like, or I'll invite you to dinner.
Girl: Well, you are sure to lose. I want to have a French dinner.
Boy: Wait a minute, I'll make a video, and I'll eat you poor.
Girl: Let's shoot.
Boy: God, he didn't listen to my instructions. I am so angry. The last time his master was here, he could somersault, but not when he came to me.
Girl: Haha, you lost. My mouth is watering. A French dinner is waiting for me.
Boy: No, I'm trying. I cann't believe I cann't subdue it
Girl: You have 10 minutes.
10 minutes later
Boy: Hey, I lost, and it didn't listen to me. Are you free tonight? Invite you to a French dinner tonight.
Boy: I knew I shouldn't bet with you.
Girl: Yes, let's meet at so-and-so restaurant at eight.
Isn't this the first step of dating?
First, the pig can somersault to arouse the girl's curiosity, and then make a bet with the girl. In fact, whether you win or lose, don't you achieve your goal? Even if you win, you will choose to invite him to dinner out of gentlemanly manners.
Tip 3: Ask for help and chat.
I'll simulate a scene for you directly.
Boy: Are you there?
Girl: Hmm. (girl's usual answer)
Boy: I want to ask you something.
Girl: What is it? We don't seem to know each other very well, do we
Boy: See the video of illustration in your circle of friends. Did you make it yourself?
Girl: Yes, I'm studying this piece now.
Boy: Isn't Mother's Day coming soon? I want to find a floral teacher to design a gift for my mother.
Girl: Not easy. Just go to the flower shop and buy ready-made ones.
Boy: That was careless. You might as well design it yourself. Touch my old lady, I want to ask the floral teacher to design it like this, I will do it myself, and then the floral teacher will coach me. (highlighting your filial piety can also win the favor of girls. )
Girl: Your mother is so happy. I make one for my mother, too.
Boy: Why don't we be partners and make gifts for two mothers together? I will be creative and you will be technical.
Girl: You say it, and I'll do it. Did I lose something?
Boy: We are helping each other. When we finish, I'll treat you to dinner. You can choose a place. When two people finish one thing together, the chances are much greater. Helping each other is easy to produce feelings)
Girl: That's more like it. Ok, when will you come?
Boy: Come tomorrow. It doesn't matter to spend more time. You must make it perfect.
Girl: OK, I'll send you a seat later.
Starting with girls' floral knowledge, let boys make gifts for their mothers, ask girls for help, ask them to help complete the gifts, and guide girls to meet.
This method needs to learn from the information chat method.
Summary:
These three methods are common to men and women. If you really want to master these three chat skills, then extend three examples. Because everyone's preferences are different, you should learn to extend. According to the actual situation of the other party, use these three skills.
Take the initiative to chat with strange boys Start with 3 1, and share the food. Humans evolved from animals and instinctively have a great thirst for food. You can share some delicious snacks with him, or recommend going to a good restaurant together, which will increase the other person's goodwill towards you. For example, you brought some local specialties for him to taste. Under normal circumstances, out of reciprocity, he will bring you something delicious next time, and your topic can start with food and hometown.
2, help needs, everyone will have a kind heart, will be willing to do some simple help. You can mention to the other person that you need some small help from him, such as helping to move things, or you can borrow a pen from him during class. If he lends you a pen, then you have reason to invite him next time;
If he says "I'm sorry I didn't bring it", you can also say "I just brought it, I'll lend you a pen, and remember to bring me something delicious next time"; If you don't have contact information yet, you can also say, "It just happens that my mobile phone is dead. Please take a handout and send me the photos on WeChat."
3. Scene projection. There is a famous Capilano suspension bridge experiment in psychology. When 1 girl leaves her phone number with a boy who walks through the suspension bridge, the probability of her receiving a phone call at night is as high as 80%. The scientific explanation of this experiment: it is easier to feel the heartbeat of the opposite sex around you when you are in a dangerous or exciting scene.
So you can choose a place with beautiful environment. When a boy is exercising vigorously, send him an invitation, and the probability of success is definitely high. Imagine that the afterglow of the setting sun shines brightly on the sky, and the boys are sweating like rain on the basketball court. When he left the court, you handed him a bottle of water, told him that the ball was really beautiful and gave him a big smile. The boys must be very impressed with you.
Or you can take part in some exciting games or watch a horror movie. When you approach him at a critical moment, the other person will have a very strong feeling for you.
Louis Hay said, "Inner self-worth and self-esteem are the most important things a woman can have." High self-esteem and affirmation of self-worth are closely related to women's clear understanding of "who I am". The first step of women's awakening is to find out what is wrong with some women's values that are acquiesced or even established by society. It can be seen that you are also in the moment of self-awakening and dare to say "no" to the established social model.
Therefore, it is very normal for a woman to bravely and generously confess to a boy she likes, and there is no need to feel anxious about it. There is a saying in China that "men chase women, separated by a mountain; Women chasing men, interlayer yarn ",waiting for your good news.
I hope my reply is helpful to you. If you have any questions, please feel free to consult me. I hope everything goes well and every day is full of love and sunshine.