I've seen 1 family get married and move to a new home. My son and daughter-in-law live with the elderly, and the elderly live in the master bedroom.
Some units are wonderful, the living room is super big and the bedroom is lost. This apartment is a home. The master bedroom has a small bathroom. My son is often not at home when he is a soldier, leaving his daughter-in-law to live with his parents. The old man lived in the master bedroom, but he couldn't bear to part with the old furniture, so he moved the furniture from the old room to the new room. Two big wardrobes, a one-meter-five bed, an old sewing machine, a TV cabinet and a table filled the master bedroom. The second bedroom is small. Put a wardrobe and a bed of 1.5 meters, and there is only a little room for the bed. My wife often works overtime at home and bought a desk to put beside the bed. The master bathroom must be inconvenient to enter, and there is an old man. Then the police will give it to the daughter-in-law alone. When taking a bath, the old woman knocks on the door for a while to get a basin, tap water for a while and a mop for a while. Daughter-in-law has never taken a full bath in the past few years of marriage. Secondly, Gong Wei is closest to the living room. After giving birth to a baby after pregnancy, it is particularly inconvenient to go to the toilet, or squatting. It takes a lot of courage to wash it. Third, because of public health, there is an old woman using it at home. She has Alzheimer's disease and often poops in the bathroom. Even the father-in-law and outsiders often wipe their hands with their daughter-in-law's towel, and her daughter-in-law is very scared.
As a result, after giving birth, because the bed in the small bedroom is too small, I can only take a big nap. In the middle of the night, the daughter-in-law got up alone to take care of the children, and her husband went home and slept on the sofa for a long time.
Within two months, the mother-in-law euphemistically said that it was not good for her son's waist and took the child to the master bedroom to sleep with her mother-in-law. The old man rushed to the living room sofa to sleep. After a long time, the child should not sleep with his mother at all, but will sleep with the child until the child is 7 years old and sleeps with the old woman.
The end result is that the daughter-in-law can't stand it and wants to move out, but the children don't kiss her or want her. My son and Mud think it's great to live with the old man. They have no money and don't work. The child successfully divorced at the age of 6, because the relationship between husband and wife is not good and the daughter-in-law has no autonomy at home. As for the old man, he slept on the sofa for a long time and stayed up late at night to watch TV plays. The old woman only cared about her grandson, and the next day she found out that she had a cerebral hemorrhage and fell to the ground. She was sent to the hospital to rescue a vegetative state, and died of failure six months later.
Then after the divorce, the daughter-in-law bought a house by herself and the children took it away. Mother-in-law Alzheimer's mother died, the old man died, and the son didn't come home for a long time. Die alone
Who lives in the master bedroom of the house, the young or the old? Some people are struggling with this issue. This is not only related to the comfort of living, but also a moral issue.
Recently, I saw such a hot topic on the Internet: Does the newly bought house sleep in the master bedroom or does the in-laws sleep in the master bedroom? There are many comments and opinions from netizens, and everyone has their own reasons, which seem to make sense.
A netizen once confided that she and her boyfriend were married, but the wedding hasn't been held yet. The man bought a new house, and when the new house was renovated, the woman ran errands back and forth. This new house is their future wedding room.
On the eve of the wedding, my boyfriend and the woman discussed that her parents should live in the master bedroom after marriage, because her mother's legs and feet were not good and the master bedroom was sunny, which made her sleep more comfortable. This woman is not very happy. She thought this was a wedding room. Although she didn't pay, she did, saying that she would live with her parents. She gets angry when she thinks about it.
Before there were no reinforced concrete buildings, many people in China were not worried about this, because most of the houses in rural areas were rough houses, and the rooms were scattered side by side, regardless of priorities. There is not much difference in which room young couples live with their parents.
Later, with the development of economy, reinforced concrete houses were introduced into China from abroad and began to become the mainstream of China architecture. Many people live in relatively independent and closed commercial houses in urban and rural areas. When they moved to a commercial house, the young couple found that the rooms were big and small, with owners and times.
In America, every house has a master bedroom. They call the master bedroom the master room, which means the parents' room. Generally, the master bedroom belongs to parents, but who will live in China if this master bedroom is run by a family?
