My son is two years old. One day, I hit my head on the corner of the table, grew a bag and cried.
More than a minute, I went to the table and asked loudly:
"Table, who hurt you? Crying so sad? "
Stop crying and look at me with tears in your eyes. I caressed the table and rushed to ask:
"Who's that? Who hurt the table? "
"Me, Dad, I hit it!"
"Oh, you hit it, then bow to the table and say you're sorry!"
The child bowed with tears and said, "I'm sorry."
From then on, I learned responsibility and responsibility!
-02-
My son is three years old. Crying for no reason, I asked:
"What's the matter? What's wrong? "
"No discomfort."
Then why are you crying?
"I just want to cry!" Obviously coquetry.
"Well, we don't care if you want to cry, but it's inappropriate for you to cry here, which will disturb our conversation. Dad will find you a place where you can cry alone and call us when you have cried enough. "
Then I put my son in the bathroom: "Knock when you're finished crying."
Two minutes later, the son knocked at the door: "Dad, Dad, I have finished crying!" " " .
"Well, have you finished crying? Come out after crying. "
Up to now, my son 18 years old has not learned to control and vent his anger!
-03-
My son is five years old. At night, I took my children across the small bridge, where the clear water bottomed out and the undercurrent surged. Look up at me:
"Dad, this river is beautiful. I want to jump in and swim. " I am one leng:
"Well, dad dances with you. But let's go home and change first. "
Come back, change clothes, see a basin of water in front of me, confused.
"Son, when you swim in the water, you should bury your face in the water. Do you understand? " The son nodded.
"Then let's practice now and see how long you can bury it." I looked at my watch.
"good!" Son buried his face in the water, brave? Only 10 second:
"Bah, dad, I'm suffocating. I feel terrible. "
"Really? Jumping into the river may be even worse. "
"Dad, can we not jump?"
"Well, I won't go."
From then on, I learned to be cautious and not rash, and think twice before you act.
-04-
My son is 6 years old and delicious. One night, after school, I passed McDonald's and stopped:
"Dad, McDonald's!" My mouth is watering.
"Well, McDonald's! Want to eat? "
"I want to eat!"
"Son, if a person wants to eat it, it's called a bear; If you want to eat but can't eat, you are called a hero. "
Then he asked, "Son, are you going to be a hero or a bear?"
"Dad, of course I want to be a hero!"
"good! What happens when the hero wants to eat McDonald's? "
"Can you stop eating!" Very determined!
"Great, hero! Go home. "
My son is drooling. Come back with me.
From then on, I learned to do something and stand the temptation.
-05-
The 8-year-old son is naughty and fights with his classmates. Fear, shrink back, cry.
"unfair?"
"unfair!" The child cried and answered.
"Anger?"
"Anger!" The children wailed.
"What are you going to do?" Ask again, "What can Dad do for you?"
"Dad, I want to find a brick to hit him from behind tomorrow!"
"Well, I think so! Dad will prepare bricks for you tomorrow. " Keep asking, "What else?"
"Dad, bring me a knife, and I'll stab him in the back tomorrow!"
"good! This is even more Japanese. Dad is going to prepare. " I'll go upstairs.
With understanding and support, children will gradually calm down. In about 20 minutes, I moved a lot of clothes and quilts from upstairs.
"Son, have you decided? Do you use bricks or knives? "
"But, Dad, why do you bring so many clothes and quilts?" The child is confused.
"Son, the thing is: if you hit him with a brick, then the police will take us away and put us in prison.
As long as you stay in the hotel for about a month, you can bring some short clothes and thin quilts; If you stab him with a knife, we won't go back to prison for at least three years. We should bring more clothes and quilts all year round. "
"So, son, have you decided? Dad is willing to support you! "
"Like this?" The child was surprised.
"Yes, that's what the law says!" I took the opportunity to popularize the law.
"Dad, why don't we quit?"
"Son, aren't you angry?"
"Hey, dad, I'm not angry anymore. In fact, I am also wrong. " My son blushed.
"Ok, Dad supports you!"
Since then, children have learned to choose and pay.
-06-
My 9-year-old son, in the fourth grade, failed in math and was unhappy.
"What's the matter? If you don't pass the exam, you will lose face for us. "
"Because the math teacher is so annoying, she doesn't like to listen to her class." Be confident.
