Recently, I was listening to the Himalayan radio program "Ye Wen has something to say" and had an interactive question-and-answer mode with the audience. Many people call the hotline to tell their confusion on emotional issues.
I like Ye Wen's hosting style very much: his words are sharp, he hits the nail on the head, he is merciless, and he never drags his feet, just like frying soybeans in a hot pan, which sounds particularly enjoyable.
? A young man told his story. He and his girlfriend were classmates in junior high school, but his girlfriend was admitted to the university. After graduating from junior high school, he went to the field to be a soldier. Now he has changed his job and started to work.
In the last three months, he has invested too much in love. His girlfriend's family is poor and not as rich as his own. He has given his girlfriend nearly 30 thousand yuan. He thinks his girlfriend is too material, but he is afraid to ask and say, for fear of losing his girlfriend accidentally. His girlfriend is a virgin. In his eyes, this condition is very rare in today's society.
My girlfriend wants to buy something, but she doesn't tell him directly. Instead, she likes to send friends. "I want to buy new clothes and have no money. What should I do? "
? When talking to her boyfriend on the phone, she will suddenly hang up the computer. "The phone is broken and I can't talk." He was unhappy about his girlfriend's beating around the bush, but he couldn't explain it. He had to pay for clothes for his girlfriend and bought a 4700 yuan mobile phone.
? I thought that children from poor families should know how to be frugal, but what just happened completely subverted his beautiful imagination.
? The holiday is coming, and he wants to take his girlfriend out for a trip to see her performance in daily life. He called his girlfriend for 5000 yuan to book a hotel. Who knows, the room booked by his girlfriend is 1000 yuan for one night! He thinks that one or two hundred dollars is enough for two people who are in love.
? There is no doubt that this is indeed a material vulgar girl. She regards herself as a commodity and waits for a price in love. I've had enough of being poor, and I can finally stand with my boyfriend. Money is easy to come by, and you don't feel bad when you spend it, which fully satisfies your vanity.
? When she takes material things as her love goal. Boyfriend is not necessarily the most satisfactory candidate for her. Who will she fall in love with when she meets a man who is more generous than her boyfriend?
As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together. The reason why a boy attracts such a girl is because he also has his own shallow and ignorant side. The virgin girl is the best, the treasure in his eyes and the partner he needs. So he is willing to spend a lot of money for the so-called love, although the money is not all he has, but his parents' hard-earned money!
? Is that really the case? Hymen, is it a measure of a woman's quality? As Lu Xun said, "Only those men who are like rabbits, turtles, fish, turtles, shrimps and crabs value women's physical purity more than their spiritual purity."
If he tells his girlfriend that mom and dad are bankrupt and have no money, will his girlfriend continue to share joys and sorrows with him?
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There is also a story about a lovelorn girl.
? She just broke up with her boyfriend for ten days, started dating a month ago, and has spent more than 10 thousand yuan on her boyfriend.
? Boyfriend's salary is not high, but every time he buys her a gift, it is always expensive.
? Not long ago, her boyfriend was late for her birthday. The present she gave was a diamond necklace and a bunch of flowers. She told her that a friend came from other places and could only stay with her for a while. She wanted to meet his friend. They haven't seen each other for several days. The girl felt wronged and began to cry. Her boyfriend promised her not to leave.
? But she said, "Your friend is waiting for you there. Why don't you go? " So the boyfriend finally left.
? Ten days after her birthday, her boyfriend didn't contact her. She was so angry that she sent a message to her boyfriend asking for a breakup. I didn't expect her boyfriend to agree, but he didn't mean to keep her. "Let's break up. I'm tired of getting along with you these days. "
? This is also a man with cognitive problems. He thinks that women are materialistic and willing to throw money at them, thinking that money works. If I spend money for you, you should be kind and respect me, instead of holding you all day and holding you carefully. If I can't get it, I won't force it.
? Girls' small temper is what men hate. On the one hand, she feels at ease about money; On the one hand, I regard myself as a princess, forgetting that the most important thing in love is equality, treating men as fathers and asking people to take care of me unconditionally. Obviously, people who don't love themselves can only make love everywhere. Since we broke up, I wouldn't have thought of returning other people's precious gifts and losing a girl's dignity.
You know, not all money can be spent with peace of mind. Falling in love is not a cheap deal for women to raise prices. A dignified woman never talks about the price, so it is priceless.
Life is a lot of desires. Desire will be painful if it is not satisfied, and it will be boring if it is satisfied. Life will swing between pain and boredom.
Reducing one's desire is exactly what "frugality" wants to express. "Tao" is the mother of all things, so "goodness" comes from "Tao" and is a universal spiritual concern, while "frugality" should be our true attitude towards the material world.
? Love is precious, dignity is more expensive!
Yin Binglian, pen name Han Xiang, is a special correspondent of Tulip Sunshine Association. After 70, he was a member of Zhucheng Writers' Association, a cutting-edge star of 2 1 century cutting-edge writers' network, a member of Tulip public welfare alliance, and the president of Weifang Tulip Sunshine Association.
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