Qin Jie said that although she was destined to be scolded and criticized by others, she didn't feel wrong, because most of her misfortunes in this life were brought by her mother, who was simply not worthy of her pension. Sister Qin said that although she didn't hate her mother, she wouldn't forgive her, and there was no revenge, which was her greatest tolerance.
Sister Qin, from an ordinary family, has a weak father and a strong and violent mother, so everything in the family is out of the box. Sister Qin has a younger brother who is one year younger than her, so since she can remember, her mother has hated her guts, calling her a waste or a black sheep. As long as she is unhappy, she will take it out on her and beat and scold her.
Sister Qin said that although her father was weak all his life, if her father didn't insist, maybe she would have been given away by her mother, because in her mother's words, giving someone away can still get some money, and leaving her is a waste of food and a loss of goods.
It was because of her mother's prejudice that she dropped out of junior high school and had to work in a factory to earn money to support her family. After that, all the money she earned was given to her mother, because her mother said that she owed it to her family and she wanted to pay it back. So although she was in pain at that time, she didn't blame her mother, because her mother gave her life and raised her so much, so she knew how to be grateful.
Later, Qin Jie talked about an object, and the man was very kind to her, but because the man's family condition was not good, he took out 200 thousand bride price, so his mother hit Yuanyang directly. Even if Sister Qin cooked uncooked rice and became pregnant, she was forced by her mother to take off her child and completely cut off her relationship with the man.
It is also because of this incident that Sister Qin lost her yearning for love and marriage. Later, Sister Qin followed her mother's advice and married a local man 12 years older than her. Just because that man is rich, can get a bride price of 200,000 yuan and has connections at home, she can find a good job for her brother, and her mother will marry her directly.
Because her mother didn't marry her when she got married, her married life was in dire straits. Her husband's family looked down on her, not only sneered at her, but even bullied her in various ways. It is also because she was not pregnant after two years of marriage, so her husband and in-laws put the blame on her, saying that she was useless and could not have children at all. At that time, her husband was like a different person, not only having an affair but also being violent.
When Qin Jie got divorced, her mother called her the first time. At that time, Qin Jie was very moved and thought that her mother was still worried about herself, but the first thing her mother said to Qin Jie was "How much did you get from the divorce"? It is also because of her mother's words that Sister Qin completely lost her thoughts about her family, so she told the truth about going out clean. After listening to her words, the mother not only did not comfort her, but scolded her, saying that she was a fool and could not keep such a good man, and even asked if it would affect her son's work, because her son's work was found by Qin's sister's husband's family. Perhaps she was completely disappointed with her mother. Sister Qin hung up the phone and moved out of the city.
From then on, Qin Jie lived alone and never remarried, because she was completely disappointed with her marriage. A few years later, my mother didn't call Qin Jie again, and Qin Jie was at leisure. She thought she might never see her mother again in this life.
But in the fifteenth year after her marriage, Qin Jie's mother, who is sixty years old, came to you. When I saw my mother again, she was much older, and her face was no longer strong and violent. People look sad. Sister Qin can see a lot from her face. She knew that her mother was unhappy.
I didn't know until I asked Qin Jie that my father left soon after my brother got married, and my daughter-in-law was particularly strong. She pushed her mother out everywhere, either cynically or swearing, or even because of some contradictions, she was directly driven out. Brother didn't dare to make any noise at all. She was desperate and had to go to Sister Qin.
On that day, mom and Qin Jie didn't have any greetings, but told Qin Jie directly: "Daughter, you will give me a pension in the future. Mom likes you best, and you are the most filial at home. " Hearing her mother's words, Sister Qin felt particularly sick, so she directly angered her mother: "Fifteen years ago, you sold me! That year, you sold me 200 thousand. You ruined my marriage. I don't owe you anymore. Why should I give you a pension and go back to your precious son? "
It was also Sister Qin's words that completely angered her mother, so her mother shouted at Sister Qin directly: "Your life is mine. Why shouldn't you give me a pension? "What an ungrateful thing?
Because she refused her mother's pension, Qin Jie was scolded badly by her mother. Even someone in her hometown called to persuade her to learn to forgive. After all, she is a family, and blood is thicker than water. Those things have passed before, and she should know how to let go. Qin Jie has this ability, so she should give her mother a pension.
Sister Qin asked me, did she really do something wrong?
Bian Xiao has something to say:
In my opinion, I don't think Sister Qin did anything wrong. What she did was natural reaction and human nature. No one is qualified to make irresponsible remarks. Because no one has experienced all the misfortunes suffered by Sister Qin, she is not qualified to comment on the right or wrong of Sister Qin at all. She said it was like drinking water, knowing whether she was doing well or not. In fact, Sister Qin knows very well in her own mind.
In my opinion, everything that Qin Jie's mother got was what she deserved, and she did it herself. If she hadn't been so patriarchal and despised Qin Jie, she wouldn't be so miserable now.
Filial piety is one thing, and support is another. Filial piety is a feeling, and support is a responsibility.
For Sister Qin, to be honest, she really doesn't owe her mother anything. She has paid off everything her mother has done for her, and Sister Qin has no obligation to support her mother. She can do her best to support her and pay her mother's minimum living guarantee. Because she also has a younger brother, who gets all the property in the family and has more support responsibilities than her.
Those who say that Sister Qin is wrong and ungrateful, in my opinion, are just people who stand and talk as if they are relaxed. They can only see that Sister Qin is unfilial, but they can't see the harm that Sister Qin has suffered, not to mention that Sister Qin has an ungrateful brother. Compared with Sister Qin's younger brother, Sister Qin has only a small part of responsibility.
In fact, I quite agree with what Sister Qin said. Not retaliating is her greatest tolerance, because injury is injury, and she will always be a victim. These wounds will never heal. Why does she have to forgive a lot?
I often warn my parents around me that they must treat their children equally, and never have the idea of "sacrificing one child to fulfill another", because the sacrificed child will resent you, and the child who is indulged by you will think that this is your natural obligation, and he will not appreciate you at all, so this is harmful to others.