To put it bluntly, your ex-girlfriend was not with you at that time and chose to marry someone else. Even if she has a bad life now, it's her own business. It can be said that she deserved it. When she left you to marry that man, she never thought you were the best? Didn't it ever occur to you that you would be sad to leave you?
Now that I'm married to someone else, I find that they are either sincere to her or worse than before. Now I remember that you are very kind to her, and now I come to you for spiritual comfort. Where have you been?
And don't think about whether she will divorce for you. She wasn't with you at first, and even if she chose to divorce and marry you later, she would still find fault with you. At that time, she would have told her predecessor that she was taking pains.
How can I put it? Sometimes women are like this. When they are in love, they feel that people who are too kind to her are too impersonal, and then choose the woman they like to marry. As a result, they felt inappropriate or unhappy after marriage, and began to look for spiritual partners. If she is unhappy, she wants to have an affair with your soul mate, and then make you forget her and delay your finding a girlfriend. Don't let her keep you.
And contact for a long time, when her husband finds out, if it starts, it will definitely have some influence on you, an unmarried man. If you can't find someone in the future, others will gossip, so why contact?