A scholar once told about his experience in America. His son has bought a house in America and is married and has children. When the couple didn't go to America, the son and daughter-in-law lived in the master bedroom, but the scholar couple went to America, and the son voluntarily gave up the master bedroom to his parents.
Parents don't want to, son. He thinks he is from China, so he should let his parents eat well. As long as his parents come to their home, his son has been living in the second room.
However, we can see that the current situation in China is not the same. If it runs in the family, few people will give up the master bedroom to their parents. Some people think that young people are tired from work and are the backbone of the family, so they should be allowed to live in the master bedroom. However, some people disagree with this distribution method, and the above statement is typical.
She went to see her brother's new house being decorated. When he pointed to a small bedroom and said that he would live with his mother in the future, the subject obviously had some opinions. The subject believes that when a son grows up and becomes a family, parents and children live together and become "parents and children live together". Parents live in their son's room, in his home, not their own. Do parents depend on their sons? In the subject's view, it is not easy for parents to live in their son's house. They have to cook three meals a day, and they have to take care of and pick up the children. It is also very hard.
As the name implies, the master bedroom is the master bedroom of a house. This bedroom is different from other rooms. If it is a pattern of three rooms, two halls and two toilets, the master bedroom often has a bathroom, and the area of the master bedroom is larger than other rooms. Some master bedrooms also have bay windows. Generally speaking, the master bedroom has the best location, the largest space, the best orientation and the most comfortable living.
If two generations of a family live in the same house, who lives in the master bedroom becomes a big problem. Some people say that the master bedroom is for parents, while others say that the master bedroom is for young couples.
Reasons for young people to live: in the eyes of ordinary people, the master bedroom should be reserved for young couples, because they are the backbone of this family and the generation that shoulders the heavy responsibility of connecting the preceding with the following. Let young couples live, let them live comfortably, sleep well, and take good care of the elderly and children.
However, from the perspective of the elderly, they may not think so. Judging from the filial piety culture in China, giving the elderly a good room can reflect children's filial piety to their parents. After all, it is not easy for parents to raise their children. After years of hard work, I finally brought up my child, and I should enjoy a few days of leisure.
Filial piety comes first. Filial piety has always been a traditional culture in China and has always been placed in an important position. What's more, with the soaring housing prices, it is difficult for young people to bear the pressure of buying a house. Many families' houses are paid down by their parents, so it is natural to give the master bedroom to their parents.
This is a natural thing. However, the facts are completely different. There is nothing wrong with the son, the daughter-in-law will pay attention, and the woman will mind. The above netizens will see the problem.
It can be seen that giving the master bedroom to parents is mostly the man's opinion. For daughter-in-law, few people will voluntarily give up the master bedroom to their parents, because the master bedroom has a good geographical location and represents the vitality of a family. Some daughters-in-law will feel inappropriate and feel that they are not valued.
In their hearts, she thinks that she and her husband are the masters of this family. Since you are the master, you should live in the master bedroom. Parents are secondary workers in the family, so it is understandable to share a bedroom with their children.
Nowadays, the public says that the public is right, and the woman says that the woman is right. In my opinion, both sides have a reason to live in the master bedroom. I don't think a family needs to care too much. Anyone can live in the master bedroom. It's important to discuss it. Can't solve it. It depends on who bought the house.
If the parents have worked hard all their lives and spent all their savings to buy the house, and the name of the house is registered, then the parents are the owners of the house, and the owner of the house should live in the master bedroom. After all, the economy determines status.
Of course, not all parents who buy houses choose to live in the master bedroom. My colleague bought a house in the city last year. After the renovation, we think the couple should live in the master bedroom facing the best. Unexpectedly, after entering the house, we found that the couple chose that second bedroom.
Ask them why. It turned out that they thought this house would be reserved for their son's marriage in the future. Although my son is a high school student, he is still far from getting married. When couples are eager to love their son and always want to leave the best for their children, they would rather squeeze into a small bedroom than occupy the master bedroom.
If the house is bought by a son and his name is registered, then he is the owner of the house. Whether he is married or not, he has the right to choose the master bedroom. Of course, if the son is a dutiful son, he must give the master bedroom to his parents.
