With the development of society, although fewer and fewer parents have this idea, they still make discordant voices from time to time.
Whenever someone questions their behavior, they always retort, "My palms are covered with meat. How can you only love your son and not your daughter? "
However, they never thought that when stimulated by the outside world, the instinctive reaction of the hand is to make a fist to protect the palm inside and expose the back of the hand.
When the son they protect can't give them a happy old age, they will think of their daughter and act so confident regardless of her actual situation and feelings.
0 1、
Xiaohui has a twin brother.
From Xiaohui's memory, whether it is to divide toys or eat snacks, it is the younger brother's priority. Xiaohui is almost always scolded when she fights with her brother.
In such a family environment, Xiaohui has developed a sensible and self-reliant character.
During her college years, Xiaohui won a scholarship through her own efforts and earned living expenses part-time in her spare time.
Xiaohui, who is sensible, scrimps and saves money and occasionally calls her home or brother.
After graduating from college, parents asked Xiaohui and her brother to send half of their monthly income home to buy a house. Parents also specifically promised to write only their own names on the real estate license.
Although Xiaohui felt a little uncomfortable, she agreed to it as a monthly alimony to her parents.
Later, Xiaohui met her husband at work. Because the family conditions of both parties are not very good, the wedding room has become a difficult problem for them to get married.
So Xiaohui discussed with her mother: "mom, I'm getting married, but I don't have enough money to buy a house at once." Do you think you can support me? " Consider it my loan, and I'll pay you back later. "
Xiaohui's mother said impatiently, "when we bought a house, the money at home had been spent." Where can we lend you money? "
Seeing her mother's resolute attitude, Xiaohui had to discuss with her mother again: "Mom, do you think we should temporarily lend the house as a wedding room?"
Afraid of her mother's disapproval, Xiaohui quickly added, "Don't worry, we will move out after our honeymoon."
Xiaohui's mother flatly refused: "Xiaohui, it is their family that marries a daughter-in-law, not our family that recruits a son-in-law." Why should we use our house as a wedding room? "
Xiaohui tried to persuade again, but her mother turned and left, leaving a sentence: "Don't even think about it!" " "
Xiaohui had no choice but to sell her husband's ancestral home, borrow some money from relatives and friends and mortgage a two-bedroom apartment.
Although life is a little tight because of buying a house, Xiaohui still insists on calling her parents, with a monthly fee of 2,000 yuan, which has nothing to do with the property under her parents' name. Xiaohui is just doing her filial piety.
The next thing finally made Xiaohui understand that in the eyes of her parents, her understanding and filial piety became weak.
02、
After selling her ancestral home, Xiaohui's in-laws moved in to live with them.
Although the two-bedroom apartment is a bit narrow, the family is very harmonious and the life is very harmonious.
But something happened to Xiaohui's parents.
After Xiaohui's younger brother got married, they were not used to living with their parents because of their different lifestyles.
At first, Xiaohui's sister-in-law had some disputes with her parents. Later, even Xiaohui's younger brother began to quarrel with his parents.
Facing Xiaohui's younger brother and sister-in-law, Xiaohui's parents repeatedly compromised, but they still could not satisfy them.
Xiaohui's brother and sister-in-law gradually developed from initial indifference to rude scolding.
In order to get the approval of her son and daughter-in-law, Xiaohui's parents kept the property under Xiaohui's name.
This behavior of Xiaohui's parents not only did not ease the relationship with his son and daughter-in-law, but made their relationship worse.
One day, Xiaohui's sister-in-law flew into a rage over a trivial matter. She shouted at her in-laws, "Don't you have a daughter? Why are you with us all day! "
The daughter-in-law's words made Xiaohui's parents suddenly realize that they had really been living with their son.
Especially when I think that Xiaohui's in-laws have been living in Xiaohui's house, their psychology is even more unbalanced.
So Xiaohui's parents immediately packed their bags and hurried to Xiaohui's house.
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Xiaohui was very surprised when faced with her parents who suddenly came with their luggage.
After letting parents enter the house to greet each other, Xiaohui asked, "Dad, Mom, is there anything at home?"
