My wife and sister Li have been good friends for many years. She often comes to my house to talk and chat with her.
Just yesterday, Li Jie came to my house to complain to his wife. The topic is about the house and children. Li jie said:
"At the beginning, I was soft-hearted and let my daughter follow a phoenix man. Now the intestines of regret are all green.
My husband Lao Zhang and I have only one only daughter, Xiao Fang, and we have always regarded her as a treasure.
Xiaofang stayed in Beijing after graduating from university, and the rent alone ate up more than half of his salary.
I felt sorry for my daughter, so I discussed with my husband, gave everything I had, and bought a house of 120 square meters in Beijing, so that my daughter could live first and reduce the burden.
Now that we have this ability, children can help.
We are going to retire to Beijing for the elderly, be closer to our daughter's home and take care of each other.
In a blink of an eye, Xiao Fang is almost 30 years old, and there is no sign of marriage. I was in a hurry, so I hurried Xiao Fang to get married and have children.
But Xiao Fang said slowly that he didn't find the right person, which made me angry.
Just last spring, Xiao Fang suddenly told me that she had found a boyfriend, Daqiang, and was going to get married.
I heard that Xiao Fang is getting married, but she is still worried about Xiao Fang. What kind of boyfriend did she find? So I asked her to take it home to see what was going on and give my daughter a long mind.
Xiaofang took Daqiang home, and after I asked about each other's situation, my heart was very entangled.
The wife asked, "What were you struggling with at that time?"
Sister Li said, "Other conditions of this big company are OK. He works in a company in Beijing, specializing in training.
The young man is also more energetic and has heavy eyebrows. His height1.8m is two years older than that of Xiao Fang.
That is, Daqiang's parents are rural and their family conditions are not very good. His family is from South Guangdong.
However, Xiao Fang is almost 30 years old and finally has a crush on her boyfriend, so I smashed the gun between them again. In case Xiao Fang can't find a boyfriend in the future, I will worry again. "
The wife said, "It doesn't matter if the man's parents are from the countryside, as long as they are good to Xiao Fang.
By the way, I'm curious about how Daqiang and Xiaofang met. "
Sister Li said: "Xiaofang's pharmaceutical factory once participated in a field training, so he worked as a coach in this training company.
Because Xiao Fang is very beautiful and tall, standing there stands out, and Daqiang immediately took a fancy to Xiao Fang.
Then Daqiang began to send flowers to Xiao Fang every day, which moved Xiao Fang, and Xiao Fang finally fell in love with Daqiang. "
I said, "Daqiang, this young man seems to be very helpful."
Don't worry about Daqiang's parents, in the countryside. "
Sister Li said, "That's true, but in reality, there are many inconveniences.
This Daqiang is very thoughtful. He and Xiao Fang said, "Let's save money to buy a house and get married. I will give you all the money and let you take care of it together. "
Xiao Fang said foolishly, "Well, let's save money, buy a house and get married together."
They have been together for almost a year. I asked Xiao Fang, "You have been together for almost 1 year. How much did you save to buy a house? "
Xiao Fang said happily, "Mom, I have saved more than 8,000 yuan now, almost 1000 yuan."
I laughed with anger. I said, "Xiao Fang, you can't even buy 0. 1 square meter for 8,000 yuan in Beijing.
When you have saved enough money, it seems to be hundreds of years later. "
The wife smiled and said, "It seems that Xiaofang is very simple."
Li Jie said, "Yes, this Xiao Fang is a silly girl and has no mind's eye at all, so Daqiang cheated her round after round.
I think Xiao Fang will be 30 years old next year, and I am really worried about her, so I said, "Well, you can get married there in the house your father and I bought for retirement."
Xiao Fang said happily, "OK, OK, mom is really a great person, or Daqiang and I will rent a house outside again, which will cost a lot of money."
But one thing Xiao Fang told me made me angry.
It was after Xiao Fang married Daqiang that Daqiang led Xiao Fang to his parents' home in Guangdong.
Daqiang spent more than 20 thousand yuan in their wedding gift money. "
I asked strangely, "How did Daqiang spend this 20 thousand yuan?"
Sister Li said: "Daqiang first painted the decoration of his parents' home in the countryside, and then installed three air conditioners in his parents' home.
