It is normal for them to have this idea. In fact, what I want to say is that people with depression can have this idea, but it is worth noting that the more depressed they are, the more they need to accept the fact that they have depression. Many people just can't accept the fact that they have depression and delay their illness. So since you're here, please accept it and don't do anything to resist and blame yourself, because the more you resist and blame yourself, the worse it will be for your recovery from depression.
So, don't be afraid, accept depression when it comes. There's nothing to be afraid of. It won't kill you, it will only make you depressed and so on.
When I was suffering from severe depression, didn't I think so? Now that I have recovered, it is no exaggeration to recall those days when I was depressed. Feelings of pain, despair, helplessness, want to cry, fragility and fear fill every day when I suffer from depression. I feel that my life may be ruined like this, so the more I think about it, the more I fear and despair, and there is nowhere to tell, because people around me don't know themselves at all and go to the hospital. Not even a warm word enlightened me, as if my world had been isolated from the rest of the world, and the friendly gestures of outsiders had no feeling for me.
I am immersed in a depressed world, and I am in pain. At that time, I wanted someone to accompany me, understand myself and enlighten me, but I didn't. I was once desperate, and the heart that wanted to die kept popping up in my mind. Because I don't want to die, I stumble every day in such a world of extreme pain, self-blame, and want to die but dare not.
Maybe it's God's blessing, maybe it's my strong desire to survive, maybe I use running to vent my depression when I suffer from depression every day, or maybe it's the reason why I take medicine systematically. I think there are all four. I have been anxious for half a year, relying on systematic medication, exercise (running) and desire to survive. Together, I quickly stopped the black dog from biting me.
Today, I am fully recovered! I can eat, drink, write and sleep as before, and my mind is stronger. I even once thanked me for suffering from depression, because depression let me see a world that ordinary people can't see, and also raised my life level by several heights. I can let go of everything I've been entangled in and can't figure out. I no longer dwell on meaningless things, but I know that the meaning of life is actually to live in the present and live every moment now.
Believe that I can do it, so can you.
In the eyes of ordinary people, it is difficult to understand what depression is all about. They only know that you are too fragile and melodramatic, so that others always use words like "relax, don't think so much, what's there to think about, you see you have everything now" to appease the hearts of depressed patients. In fact, these words have no effect on patients with depression at all, but will only be counterproductive, causing resentment and resentment of patients with depression. Because for a depressed person, he knows all these things and he doesn't want to. When you persuade a depressed person, don't you know how many times he cried in the middle of the night because of depression? How many nights did you lose sleep?
They don't want this either. Nowadays, they are suffering from depression. It never occurred to them that they would suffer from this damn mental illness one day.
Some people say that people with depression are people with high IQ and high EQ, and they are also kind people. I have reservations about this point, but from the perspective of probability, I agree with this point, because most people with depression are smart and kind-hearted. So why do you get depression?
There are many reasons, which can be divided into the following factors from the general direction:
A blow to life (death or illness of a lover, frustration of marriage and love)
Excessive pressure (work pressure, life pressure, family pressure, debt, house slaves, unemployment, etc.). )
The influence of family background (parents' marriage is not harmonious, they care too little about themselves, single-parent families, parents often quarrel and fight, etc.). )
Environmental impact (being pushed out by colleagues, being made difficult by superiors, blindly comparing with others, and vanity not being satisfied)
The influence of personality (the pursuit of perfection, melancholy temperament)
Overthinking, the brain frequently thinks about the future, and most of them are worrying things. Psychologically, it is called "black box effect", which means that everything likes to think in an extremely bad way.
The above reasons are part of the causes of depression, of course, not all, but almost all people suffering from depression can face the corresponding reasons of their own depression. In other words: the cause of your depression must meet any of the above points.
As mentioned above, the first step to cure people with depression is to accept it.
Then the second step is to find out the reasons for your depression. If you find the cause, then you won't panic because of depression. At least this time, you know the cause of depression.
The third step is not to rule out medical treatment. Going to the hospital for depression is the most critical step. Go to the doctor for help. After taking drugs systematically, the drugs for depression just taken may have great side effects. After all, drugs for depression are neurological drugs, and the reaction of this side effect depends on your constitution. Some people have a great reaction, while others don't feel it at all. So, at this time, because you just took the medicine, you should report the situation to the doctor in time. It's not called depression if it's not uncomfortable.
Besides taking medicine, the fourth step is to find something you love to do or continue working. Of course, you are overwhelmed by work. Forgive yourself for not doing your job well. You should have such a comforting language: you can't do things well just because you are sick. Forgive yourself for not being able to do simple work well. The worst thing is to be fired. There is nothing to be ashamed of! When you think like this, you won't blame yourself too much.
The fifth step is to find a suitable exercise and suggest running to vent your depression. Although you are lazy and weak at the moment, you have to move for your health.
The sixth step is to actively hint and encourage yourself. If you have the conditions to find an offline counselor and do psychological counseling, many people may not be able to afford it for economic reasons, so this can be ignored for people with financial difficulties. You can read more books on psychology.
The seventh step is to stay away from people with negative energy. Do not add XX group and XX group similar to depression. They are full of negative energy and are not good for your illness. I believe I don't need to say more, it seems to be helpful to you. In fact, it has a subtle influence on you inadvertently, because there are a lot of information, complaints and illness discussions. Are you going to watch it or not? It's shocking (bad side) to see it, but there's nothing I can do without it.
Step 8: If you can find a depressed person for help, it will play a great role in your recovery from depression, because a depressed person, if he is a very positive person, has enough experience to help you get rid of the black dog bite as soon as possible (whether it is companionship, experience or guidance), which is extremely valuable to share.
The ninth step is to return to nature. Everything in this world belongs to this nature, so you should often go out to exercise, see the scenery, stay away from the room, stay away from the comfortable bed, and get in touch with all the flowers and trees in nature, which will relieve your depression.
Step 10: Communicate more, talk to your close friends, tell them the truth about your pain, and share your psychological and mental stress. Never bear it alone. Tell your relatives if necessary. Many people who suffer from depression choose to bear it alone because they are afraid of their families' worries. If they really don't want to tell their families, talk to their best friends. Talking is also a way to share your pressure.
Finally, I took two recent selfies of Mr. A Qiu to encourage you! Look how great I am now! You can have it too! Come on!
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