Xiaohui's mother replied unhappily, "I think you have forgotten who your parents are!" " Do we have to have something to live here? "
Xiaohui hurriedly explained, "Mom, look at what you said! I'm sure I'm happy that you and dad are coming to live! "
Because there are only two bedrooms, Xiaohui intends to let her husband sleep on the sofa in the living room. She is in a bedroom with her mother-in-law and her father is in a bedroom.
Xiaohui's mother was very dissatisfied with Xiaohui's arrangement and refused to share the bed with Xiaohui's mother-in-law.
Finally Xiaohui's father-in-law came out to make amends. He and Xiaohui's husband huddled on the sofa in the living room. Xiaohui and her mother-in-law share a bedroom, and Xiaohui's parents share a bedroom.
After a few days, Xiaohui couldn't help it. After separating her in-laws from her husband, she is going to have a frank talk with her parents.
Seeing that both her in-laws and son-in-law were absent, Xiaohui's mother became unscrupulous. She reprimanded Xiaohui and said, "How can you allow your in-laws to live with you for so many years? Let your father and I even have no place to live! "
Xiaohui explained: "Mom, the down payment of this house was made after the in-laws sold their ancestral home, so they should all live here out of affection." Isn't our house very three-bedroom? How come you have no place to live? "
Facing Xiaohui's question, Xiaohui's mother became angry from embarrassment and said, "What do you care? Is it because there are three bedrooms at home that I can't accompany you? "
Facing her mother's hysteria, Xiaohui had to stop talking. She decided to talk to her brother.
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Brother is not at home, Xiaohui is received by her sister-in-law
My sister-in-law is very polite and thoughtful about Xiaohui's arrival.
When Xiaohui asked about the house, her sister-in-law took out the real estate license unhurriedly. Xiaohui looked at her brother's name and shook her head helplessly.
Xiaohui came home and said directly to her parents, "Mom and Dad, why don't you discuss the transfer of the house to your younger brother?"
Seeing that Xiaohui knew the truth, Xiaohui's mother stopped hiding it and said, "The house will be left to your brother sooner or later. What does it matter to discuss with you? "
Xiaohui was very angry and said, "mom, I also spent money on the house at home." Why doesn't it matter to me? " Why did you give the house to your brother without consulting? "
Xiaohui's mother said, "How much did your house cost? You get enough money every month, which can only be regarded as alimony for your father and me! "
In the face of tangled mother, Xiaohui doesn't want to make any more noise.
Xiaohui asked, "How much did my brother spend?" My parents were silent after hearing this.
Then Xiaohui calmed down and said, "Mom, since you say so, let's count the money as alimony. I will give you and Dad two thousand yuan a month."
Xiaohui's mother heard Xiaohui's implication and asked bitterly, "What do you mean? Drive us away? "
Xiaohui shook her head and said, "It's not to drive you away, but you have seen the situation at home. It's really impossible to arrange you and dad properly. The alimony of 2000 yuan plus the salary of you and dad will make you comfortable when you rent a house outside. "
Xiaohui's mother sneered and asked, "What if we don't leave?"
Xiaohui said calmly, "That can only be that we all go together."
After that, Xiaohui took out her mobile phone and called the real estate agent.
Seeing the determination in Xiaohui's eyes, Xiaohui's mother packed up and left that day. When she left, she repeatedly reminded Xiaohui not to forget to give her money on time every month.
Xiaohui's story has come to an end, but this story is thought-provoking.
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As early as the 1990s, our country put forward the propaganda slogan of "boys and girls are the same, and daughters are passed on to future generations", but until today, some parents still cling to the concept of "son preference".
Especially after children become adults, this kind of "weight" performance becomes more and more obvious, on the one hand, it is unconditional support for sons, on the other hand, it is unlimited demand for daughters.
It seems that only in this way can parents fulfill their responsibilities in front of their sons, but have they ever thought about their responsibilities in front of their daughters?
Some parents will say, "It has been like this since ancient times!"
Is it?
Of course not! Since ancient times, the words left by sensible parents are: "Children are separated, and women have a share."
Since the law stipulates the daughter's obligation to support her parents, parents can't ignore her corresponding rights.