How to have a good relationship with people

Being popular is a great asset for a person. With it, my career will be smooth and my life will be satisfactory. But it won't fall from the sky, but it needs your efforts. First, respect others as the saying goes: "As you sow, you reap." Applying this simple philosophy to social interaction, we can say that you respect others everywhere, and the reward is that others respect you everywhere, and respecting others is actually respecting yourself. There is an interesting story: a child does not know how to greet adults actively, and does not know how to be friendly and United with his peers, that is, he lacks a sense of politeness. In order to correct this shortcoming, the clever mother led him to a valley and shouted to the surrounding mountains, "Hello, hello." The valley responded: "Hello, hello." The mother led the child and shouted, "I love you, I love you." Needless to say, the valley also shouted, "I love you, I love you." The child was surprised to ask his mother why, and her mother told him that people who spit in the air would spit in their faces. People who respect others will be respected by others. Therefore, no matter whether you meet frequently or thousands of miles away, you should respect others everywhere. "The child vaguely understood this great truth. Second, helpful people need care and help, especially cherish the care and help they get in their own difficulties, and regard it as a "timely help" and regard the helper as a true friend and best friend. When Marx founded political economy, it was the time when his economy was the poorest, and Engels often gave generously to help him get rid of economic difficulties. Marx was very grateful for this. When Das Kapital was published, Marx wrote a letter expressing his heartfelt thanks: "This can only be attributed to you! Without your sacrifice to me, I would never have finished those three-volume masterpieces. "Two people get along well, bitter and * * * for 40 years. Lenin once praised the friendship between the two revolutionary instructors as "more than the most touching friendship story in all ancient legends". Helping others is not necessarily material help. Just a little effort or words of concern can excite others for a long time. If you can help people who have hurt yourself, you can not only show your broad mind, but also help to "turn your enemy into your friend" and create a more relaxed interpersonal environment for yourself. Third, be grateful. In life, the relationship between people is the most subtle. If you don't feel the kindness or help of others, or you are indifferent, you may have all kinds of resentment. Always think about it: you feel relaxed at work, maybe someone is carrying the burden for you; When you are enjoying the sweetness given by life, maybe someone is working hard for you ... living in a huge social group, there will always be people who are worried about you and think of you. People who enjoy emotional rain and dew should not be careless, but always be grateful, which will make interpersonal relationships more harmonious. The emotional bond will be stronger because of gratitude; The tree of friendship must be nourished by gratitude to thrive. Teacher Wang is very popular and prestigious in the school where he works. Someone asked him why, and Teacher Wang said, "As the ancients said,' A drop of water should be repaid with a spring'. Although I can't do this, I always insist on' returning the peach to the plum', always thinking of others and thanking them. "Teacher Wang spoke the true meaning of being a man. Because of gratitude, you will become a good colleague, a good friend and a good family. Fourth, the same frequency * * * vibration As the saying goes: "Two people are United, money can buy gold; A person is generally happy and has no money to buy needles. "Acoustics also has this rule, which is called' same-frequency vibration'. It means that when a sound wave encounters another sound wave with the same frequency, it will emit stronger sound wave oscillation, but it will not when it encounters sound waves with different frequencies. Between people, if we can actively find the ringing point of * * * and make our own "natural frequency" consistent with others' "natural frequency", we can enhance the friendship between people, form friends and produce "vibration with the same frequency * * *". * * * What are the ringing points? For example, other people's correct views and behaviors, hobbies that are beneficial to physical and mental health, etc. , can be the singing point and support point of your friendship. So you have to respond and communicate in order to achieve harmony. When others have successful careers and smooth sailing, you should cheer for them and be happy for them; When others encounter difficulties and misfortunes, you should regard others' difficulties and misfortunes as your own ... these are the correct meanings of "same frequency vibration" "In a school, Qin Hong and Su Yi are good friends. They often wear similar clothes, often go for a walk together, often play ball together ... It can be said that they are inseparable, eat and live together, keep tacit understanding and support each other; It is exaggerated to say that the two people share joys and sorrows, and "vibration at the same frequency". "These are not only the appearances of two people becoming good friends, but also the reasons why they become good friends. V. Sincere Praise Lincoln said, "Everyone likes praise. "Praise is unique because its word" beauty "shows that the person being praised has something extraordinary; Second, the word "praise" shows the friendly and enthusiastic attitude of the admirer. John dewey, a human behaviorist, also said: "The most far-reaching driving force in human nature is that hope is important and praised. "Therefore, we should affirm, praise and encourage the achievements and progress of others. When others have something worthy of praise, you should give sincere praise without hesitation, so as to make the communication between people harmonious and warm. In history, the cooperation between David and Faraday is exemplary. Although Faraday's outstanding achievements once caused David's jealousy, their friendship was still praised by the world. Faraday's sincere praise for David is indispensable for this reason. Before meeting David, Faraday wrote to David: "Mr. David, your speech is really good." I was fascinated by it. I like chemistry, and I want to learn from you ... "After receiving the letter, David made an appointment with Faraday. Later, Faraday became the founder of modern electromagnetism, famous all over Europe. He never forgot David and said, "He led me into the hall of science!" " "It can be said that praise is the source of friendship and an ideal adhesive. It will not only unite old acquaintances and friends more closely, but also connect people who don't know each other. 6. Humor Everyone likes to associate with people who are witty and humorous, but they don't like to associate with people who quarrel with others easily, or with people who are unhappy and boring. Humor can be said to be a magnet that attracts everyone; It can also be said to be a lubricant, turning troubles into happiness, turning pain into happiness and turning embarrassment into harmony. American writer Mark Twain is witty and humorous. Once he went to a small town, and before he left, he was told that mosquitoes there were particularly fierce. When he arrived in the small town, just as he was checking in at the hotel, a mosquito just circled in front of Mark Twain, which made the staff feel very embarrassed. Ma Kewen casually said to the staff: "The mosquitoes in your area are many times smarter than the legend, and they will take good care of my room number in advance so that they can visit at night and have a full meal." Everyone couldn't help laughing. As a result, Mark Twain slept soundly that night. It turned out that all the staff of the hotel went out together to drive away mosquitoes and prevent this popular writer from being bitten by "smart mosquitoes". Humor not only made Mark Twain have a group of sincere friends, but also got "special care" from strangers.