"Oh, what a nuisance?" I am very interested.
"? ,?" My son said a lot, "She doesn't like me anyway."
"Oh, if others like you, you like her; If people don't like you, you hate her. Does this mean that you are an active person or a passive person? "
"It's a passive person!" The son replied.
"Is the strong, or the weak? Is it an adult or a villain? " Keep asking.
"It's the weak, it's the villain!" Children are timid.
"Do you want to be an adult or a villain?"
"Be an adult! Dad, I know: whether the teacher likes me or not, I can like her, respect her, actively influence her and be a strong person. "
The next day, I went to school happily, and I got excellent grades in math from then on. And know what is an adult and what is a villain.
-07-
10 years old, playing games. The wife teaches repeatedly, but the children don't change.
"Son, I heard that you play this every day?" I pointed to the computer.
"hmm." Admit it, bow your head!
"How do you feel after each game?"
"I am at a loss, empty, bored, self-blaming, and look down on myself."
"Then why play? Can't you help yourself? "
"Yes, Dad." My son is very helpless.
"good! Dad helps you! " I moved to the computer and gave my son a hammer. "Son, smash it!"
"Dad!" My son is surprised!
"Go ahead, dad can live without a computer, but he can't live without a son!"
The son cried and smashed the computer himself!
Since then, I have learned what principles are.
Yesterday, in Meng Mu, I chose my neighbor, but I didn't learn it, so I broke the loom.
-08-
Child 1 1 year. My wife and I have lived in a foreign land for a long time and call my old mother every day to say hello. One day, my son answered the phone:
"Hello, Dad!" Very excited!
"Well, good! Where's grandma? May I speak to grandma? "
"Dad, why do you only call grandma every day?"
"What's so strange about this? Because that's my mother! "
"What about me? I miss you too! "
"Fuck you!"
"Oh!"
From then on, my wife can receive her son's greetings at 6 o'clock every day, rain or shine, and wait for 8 years!
-09-
Er 12 years old, sixth grade, heavy homework, emotional anxiety. In the evening, my son came home from school and just entered the door.
"Son of a bitch, did you break my plate yesterday?" My sister started attacking.
"No, aunt, I didn't!" Look confused.
"I saw you calling, and you cheated!" My mother has irrefutable evidence.
"I didn't! Have you wronged me? " Crying, lying on the ground, emotional outburst.
After about five minutes, I walked out of the room and harsh voice way:
"What's the matter? Go crazy here! "
"Dad, my aunt and grandmother wronged me!"
"wronged? So what if I wronged you! Lie down when you are wronged? Nothing! Are you a man? "
Don't cry, stand up and bow your head:
"Dad, they wronged me."
"Men of courage, even if the sky is falling, also can't lie down! Except for a small plate? Nothing! " I continued, "How many ups and downs have people experienced in this life, being wronged, slandered, betrayed and betrayed? Did you come down? That's a coward! "
Hold your head high:
"Dad, I see. What should I do now? "
"Now? Ask yourself, "Do you have a lot of time? "
"No, there is a lot of homework to do."
"Then don't do your homework! Remember, even if there is a landslide, ignore it and do your own thing first! "
The son raised his schoolbag, made a ceremony to his grandmother and aunt, and calmly walked into the study.
The three of us will smile.
"Don't insult, look at bloom before the court;" I have no intention of staying, but I hope the sky will be overcast and calm. "Son, when you see this pair of children when you grow up, maybe you will think of the good intentions of grandma, aunt and dad today!
- 10-
Son 13 years old, senior one, with average grades. One day suddenly asked:
"Dad, reading useful? Are the test scores useful? "
"Why do you ask?" I'm Zheng.
"These days, there are many uncles and aunts at home. You always tell them that modern education is the worst education in 5000 years. " Ha, my son overheard my conversation with my friends.
"Yes, studies and exams are really useless."
"Then why should I read these useless things?"
"That's because you are young. It's no use trying first. If you can't even do these useless things well, you will certainly not be able to do useful things when you grow up. Therefore, although reading is useless, you should study hard. "
"Oh, Dad, I have the ability to study hard!"
Since then, my son has achieved excellent results.