If he can do something, his parents will be very pleased, but if he gets married, his daughter-in-law can agree with her husband's decision, which is very valuable. This family must be harmonious and warm.
Now that house prices are soaring, it is really not easy for my son to buy a house in the city alone. Parents and children work together to buy a house, and the master bedroom has to discuss who lives. If the son can honor his parents and voluntarily give up the master bedroom, and the parents love their children and are willing to live in the second bedroom, there will be no contradiction in this family.
A netizen once said such a thing. Before her marriage, her parents-in-law lived in the master bedroom. When they got married, their parents-in-law took the initiative to vacate the master bedroom for the young couple. The daughter-in-law was very moved and took the initiative to let her parents-in-law live in the bedroom. My parents-in-law are also very happy. They treat their daughter-in-law as their daughter, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been very harmonious.
From this perspective, respecting the old and loving the young is mutual, so that families can be harmonious and life can be happier.
Who actually lives in the master bedroom of the house? I think it depends on who needs it more, not who is the owner of the house and who has a higher position in the family. Living under the same roof, there is mutual respect and comity. If we always strive for status and priority, this family will be very sad and happy.
Of course, if three generations live in different places, parents only go to their son's house occasionally, and there is no need to occupy the master bedroom. After all, it is a waste of space.
Some people say that it is a moral question whether to give a house to the newlyweds or to their parents. In fact, in my opinion, the key issue is negotiable. The correct way to deal with it should be to make it clear before marriage. After all, there are many trivial matters in the family after marriage, and no one knows which trivial matters may cause big problems. When this problem is solved, there will be less resentment between the two sides.
Family harmony is a science. If the hero and heroine manage well, the family will be happy. If they don't muddle along blindly, they may make chickens fly and dogs jump. Mutual understanding, more humility and more respect are actually very simple!
Why do parents want to live in their son's new house? Used to live on the street? I hate it! [flashing]
That depends on who bought the house. If it is the parents' home, and the son gets married without a new house and temporarily lives in the parents' home, it must be that the son and daughter-in-law live in the second bedroom. If the house is the new house when the son got married, or the house he bought after marriage, then the parents must have lived in the second bedroom. It doesn't mean that parents have to live in the master bedroom unconditionally. When people get old, it's all for the good of their children. Only family harmony can lead to a happy old age. What can I do to win a primary and secondary position? As far as you can think so, it's just a question. Mom, don't mess with other people's affairs. It's annoying to make a fuss
About the newly bought house, a friend met an old man who lived in the master bedroom or the second bedroom. Because of such a trivial matter, the couple quarreled and became a hurdle for both sides. Finally, after two years, I left.
My friend Xiao Xia, a native of Yangzhou, married to the northwest because of love. At that time, her boyfriend Sun Xiao's family was really poor, and Xiao Xia's mother resolutely opposed it, but Xiao Xia fell out with her family as if she had been enchanted, and directly got the license to follow the boy back to his hometown.
Xiao Xia got the news of the marriage certificate, and Xiao Xia's mother finally got the news from others. Her mother was very angry, her blood pressure rose and she was admitted to the hospital. After staying in the hospital for a few days, Xiao Xia's mother realized that the child was too big to control.
After leaving the hospital, my father transferred Xiao Xia to 20W and told Xiao Xia that this was a dowry for you. Please be careful if you don't listen.
Xiao Xia took the dowry, discussed it with her husband, took out 15W and bought a suite in a small city on the 18th northwest line with their names written on it.
The house decoration exceeded the budget, and my husband went home and borrowed 20 thousand from his in-laws. At that time, according to her mother-in-law's words, she asked someone to borrow the money. The old couple lived on the weather and couldn't afford a college student, so the money had to be paid back by Xiao Xia and his wife.
Because of this, Xiao Xia is a little unhappy. She doesn't want a bride price, let alone a house and a car. She bought a house with her own money, borrowed 20 thousand from her in-laws, and specifically told her to return it as soon as possible.
The house has been bought and decorated, and the date has been chosen to move. There is a noisy room in the local area, where monks are invited to recite scriptures. It is almost busy. Xiao Xia said that her mother-in-law was too late, so she stayed at home and didn't go back.
