(Note) Individualized education is the development direction of future basic education. Individualization of school education, systematization of social education and specialization of family education are three important components of individualized education. A family education plan extracted here reflects the concept and requirements of personalized education to some extent. Although it is not perfect, it can play a role in attracting jade for parents.
First, the profile of children.
Xiaomei (a pseudonym) is an 8-year-old girl who is now in Grade Two in a foreign language primary school.
Good health, height and weight all reach the average level of children of the same age, above average intelligence, vigorous skills, love sports, like dancing, strong sense of music, and can play guzheng.
Good mentality, good heart, optimistic and open-minded, easy to meet, introverted and timid. Usually I don't pay much attention to study and work, and my movements are slow.
The scores of all subjects in school are above the class average.
Second, children's own yearning for the future.
Xiaomei has a simple heart and yearns for a warm and happy life in the future. She wants to live like Princess Barbie. Because I loved dancing since I was a child, I dreamed of becoming a "dancer" in the future. She once said more than once, "I don't want anything but dancing and painting."
Third, parents' expectations of their children.
Because Xiaomei is an only child, her parents love her children very much. Nevertheless, I don't spoil children at ordinary times. Parents hope Xiaomei can become a self-reliant person when she grows up. I don't want to see my children suffer setbacks in their future lives, and I don't want my children to become famous. The only expectation is to make children safe and happy all their lives. According to the child's current body, intelligence, personality, interest, ability and mentality, it is considered that Xiaomei's future career direction is basically a white-collar worker with certain professional skills.
Fourth, the planning of personalized family education.
1, learn to be a man.
In the final analysis, being a person is to be a social person. Therefore, the education of children is to let them adapt to the social environment from an early age; The second is to learn interpersonal communication and correctly handle interpersonal relationships. As the saying goes: "national laws, family rules." In order to let children enter the society ruled by law smoothly in the future, we should make rules for children at home. At home, parents and children are family members, and parents and children get along equally. Whatever you do, adults and children should be reasonable. Unreasonable and unreasonable things are absolutely not allowed to exist. Xiaomei is introverted. In order to make up for the child's weakness, on the one hand, create conditions for her to participate in some self-presentation activities, such as the "small host training class" held by TV stations and the "small talent show" held by schools. On the other hand, consciously let her participate in small parties, mother-infant groups and other party activities.
Learning interpersonal communication is not a simple matter of skills and methods, but a matter of learning to respect and care for people. Respect and care between people are mutual. To make Xiaomei know how to respect people, we must first make her feel that although she is young, she is always respected at home. Because she feels the need to be respected and the warmth of being cared for, she will realize the importance of respecting and caring for others.
Parents should educate their children in different ways at different stages of their growth. Our principle is: in childhood, children are not sensible, so parents should walk in front of their children, give them directions and help them find ways; At puberty, children gradually mature. At this time, parents should walk beside their children, accompany them and help them solve some puzzles when necessary. In youth, when children are mature, parents should give orders to their children as little as possible, let them go ahead and follow behind, encourage and support them, and be their advisers when necessary.
2. Enlighten wisdom.
Besides studying various subjects at school, every parent cares about the development of children's intelligence and ability. In fact, the cultivation of attention, observation, imagination and creativity is more important than learning knowledge and skills. Aiming at the problem that Xiaomei's attention is not very concentrated, on the one hand, we let her train her auditory attention and the ability to use both hands and brains by learning to play guzheng; On the other hand, encourage her to read interesting extracurricular books and ask her to talk about her feelings after reading them. In order to expand my knowledge, I am going to take her to see exhibitions, performances and frequent trips.
3. Develop habits.
As the saying goes, "Behavior forms habit, habit forms character, and character determines fate". Explain that a person's behavior habits are extremely important to his future life and work. Among all behavioral habits, diligence and seriousness have the greatest influence on people. Because habits can be extended and continued, what kind of living habits a person has since childhood, what kind of study habits and work habits he will have when he grows up. To this end, cultivating Xiaomei's habits should start with living habits.
To cultivate a child's habit of hard work, parents should first establish an idea that from the child's childhood, she should do everything that the child's physical strength and ability can do. This includes children's own affairs (dressing, folding quilts, washing clothes, arranging toys, etc.). ), and undertake the housework within your power.
Cultivating children's habit of doing things seriously is very important for completing their current learning tasks and achieving their careers in the future. This kind of education has always penetrated into the little things in life. Let the children understand a truth: things must be done seriously. If you don't do anything, you must do it well. Gradually concentrate on reading, writing and doing math problems.
4. Emotional education.
Emotional education has a great influence on children's growth. The most important thing is to keep children in a positive and healthy attitude. We should not only have a positive spirit, but also have a stable mood, and always maintain an optimistic spirit when encountering difficulties and setbacks. Xiaomei is a girl. Fortunately, she is introverted. Therefore, in emotional education, she should emphasize character training and pay attention to cultivating strong will. For example, when she was a child, she always cried when she was unhappy or unhappy. Every time she cries, we will remind her: "It's no use crying". Then help her solve the problem, and slowly she learned to use a positive attitude and try to solve the problem. Children will always encounter all kinds of difficulties and setbacks in the process of growing up, which is not terrible. The terrible thing is that they lose courage in difficulties and setbacks. Parents should always care about their children's inner emotions, listen to their inner voices and exchange ideas with their children like friends. Let them grow up in praise and advance in encouragement.