Son, in fact, life is illusory, but we should take life seriously. We should spend our whole life to understand the spirit of the golden mean.
- 1 1-
Son 13 and a half years old, leaving his relatives and returning. Famous brand, avant-garde hairstyle, triumphant:
"Mom, am I handsome? The clothes and shoes given by my second uncle are XX brand, which is very expensive. Grandma, look at my hair. My brother took me to have it cut. The front is particularly long. Haha, is it cool? "
Like a butterfly, flying around the house. I turned a blind eye.
Two days later, my son was in front of the mirror, narcissistic. I quietly, standing behind it:
"Are you tired, son?"
"Dad, you scared me!"
"Ha ha, tired not tired, always worried; Always worried, there is always something wrong; Always guessing what others think. " Why come, living man? I'm tired of wearing clothes, stupid, stupid, stupid. "
"Dad, make fun of me." My son blushed.
"How about Dad letting you relax?"
"hmm." Put on your school uniform and your hair fell to the ground coolly. "Dad, it's so simple and practical!"
From then on, my son knew what is beautiful and what is ugly.
- 12-
Son 14 years old, grade two. Come back one day, unhappy.
"What's the matter? What are you thinking about? Tell me. "
"Nothing." It's just weird. Recently, the relationship between the two classmates is not bad, but in the school group these days, they openly slandered and attacked me. "
"Oh, are you hurt?"
"No, dad, what I don't understand is that I didn't offend them. I am ok recently! "
There was a flicker of pride in my son's eyes.
"How are you? Come on, tell me how good you are. "
"This semester, I entered the top five, won the first prize in the composition contest, won the first prize in the speech contest, won the basketball team championship, and was personally rated as one of the top ten athletes and outstanding class cadres."
"Stop, son, you're dying!" Sweating palms, a little out of control.
"What's the matter, Dad?"
"Son, you made the big fear of life! Dad has never seen an idiot die in his life, but he has seen too many people who can die. People's disaster is not because you did something wrong, but because you took too much. Son, you take too much, and you get too much honor. "
"What should I do? Dad. "
"For at least one year, all competitions and any selection are prohibited; It's called a double ban. People should have the ability to be excellent, but also have the ability to make others excellent! Honor is like a rose. Look at the beauty and prick your hand. "
"A year? What else, just basketball? "
"All right, two months!" Accept it.
Lao Tzu said, I dare not be the best in the world. The world is famous, and the world is destroyed.
- 13-
My son is fourteen and a half years old and has been banned for two months.
"Dad, after the double ban, the relationship between classmates has been much more harmonious, but there is still discussion."
"About what?"
"Many teachers and classmates think that I am so passive and not enterprising."
"Ha ha, of course, to be positive, the key is to actively take, or actively pay; Is it active competition or active humility? "
"Is everything humble?"
"Yes, we can all make concessions, and we can all make concessions in name, profit and power; Only one thing is absolutely forbidden. "
"What?"
"Do my duty!"
""
"that is: when no one sweeps the floor, you don't let it; If a classmate is sick, you won't let him; When others need help, you won't let them? When the country is in danger, you don't let it; We will never give in to anything of great benevolence and righteousness. "
"Get out! I see, that is aggressive! "
Free and easy, coping, advancing and retreating, this is the foundation of standing.
- 14-
Son 15 years old, summer vacation. I was invited to attend the meeting with my children.
Along the way, my son looked anxious. Late, the guests dispersed and asked:
"Son, what's the matter with you? Are you sick? "
"No, Dad, just a little upset."
"Uneasy?"
"Well, I went out this morning: by plane, first class; Get off the plane, big Mercedes; Hotel, presidential suite. I remember Master Jing told me that if virtue is not worthy, there will be disaster. "
"?" I was speechless for a moment.
"Dad, you work hard for all beings, and you are virtuous, so you can accept it when your uncles and aunts treat you like this; But I'm different. I am still a student. I have made no contribution to society. I don't deserve such treatment. I'm afraid there will be disasters in the future. "
"Son, dad is so happy!" I touched my son's head with excitement. "Dad relieved, have grown up! With you, there will be no catastrophe in your life! "
I shed tears of joy:
"Son, how about sleeping on the floor tonight and volunteering tomorrow?"