After seeing the guests off, her mother-in-law went straight into the big house, and Xiao Xia was cheated at that time. What does this mean? The wedding photos of the couple are hung on the bedside wall of the big house. Everyone knows that this is Xiao Xia's bedroom.
Xiao Xia walked into the bathroom, looked at her husband who was drunk five times and three times, and asked him in a low voice, "What does your mother mean?"
My husband stuck his tongue out and said, "This is our home. My parents have worked hard all their lives. They can live in any room they want. "
Xiao Xia was out of breath and her voice became louder: "My parents bought this house with money. I asked your mother to lend me 20 thousand yuan, and I repeatedly urged her to pay it back as soon as possible. This house is our home, but I am the owner of it. When the guests come to live, I have to ask the host where he lives. "
When the grandfather outside heard this, he went into the house to call his mother-in-law. Her mother-in-law has been lying in bed with clothes on, muttering and getting up: "My son's house, I have to ask who lives where?"
Xiao Xia looked at the family, took the bag and turned and went out. This is terrible. Mother-in-law cried at home, saying that her son had married his wife and forgotten his mother. It's not easy to cry for herself these years. She wants to go back to her hometown at night. ...
Finally, Xiao Xia's husband was full of blood and said to his mother, "Don't worry, I have the final say in this family!"
Xiao Xia lingered outside for several hours and returned to the rental house without waiting for her husband's call. During this period, my father-in-law called Xiao Xia and said that he had something to let her go home, and he had the final say at home.
The next night, Xiao Xia returned to her new house and her in-laws returned to the countryside. Looking at the mess at home, Xiao Xia began to doubt whether his choice was wrong for the first time.
Xiao Xia tore off all the sheets on the bedroom bed and threw them into the washing machine. In the evening, the husband came home and saw the brand-new quilt cover in the washing machine. They quarreled.
Husband means that old people can stay for a few days when they come, and they can live wherever they want. Clean bedding, Xiao Xia replaced his parents. Said Xiao Xia was looking for something, which made his parents quarrel. ...
Although the new house has been occupied, it has become a thorn in Xiao Xia's side.
Her mother-in-law refused to go home when the due date was approaching. Xiao Xia asked her husband anxiously, "What does your mother mean?" If you are not going to wait until next month and say something, what are you waiting for? "
My husband called my mother-in-law, and her mother-in-law said, "I am used to living in the countryside, but I am not used to living in other people's homes." If not, I will come back in the afterlife. "
Xiao Xia had no choice but to ask her mother to take care of Zi Yue. I don't know. Just after returning home from the hospital, Xiao Xia heard her sister's accusation against her husband: "You brought your mother-in-law to confinement. Did you say hello to your mother?" How do you want mom to live in the future? Unless I don't have a mother-in-law, I'll find my mother-in-law's house for confinement. Are you cursing my mother? "
Xiao Xia was very anxious and asked her sister, "I called my mother four or five times. Seeing that the due date was coming, my mother didn't say anything or didn't say anything. I didn't call my mother. Who will wait for the next month after giving birth? "
Sister-in-law said, "Isn't my mother here to wait on the moon?" Mom didn't even have a place to sleep at your house, and she was almost driven home overnight, remember? She is an old man, an elder. Do you respect her? Now you need her, and she must catch up, right? Our family values filial piety. When grandparents were alive, they lived in a principal room. When they come to you, their in-laws have to rely on your face to live in a small room. You don't even have this mentor? "
Xiao Xia's mother didn't know what happened until she asked, and lamented that her daughter had been wronged this day. What can she do? All the children were born.
Xiao Xia's mother waited for a few days, and called her mother-in-law in Xiao Xia on the pretext that she had something to do in her hometown, hoping that her mother-in-law would wait for next month.
Mother-in-law did come, but she asked Xiao Xia in less than two minutes: "Xiao Xia, where do you put the luggage?" Which room can I stay in? "
Xiao Xia's mother saw that this posture was wrong and took her mother-in-law's hand and said, "They are a family of three now, so we can't live in the hut. I will leave tomorrow. Our in-laws can make do with staying at the cabin for one night. What do you think? "
The mother-in-law spoke with a gun and a stick: "What's wrong with that? Am I a guest? When I get to the main room, the master will live as he says. "
I thought it was over. I didn't know that my mother-in-law really regarded herself as a guest.
