1. Go your own way and let others talk.
When dealing with jealous people, it is best not to take some measures to deal with jealous people. Because jealousy itself is suspicious. Therefore, it is better to treat jealous people as ordinary people. As the saying goes, if you are not surprised, you will be surprised. Instead of thinking hard, it is better to "govern by doing nothing" and finally achieve the effect of "governing by doing nothing".
2. Take necessary compromise and concession strategies.
No matter how clever a person is, he is stupid, and it is hard to be confused.
Confucius once said: be smart and wise, and stay stupid; Work is the world, keep it; Help the world bravely and keep it with family; Rich all over the world, remain modest. This is not only a simple strategy, but the fact is that when a person is surrounded by flowers and applause, he needs to be modest and prudent, which can not only prevent him from being jealous, but also fundamentally adjust himself.
Only by turning hate into love can we restrain disputes.
The way to turn hate into love is mainly to influence jealous people with sincere love, so as to eliminate and dissolve jealousy. People often say, "hate is centrifugal medicine, love is glue". Therefore, if you meet a jealous person, if you can repay him with kindness and influence him with love, the grievances will naturally be resolved.
Restrain unprincipled struggle with principled tolerance is the key to eradicate two-way jealousy and multi-direction jealousy. If a jealous person challenges you, instead of fighting, you will shrink back. Seeking common ground while reserving differences with moderate tolerance without losing principle, or seeking common ground while reserving differences, are all good ways to resolve and avoid jealousy.
3. Countermeasures of persuasion and encouragement
When some jealousy is caused by misunderstanding, it is necessary to persuade and communicate. Otherwise, the misunderstanding will be deeper and deeper, which will seriously interfere with and destroy the normal communication of interpersonal relationships. Pay attention to calm when persuading, and be prepared to persuade many times.
We should also take an encouraging attitude towards jealous people. Because jealous people are psychologically lost and unbalanced when they are at a disadvantage, although they are as heroic as cows on the surface, their hearts are empty, implying a pessimistic mood. Therefore, we should take an encouraging attitude towards jealous people, mainly by objectively analyzing their strengths, strengthening their confidence, changing their misconceptions, and trying to provide some substantial help to jealous people so as to turn jealousy into fair competition.
Here are some information, I hope it will be useful to you! !
Dr. Roya, a professor of psychology at Stanford University in the United States, believes that all people are born equal, and everyone has enough conditions to become a supervisor and rise to the top, but they must know some skills in dealing with people. The following are the professor's suggestions:
No matter how capable and confident you are, you should avoid narcissism and not make yourself an island. Among colleagues, you need to find one or two bosom friends. We usually have a discussion and exchange our feelings.
If you want to be a leader in the crowd and gain the respect of others, you should pay attention to maintaining your image. No matter what problems you encounter, you don't need to panic. There is a solution to everything. You should learn to be calm and deal with all problems calmly.
You find that some of your colleagues are always against you, so don't worry. This may be the relationship between "people speak lightly". The other party pretends to be a "senior" and thinks that you are young and lack work experience. You should try to get the support of some seniors in the company so that people won't underestimate you.
To gain the appreciation and trust of your boss, you must first have confidence in yourself and appreciate yourself, and don't just say "no" to yourself. Although you lack work experience, there is no need to feel depressed. As long as you make up your mind to do things well, you will.
Do your best and do what you can, especially in your environment. Many colleagues are staring at you and ready to point out your mistakes at any time. You need to be vigilant, complete the work step by step, and cooperate with practical actions. This is a necessary condition for every successful supervisor.
Using lunch time to communicate with other colleagues, enhance feelings and eliminate barriers between them will help your career development.
How to deal with people you hate?
How to deal with the person who hides the knife in the smile or loves to sow discord?
It is not difficult to deal with colleagues like a dagger in the heart. On the surface, we should keep friendly relations with him, but behind his back, we should guard against him. All business decision-making reports related to him should hold a meeting and invite relevant people to attend. Other business information is always avoided, and communication with him is limited to business, personal privacy and even other colleagues. As long as everything is reserved, he can't do it to you!
As for those who love to sow discord, the best way is to keep a distance from them outside working hours, and remember to be careful in words and deeds to avoid giving him any "pain". If possible, you can isolate him from other colleagues and leave him helpless.
What about colleagues who are in trouble?
This kind of person is very troublesome and often gets angry because of something. Small things should become big things. When they encounter something or talk about something that has nothing to do with you, don't comment or jump to conclusions. If the incident concerns you, you just need to keep a low profile, and all official documents must follow complete procedures. If you want to make a report, you must report the incident to your superior in black and white and let him decide right and wrong. Of course, don't forget to keep your manners and keep silent afterwards.