In addition, Daqiang also installed a 65-inch TV set for his parents' home.
I also bought an automatic washing machine of 10 kg.
The most exaggerated thing is that in the end, it was less than 5,000 yuan. Daqiang asked Xiaofang to pay on Alipay.
The last two people spent all their money and came back naked.
When Xiao Fang came back and told me these things, I was so angry that I scolded Xiao Fang and said, "Why are you so stupid? Isn't this a slap in the face? " How much did your in-laws give you when you got married? "
Xiao Fang said, "Ah, when someone marries his in-laws, there were originally red envelopes, but when I got married, my in-laws didn't give me any red envelopes."
What's more, Daqiang's family has three brothers and sisters, all of whom are at school, and they have to rely on Daqiang to send 5,000 yuan to his parents every month to support them.
Daqiang didn't mention these things to Xiao Fang before he got married. "
The wife said, "Everyone has their own difficulties, and every family has a different way of life.
How can I put it? Daqiang should tell Xiao Fang the truth before marriage. "
Sister Li: "That's not the most important thing.
It's the house where my husband and I went to Beijing to support the elderly. Now it has been occupied by my in-laws for more than a year, and there is no sign of moving out. You said it was irritating. "
The wife asked, "What is this?"
Li Jie said, "Since last spring, my parents-in-law and my mother have visited the house where Xiao Fang lives.
They think that Xiao Fang's house has three rooms and two halls, and the three rooms face south, which is very convenient to live in, so they decide to live in this house with Xiao Fang and others.
Xiaofang disagreed and found them a cheap hotel in Beijing.
But Daqiang and Xiao Fang were crying at home, crying like sissies, crying to jump off a building.
Finally, the whole Xiao Fang agreed and asked her mother to move in with them.
Now Xiao Fang also regrets it.
But it's easier to ask God than to ask him.
Now my mother has lived in that house for more than a year, and there is no sign of moving out.
They feel comfortable living in that house.
I asked Sister Li, "Why does Xiao Fang feel uncomfortable living with them?"
Sister Li said, "I asked Xiao Fang, and she said it was mainly because the two generations had different living habits.
My mother is from Guangdong and is good at cooking. They turned the room upside down in a few days.
At the beginning, I was in the kitchen at home, and there was a high-angle cabinet on the top floor, and I put a few pounds of Ejiao, ready to give birth to a baby for my daughter.
I didn't expect my mother to make this donkey-hide gelatin cake immediately after they moved into this house.
After Xiao Fang told me about it, I also felt very angry.
They can just stay in my house temporarily, but some things I prepared are not my mother's. They just browse and eat casually, which is shocking.
They just regard themselves as outsiders.
In addition, the habits of my mother and father-in-law in the countryside are very different from those in the city. They haven't bathed for a long time, and they have a strange smell.
Xiao Fang told Daqiang that Daqiang didn't want to say that his parents should be filial, not that.
I am very angry. Xiao Fang is quarreling with Da Qiang all day now. "
The wife said, "I really can't. You can go directly to Beijing and tell your mother-in-law in person to let them move out of this house. "
Sister Li said, "I have thought about and done all these things you said.
I went to a house in Beijing some time ago and shared a card directly with my parents and in-laws. I said to them, "My husband and I want to retire. Now you can't live in my house. Please move out. "
But my mother-in-law said, "Since you are in-laws, why do you have to divide it so much?" We are all family.
Besides, we are very kind to your daughter. We cook for her all day.
Now, Xiao Fang is pregnant. We are going to give her a hand here and see the children in the future.
Your house, if you retire, you can move here in the future, and everyone can live together.
The house is so big that it is not good to leave it empty.
We are all in-laws, we should be a family. Don't make things so ugly.
Mainly, you only have such an only child. What are you doing with so much money?
In the end, it is not spent on children.
Money can't be spent anyway. You can spend it if you have money. "
My mother also said a word, don't make a bastard if you are cheap, which really refreshed my three views.
If I hadn't seen Xiao Fang pregnant now, I would have jumped up, slapped my mother in the face and kicked them out. "
The wife said, "It's hard enough for you to meet such a shameless mother and such a phoenix son-in-law.
Now that my daughter is married and pregnant, I am afraid of being angry with my daughter.
It is true that every family has a difficult experience. "
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