Ask Xiao Xia at dinner: "What do you want to eat today?" Xiao Xia said you can eat anything. There are all kinds of vegetables and meat in the refrigerator. My mother-in-law looked strange and said, "I'm just asking, lest I do something wrong and make you unhappy." Three meals a day, so ask three times.
Mother-in-law never washes clothes changed by adults and children. She said, "I've never seen a guest do laundry. If you can't wash it well, it will make you unhappy. "
On the day of the full moon, her mother-in-law took the bought ticket and informed Xiao Xia: "The ticket has been bought and she will leave tomorrow. It is not a problem to stay in other people's homes. "
Xiao Xia was anxious and sent a WeChat to ask her husband: "What does your mother mean?"
The husband replied, "Don't you know what happened? My mother is not a nanny. She waits on you carefully all day for fear that something will upset you. "
Xiao Xia asked, "What about going to work after maternity leave?"
The husband said, "Either send the children back to their hometown, or you can resign with them. After all, my mother has been angry all her life and has had enough of you. My son can't look at her so wronged! "
Finally, my mother-in-law went back, and Xiao Xia decided to quit her job and take care of the children. I didn't know that this day was a chicken flying and a dog jumping, and finally I came to this step.
Xiao Xia told her parents what she thought. Dad was silent for a long time: "Let's go and bring the child back. Your mother and I will help you.". Ask a lawyer again, take care of the house, take the money and your parents will subsidize you, and come back to Yangzhou to buy a small house. When you go back to your hometown to find a job, meet the right person and become a family. Being close to home, parents can also take care of your mother and daughter conveniently. "
In this way, Xiao Xia divorced with the support of her parents, because she could produce the record of her father transferring 200,000 yuan. With the help of a lawyer, she paid back 20,000 yuan to her in-laws and gave it to her ex-husband, who paid back more than 90,000 yuan and got the remaining 300,000.
After returning to Yangzhou for more than a year, Xiao Xia met her current husband. My husband is a local and has three houses at home. Xiao Xia bought a small house for rent to support the loan. Xiao Xia's children have no memory of everything before because they are young, and their families are extremely fond of them. With the help of two old people, Xiao Xia gave birth to a second child. An old man helps to take care of the children, and the couple have no pressure to go to work. In short, the little life is much more comfortable now.
Before mentioning it, Xiao Xia gave a wry smile: "To put it bluntly, it is poverty! If there are several suites in his family, his parents will not care about my house at all, nor will they live with us, and there will be no trouble in which house to live in. Therefore, it is fundamental to work hard to make money. When my children grow up, a person will give them two suites, and they will live in whichever one they like ... "
If parents live in their son's house, they should live in the second bedroom, because the owner is their son's daughter-in-law and the master bedroom is theirs.
Besides, the master bedroom and the second bedroom are fine now, and parents should not be wronged.
You also said that your brother was waiting for his parents to come and live in the second bedroom, which means that the old man has a house and hasn't moved in yet. Why not leave the master bedroom to them?
In the past, the son's home was the parents' home. It's different now. The son's home is also the daughter-in-law's home. Is this her parents' home?
If both parents regard themselves as old people and masters of their children's homes, who should live in the master bedroom?
Therefore, the son's home, son and daughter-in-law are the masters and should live in the master bedroom. If both parents are family members, they should live in the second bedroom, which is fair and reasonable and not contradictory.
Nowadays, most young people leave the second bedroom to their parents, because the second bedroom is relatively small and suitable for the elderly. The master bedroom is spacious, and some have computers, desks, dressing tables and the like, which are more suitable for young couples and have nothing to compare.
If the elderly are more active, lively and healthy, they are not suitable to live with their sons at all, or they are more free to live alone.
Don't be sad when your brother prepares a second bedroom for your parents. Mind your own business. Did you leave the master bedroom with your in-laws? Or did your son leave you the master bedroom?
So, have you prepared the master bedroom for your parents?
To tell you clearly, most of them are.
