First of all, education should start with understanding children, strengthen emotional communication with children and establish good family relations. Understanding is to understand the child's personality, interests, hobbies, what he is thinking, what he usually does and what kind of people he associates with. Understanding means not to ignore the role of children in the family. Children have something to express their opinions in the family, and don't say "what do children know". We should listen to their opinions in major family affairs and build a democratic family, that is, the rights and status of every member of the family are respected. Respecting children's rights and status at home is not blindly doting on children and putting them in the position of "little emperor". Obedience to children is not respect, but doting.
Secondly, teaching by example is more important than teaching by example. In the family, children grow up under the influence and education of their parents and know the world around them. Parents' attitudes towards life, career and life have an important influence on their children. Therefore, parents should constantly improve their own quality.
On the basis of the above knowledge and understanding of children, while attaching importance to setting an example, we should pay attention to the educational method of "opening a lock with one key", which can receive good results.
Below, the performance and main education methods of several common types of children are listed:
The first category: children with excess energy.
These children are mainly fond of playing and fighting, and difficult to discipline, but they are smart, active, quick-witted and receptive.
The main methods of education: first, we should establish good interpersonal relationships with children and let them know that they are not "disobedient children", so that they can easily receive psychological education and guidance. Secondly, we should let go and discipline appropriately. If the discipline is too strict, it will be counterproductive if it is not in line with their personality. Give him some freedom, some time and space for activities. Thirdly, patient teaching: patient education and persuasion, through reasoning, let children understand that some of their "opinions" are not so good and do not conform to social morality and norms, so as to give up their "opinions" on their own initiative, overcome their own problems and gradually move towards the road of growth.
The second category: children who are not attentive in class.
Such children are mainly active, fun and talkative in class, and even absent-minded when studying at home. Regarding the education of such children, some parents said, "That's a school matter, and I shouldn't be in charge, and I can't sit next to the children." In fact, to cultivate children to concentrate on listening, we should start from daily life, because living habits and study habits are closely related.
The main methods of education: first, parents should train their children to listen and do it at once; Secondly, in life, parents can consciously train their children's obedient ability, such as arranging three or four things, what to do first, what to do later, and what to do finally. Parents can observe whether their children are like this; Thirdly, parents should consciously cultivate their children's attention and talk to them. Children must look at your face and listen. Fourth, parents can also tell their children some tips for attending classes; Fifth, parents should try their best to let their children retell the contents of the class, or talk about the most impressive problems in the class.
The third category: children who pursue money and material enjoyment.
This kind of children are mainly characterized by "wearing famous brands and eating fine products", paying attention to food and clothing, and some have to go to school by motorcycle and tricycle.
The main methods of education: first, parents should set an example, be hard and simple, and tell their childhood life experiences and stories; Secondly, parents should tell their children about their family income and expenditure plans and seek their opinions appropriately; Thirdly, effectively educate children to spend money in a planned way and educate children with typical examples.
The fourth category is children who have no attitude towards the education of their elders.
Such children turn a deaf ear to the education of their parents and teachers.
The main educational methods: first, let children understand the painstaking efforts of their parents and understand that any educational methods of parents and teachers are for the healthy growth of children; Secondly, education should be carried out in a harmonious atmosphere to eliminate their "hostility" and make them willing to listen; Third, give the child the right to speak and let him tell the reason, even if it is incorrect or untrue; Fourth, be more tolerant. After education, we will do something wrong, give us a chance to correct it and wait patiently. Fifth, the tone of educating children should be firm, and parents of both sides should speak in the same way. Some parents are joking, some are careless, some are understated, and some are boastful, which is not conducive to education.
The fifth category, children with serious inertia.
This kind of children are mainly manifested in passive learning, incomplete or plagiarized homework, which leads to blank test papers or cheating in exams and lax life.
The main methods of education: first of all, we should start training from the usual housework, and don't let children open their mouths to ask for food and reach for clothes; The second is to help children make plans and strengthen supervision and inspection; Third, parents should lead by example and lead by example in everything; Fourth, we should cultivate the habit of hard work from the small things that children can do, persevere and insist on training.
In short, parents only need to adhere to the educational principle of "moving with emotion, understanding with reason, guiding with action and perseverance" in family education.
First, educate children to "learn to be human"
Educating children to learn to be human is the main and fundamental task of family education, and it is also the core issue of implementing the concept and requirements of quality education. Educating children to be human is to attach great importance to children's ideological and moral education. As parents, we can't value intellectual education over moral education. Because what is more important than knowledge is ability, and what is more important than ability is morality. Family education focuses on educating children to be human beings, mainly to improve their ideological and moral level, cultivate their habits of observing social morality, and enhance their legal awareness and sense of social responsibility.
Second, educate children to "learn to seek knowledge"
There are many ways to learn knowledge, but the important one is to cultivate children's good study habits. Don't force children to "memorize" knowledge, but focus on understanding and learning to use knowledge flexibly.