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Give prescriptions to villains.
There is always a role in the office that is unwilling to be lonely, and that is the villain. They jump up and down, or in the light, or in the dark, no matter how careful you are, you will inevitably be targeted by them. From stepping on your feet to climbing your shoulders, you will be doomed.
But, can you swallow it? Absolutely not, otherwise they will be more arrogant and you will be even more unlucky. The only way is to cheer up and summon up courage to fight them. Let's use our brains to diagnose villains and prescribe effective prescriptions.
Prescription 1: Expose evil deeds.
The villain's performance: robbing others of their labor achievements
Villain level: * * * *
Speaker: Nana
Gender: Female
Age: 22 years old
Occupation: planning
When I first joined this real estate company, I was a newcomer. In order to get the company's approval, I almost became a workaholic and often came up with many novel and affordable ideas. My first plan got the manager's "creative and original" appearance. The manager's praise made me work more confidently and boldly.
My colleague Lily is my good friend. When I am busy, she will hand over a cup of coffee at the right time. If I work overtime, she will send another box of lunch; When I need eight hands for two hands, she always automatically picks up the materials to help me print. That's how she touched me on every little thing.
Once, I satisfactorily completed a plan and handed it over to the manager. Who knows that the next day he found me: "Nana, I originally valued your talent and professionalism. It doesn't matter if there are no new ideas, but you shouldn't copy the ideas of other colleagues. " The manager looked at me in surprise and handed me a planning book. God, it's surprisingly similar to mine. The planner is Lili.
Faced with the manager's dissatisfaction and the "hard work" of my good friend, I have nothing to say, because I have no evidence to prove my innocence.
The opportunity has finally come. I took a very important case. I am busier than usual. I screened out two schemes from my new ideas and made two schemes, A and B. Lily often helped me with Scheme A on my own initiative, but secretly I gave Scheme B to the manager to let him cooperate with me. Sure enough, Lily soon handed in a plan quite similar to Book A. After learning the truth, the manager was very angry and asked Lily to find another job.
In fact, after Lili left, I was not happy at all, because I not only lost a friend, but also lost my trust in my colleagues.
Prescription 2: unite and make a fool of yourself in public.
The performance of the villain: if you have the responsibility, you will push the result.
Villain level: * * * *
Speaker: Ke Mu
Gender: male
Age: 24 years old
Occupation: Engineer
There are little people in the office, like flies in public toilets, buzzing around, unable to catch them and lingering. The disturbed person is willing to pat his ass and leave, but he doesn't want to delay the activity for such a thing. The way to deal with villains varies from person to person: if the means are high, use villains to drive them away; High ability, but also a colored villain; Those with noble moral character should be tolerant of villains; If the blood pressure is high, I'm afraid I'll only be angry with the villain.
"Pan has gone too far!" Look, Xiao Yang, who has just been scolded by the leader, muttered angrily, "The grades are all his and the responsibilities are all mine. It's my bad luck to be with him, and this month's bonus is ruined! " Xiao Yang's words immediately caused comments from other colleagues in the office. Pan Xiao doesn't do things openly enough. Everyone works together on the project. He is not only picky, but also takes the credit of others for himself, but puts the blame on others. But his monthly report is so extravagant that the leaders believe it. Xiao Yang is not the first person to make slanderous remarks. In order to curb the momentum of the villains, we decided to punish Pan Xiao and let the leaders polish their eyes.
Xiao Yang and Pan Xiao are both responsible for the development of interface display module. We found some problems with Pan Xiao's code during the test, which may cause the interface not to display normally, but we didn't tell him. When demonstrating the development results to the leaders, everyone praised the interface module in unison. When the leader asked who contributed the capital, Pan Xiao immediately stepped forward.
The demonstration started smoothly, but Pan Xiao's code finally went wrong and the interface couldn't come out. In desperation, he did the same thing again: "Is this part written by Xiao Yang?" The leader couldn't help frowning: "Whose is it?" Xiao Yang pretended to be at a loss, and Pan Xiao simply took the opportunity to shirk responsibility. Xiao Yang came to power with confidence and calmly found the problem. The leader finally realized that Xiao Yang was the hero behind the scenes. From then on, Pan Xiao's tricks were no longer fatal.
Facts have proved that the key to dealing with the villain is to unite colleagues, give full play to their talents, let him appear on the spot and curb his momentum. If you are influenced by your feelings or gentlemanly demeanor, you can only lose yourself.