The reason is nothing more than these points:
1. My parents don't live permanently, but come to live once in a while for a short time. Now the master bedroom is generally larger and the second bedroom is relatively smaller. If the master bedroom is reserved for parents who don't come to live often, it will be more wasteful. So children usually live in the master bedroom.
2. Parents may live permanently, but generally children need their parents' help to take care of them after they have children. There is a process in this, so when the parents didn't come at first, the children lived in the master bedroom and got used to it. Moreover, the children's things are also in the master bedroom, which is not convenient to move, so parents can only live in the second bedroom after they come.
Parents live with their children from the beginning. The child has just bought a house, which belongs to the child. When planning how to live in the house, they naturally arrange themselves in the master bedroom, and parents generally don't care about the master bedroom and the second bedroom with their children.
The so-called master bedroom and second bedroom are actually no big difference. It's just a bigger room or a room with a bathroom. The important thing is that no matter which room you live in, your parents can live comfortably in this house.
Hello! If I answer you, not most, almost all children buy new houses, and parents are arranged to live in the second bedroom or the second bedroom. Since the children bought the new house themselves, it is certain that the male and female owners are children, and the parents may not even be * * * unless the parents buy the house for their children in full. On the other hand, if the parents bought the house, the owner must be the parents, so the parents have the final say in who lives in the master bedroom.
Twenty-two years ago, I built my own house in a small county. At that time, my daughter was not working around and went to other places to find a job, so I didn't arrange a special dormitory for her. When she comes back, she will sleep in my bedroom, and I will partner with her father (we always sleep in separate beds). My daughter also gave us some money to build a house, but she never said how not to give her a special bedroom.
I said I didn't arrange a special bedroom for you, and she said I didn't need it. I can't go back once or twice a year, and I'm empty for a long time. I'm glad my daughter is so considerate. I'll let her live when she does come back. When they get married and come back, we will let them live in the biggest and best bedroom in the house. After all, it may be rare to go home once in a few years. It used to be our old couple who went to their house.
In addition, I think that parents living in the master bedroom and the second bedroom are not the same thing as worrying about their children's work at home, are they? It's just about who bought the house. I also came from my hometown to help my daughter look after the children, and I have always lived in the smallest bedroom at home. Never thought there was anything wrong with it!
When the daughter and son-in-law decorated the house, they bought a beautiful bed. When choosing the second bedroom furniture, the daughter means that she can buy less and spend less money. However, the son-in-law reminded her at that time that this was for your parents and also for my parents. The implication is that they should enjoy the same treatment. As a result, the second bedroom bought basically the same furniture as the main bedroom.
I helped when I moved to a new house and started my second bedroom. A few days later, my mother came over, and I quickly moved out to live in the guest room. Because they came together, I was alone, and my daughter said I was too conscious. What's wrong with that? After all, two in-laws often don't come at the same time, so what's the point of modesty?
If parents feel too tired and wronged to work in their children's home, they can ask their children to resign or help them with housework. Don't do everything yourself, protect rights, and rest when you need it. When your child comes home, he will be handed over to his parents.
I just think it's too tired to take care of the children alone, and my wife doesn't help at all. Let my daughter ask the hourly worker to clean (it has been almost 10 years), so it can also reduce the burden on the elderly. Let the children buy food and cook on weekends. One is to experience the hardships of parents, and the other is that husband and wife can go to the kitchen together to enhance their feelings.
Now that my daughter has moved out and the master bedroom is empty, my daughter asked me why I don't live in her big bedroom. Hehe, I don't want to. Living in a small bedroom is more comfortable. I didn't expect that large and small bedrooms would bring me discomfort and discomfort.
The questioner also said, if parents live in their children's homes, do they depend on their children? I don't think so either! I still have my own house and pension. How can I rely on them? Now I can take care of myself and help them when I have time, such as picking up the children from school. You can also ask them to help you after you take care of yourself. If you can't take care of yourself, go to a nursing home. You may not be able to afford a live-in nanny [chuckle].
Children and parents are also mutual, there is no dependence on anyone, and it is impossible to rely on them completely. They all have their own lives.
Before children go to college or go out independently, they live in their parents' home and in the second bedroom. Please put yourself in someone else's shoes. Thank you.