Third, educate children to "learn to work"
It is necessary to guide children to participate in housework as much as possible, support children to participate in social welfare work, and cultivate their self-care ability and work habits. Children who study and work from an early age will benefit for life. Diligence is the foundation of all virtues, and laziness is the root of all evils. Therefore, it is a compulsory basic course for family education to arrange children to participate in labor from an early age. Fourth, educate children to "learn to stand on their own feet"
In the process of children's growth, there will be many bumps. Therefore, parents should cultivate their children's independent ability, the ability to face setbacks bravely, and the ability to improvise, so that children can learn to hone their wings and fly in the vast world.
Today's society is a competitive society. People in this highly competitive era will be eliminated by society if they have no knowledge, special skills and various abilities. Therefore, parents should not only educate their children to learn cultural and scientific knowledge well, but also actively participate in other activities to cultivate their children's abilities in all aspects, so that they can develop in an all-round way and become useful people in society. The education and cultivation of children is a very complicated knowledge, and our parents will try their best to cooperate with the school education and create a good environment for the healthy growth of children.
Fourth, cultivate children's love for learning.
It is not enough for parents to tell their children that it is important to go to school. They must also explain to their children that learning cannot stop with higher grades or diplomas. Learning is a way of life.
You don't have to spend a lot of money to improve your children's interest in learning, but let them see that you are reading. You can take them to museums or exhibitions. These rich extracurricular activities will make children have a strong desire for knowledge.
Mr. Maybad, who was awarded the title of "Einstein-style youth" by the US Department of Education, strongly advocated that parents must participate in activities organized by their children's schools. Doing so will let them know that you really care about what they are doing.
You don't have to have special skills, and you don't have to spend a lot of spare time helping children. Most teachers welcome parents to accompany their children on an outing, call other parents and print their children's term special reports. Often ask the teacher what help he needs.
Verbs (short for verb) communicate openly.
It is very important to find time to communicate with teachers, ask and observe what children are learning at the same time, and get these exact information. Parents can call the teacher to find out what their children have learned in class and what homework they have left.
Sixth, help children to be organized.
Help children make a study plan, mark all their homework on the calendar, and let them do it well in advance.
Most importantly, parents should spend some time with their children. Research shows that it is important for the whole family to eat together. Generally speaking, children who eat with the whole family are more educated. The more vivid and clear the conversation at dinner, the more helpful it is for children to learn vocabulary. The larger the vocabulary, the stronger their reading ability.
Seven, the process and the result are equally important.
Parents need to create a carefree learning environment for their children and don't put too much pressure on them. Many times parents only value scores. If the child is a top student but can't tell you what he has done to get such good grades, then parents should fully understand his learning process at this time.
When children need help, parents give them some inspiration and let them find the answer by themselves. Don't tell them the answer directly, but ask him, "where do you think I can find the answer?" In the dictionary or online? "
Poor exam results are a sign that we should talk to our children. What caused him to fall behind? Does he need counseling? Or did he get bad grades because he didn't do his homework? These parents should understand clearly.
Have high expectations for children.
One way to encourage children to think about the future is to set family goals. Parents write a task book, the content of which is what their family should achieve this year, including what progress their children should make. Teachers also have their own tasks, don't let any students fall behind, try their best to help students with poor grades get good grades, and help students with excellent grades to a higher level. Have high expectations for children, and let children know this, which can encourage children to have confidence in themselves and make continuous progress.
1, let children like education. As a parent, what do you think is the most important thing to educate your children? "The most important thing in educating children is to make them like education itself and make them feel that education is a very happy thing, not a painful thing. Only in this way can they receive education happily. Therefore, I hope that children will go to school with a smile every morning and come back with a smile in the afternoon. " It is not easy to make children like education. How long do parents spend with their children every day? I must have breakfast with the children every day. After school in the afternoon, I will have afternoon tea with the children and listen to some interesting things in school. It can be said that as long as children want to be with their parents, their parents will be with them. Therefore, the time for parents to arrange work is basically from 9 am to 3 pm, because that is exactly the time for children to go to school. "
2. Sex education and surfing the Internet. For most parents in China, there may be two puzzling problems in their children's education: one is how to educate their children about sex, and the other is how to control their children's surfing the Internet. "Sex education is very simple, that is, the whole family, including children, watch videos introducing human knowledge together and learn human knowledge with children. That's it. It's simple. The problem of surfing the internet is also very easy to deal with. The child's computer and the parent's computer are connected together, so the child's computer is supervised by the parent's computer, and the parents are very clear about the content of the child's Internet access. "
3. There is no generation gap with children. There is no generation gap except the choice of playing computer games. .
4. About scores, hobbies and expectations. Parents still pay more attention to their children's test scores, because "this also reflects their mastery of knowledge. If the child's test scores are not satisfactory, parents should find the reasons with their children and contact the school if necessary to find out the reasons for the unsatisfactory results. " We should basically not interfere with the cultivation of children's hobbies. Since it is a hobby, as long as there is no harm, as long as they like it. What are the children's own expectations for the future, but no matter what they do in the future, it is very important to educate their children to have good behavior now. "
Nine, what every parent should do.
The job is to encourage children to listen to them, so that they can know what they are thinking and leave them time. Finally, as parents, we should always ensure that our children are on the right track! "