Prescription 3: Guide the villain to flatter and get kicked.
The villain's performance: a kiss-ass who favors one over the other
Villain level: * * *
Speaker: Water spirit.
Gender: Female
Age: 25 years old
Occupation: statistics
Flattery is not necessarily a villain, but if flattery is based on belittling others and pleasing another person, then flatterers are considered villains, as Zhang Die did.
Zhang Die is a person who doesn't like to look at other people's food. In addition to taking pictures of leaders, he also takes pictures of colleagues with backgrounds. For example, she said to the new cashier Xiao Li, "Ah, this silver butterfly necklace really matches your sweater. It doesn't look good when you wear it. She is not as white as you and has no taste in clothes. She is a rotten hanger, used to spread clothes. " She filmed Xiao Li only because she just learned that the executive director of the company is Xiao Li's uncle. Because I am always pushed out by her, I feel particularly disgusted, but I don't want to argue with her face to face. I just casually told a gossip colleague that Xiao Li is a fan of Richie Jen and her boyfriend is tall and handsome. Moreover, Xiao Li has the best singing skills, and the sound quality is very similar to that of Faye Wong.
These words soon spread to Zhang Die. The next day, she sent a Richie Jen CD to Xiao Li, and Xiao Li repeatedly waved and said, "I don't listen. I hate Richie Jen the most. It looks dirty. " Zhang Die paused and turned the rudder quickly. "In fact, I don't like him. By the way, I heard that your boyfriend is a tall and handsome prince charming. When will he bring it to meet me? " Xiao Li is a little unhappy: "I don't like to talk about private affairs."
Zhang Die wisely replied, "Are you free tonight? How about going to the karaoke bar together? Anyway, it's the weekend, let's sing happily all night. " Xiao Li shook his head and saidno. Zhang Die advised, "Go ahead. I also told my classmates that you are the second in Faye Wong. You should bring her a song queen today." Xiao Li said, "You invited water to shine. We are all junior high school classmates and good friends. She is the' Little Nightingale' in our school. "
Zhang Die stopped talking and passively returned to her office. She seemed to understand something from Xiao Li's indifference. Later, she knew that Xiao Li hated Richie Jen the most. Xiao Li's boyfriend is less than 170cm tall and has pimples all over his face. Xiao Li has a bad voice and doesn't like singing at all. From then on, Zhang Die flatter, never take me as a mat.
The main points of prescribing a villain:
It is necessary to prescribe the right medicine and ensure a radical cure, so as not to dare to do it again.
TIPS 1: learn to guard against villains;
1. It is not advisable to be close to a villain and far from a gentleman or close to a gentleman and far from a villain. Colleagues should get along with each other in moderation. Don't get too close, reveal your privacy, and avoid the villain hurting you for personal gain.
Your password (such as computer password) should be kept absolutely confidential.
If you are killed, you should seize the opportunity to prove your innocence, not just tolerate it, in case you are framed by a villain again.
4. Observe the people and things around you and try to nip in the bud.
TIPS2: tips for dealing with villains:
1. Deal with a man as he deals with you.
2. Expose the villain's face and behavior face to face, so that he dare not harm others.
3. complain to the boss and grasp the status quo of the villain.
4. Talk to the villain privately and give a severe warning.
Write another prescription in triplicate.
Speaker: Guo Yan
Gender: Female
Age: 27 years old
Occupation: employee of cultural company
Folk prescription 1:
White plus black (once a week, one tablet at a time, the effect is wonderful for people who fall in love with the internet)
Young people were taciturn when they were young. When they got carried away, they added some materials to the computer, typed "what goes around comes around" in the screen saver or simply sent viral emails, and at the same time gave away horror movies and scary phone calls, which led to insomnia or screaming in their dreams.
Folk prescription 2:
Stop diarrhea (3 tablets three times a week, for unmarried, unscrupulous and controlling people)
When the villain is the weakest, he will be overwhelmed by the beautiful girls in the office. MM dares to be angry and dare not speak. At this time, three strong men who admired MM were invited to appear in front of the villain in lightning speed, which made him panic and restless.
Folk prescription 3:
Naoxintong (once a month, unlimited dosage, suitable for alcoholics or promiscuous people after drinking)
The villain makes a living by framing others, contacting all his colleagues to deal with him as he deals with you, and attacking him at the dinner table on weekends. After drinking, he let himself go home in the dark and stuffed a famous book "The Massacre on the Nile" into his trouser pocket.