"Great, Dad, now I can sleep well."
Tian Xingjian, a gentleman should constantly strive for self-improvement; The terrain is Kun, and the gentleman wants virtue.
- 15-
One day when my son was fifteen and a half years old, idle people came to the house and persuaded the old mother to give the teacher a red envelope. Mother's heart.
"Grandma, I heard that you are going to give my teacher a red envelope?"
"Yes." I heard that everyone is very polite to teachers when it is popular now. "
"Etiquette? Never heard of it! "
"Your children don't understand. Your parents are not at home, and grandma is in charge. We can't miss the ceremony. "
"Grandma, do you really want to send it?"
"That's still fake. The red envelopes are all ready. Grandma will go by herself tomorrow. "
"Grandma, if you really send it tomorrow, I won't go to school. If you do this, it will be an insult to our teacher. He won't accept it. At that time, it would only make me feel ashamed and lift my head in front of my classmates. "
"This boy is not obedient. Grandma is for your own good, afraid that you will suffer? " A little angry.
"Grandma, I know you love me. But you have to believe me, believe that your grandson has strength, and the teacher likes me as well without giving gifts. "
The old mother was amused by her grandson's heroic behavior.
Later, when I talked about it, I secretly praised my son. Excellent grades, admitted to key high schools.
If you do something wrong, you must do everything for yourself! Gentleman, be aboveboard!
- 16-
Son 16 years old, senior one. Heavy academic work, return on Sunday.
"Dad, I want to resign as the director of the school broadcasting department."
"Why?"
"High school students have a clear goal, that is, they are admitted to prestigious schools, and most of them are unwilling to undertake public affairs. As for me, I am a monitor and a league cadre, especially in the broadcasting department. I am in charge, and it seems silly to my classmates. "
"Is this job important?"
"This is very important. There is no TV in the school, no internet access, and you can't leave the school casually. Therefore, broadcasting is almost the only channel for nearly 10,000 students to understand current events and relax. "
"Then you resign. Does anyone want to do it? "
"Not yet. The teacher also thinks that I am more suitable. "
"Then you should do your duty and be a loyal person."
"But, Dad, it will take up study time and affect academic performance!"
"Really? What if your family is sick and you only have half the time to study for other students? "
"I will carefully arrange my time, improve my concentration and improve my learning efficiency."
"Haha, in order to make you become such a person, mom and dad are willing to get sick."
"Don't! Dad, son, I get it. Thank you for this job in the broadcasting department. Thank you, teacher. "
Son, caring about one thing and losing another is a fool's eternal excuse. Many people: at work, they say that family affects career; At home, I said that my career delayed my family; This is a shameless man. People should take good care of their parents, wives, children, friends, bosses and sentient beings in this life. This is a kind of wisdom and strength.
"Oh, have a meal. After dinner, go and help my aunt wash the dishes. "
"Ok, Dad, do the housework well!"
Learn from things, be sincere and upright, cultivate one's morality and cultivate one's character, and rule the country and level the world.
- 17-
My son is sixteen and a half years old. My wife told me that my son likes a female classmate.
"Son, come here."
"Oh, Dad, what's the matter?"
"I've been looking at you recently, as if I were happy and worried. You look uncertain and have something on your mind?"
"?" Bow your head, confess, blush.
"Ha, this is a good thing, which shows that my son is interested in people and has a normal orientation. Dad is relieved. "
"Dad, what's up?"
"Now many children are not interested in people, but only interested in computers; Not interested in heterosexual sex, but interested in homosexual sex. If that's the case, dad will have to die of shame in front of his ancestors. "
"Ha ha, dad, I thought you would scold me. I have been entangled for many days. " My son was also very happy and relaxed at once.
"Son, dad tests you."
"Well, please ask a question."
"What is a gift?"
"In short, courtesy is the most reasonable relationship between people and between people and everything in the world."
"Well said! So, what's your relationship with that female classmate? "
"Classmate relationship!"
"Good, classmate relationship! Then, maintaining the relationship with classmates is called courtesy, and surpassing this relationship is called indecent assault. Do you understand this, son? "
"Yes, Dad. I have been studying the Bible since I was six years old, and it has been 10 years now. If I don't understand this truth, how can I be worthy of my parents' painstaking teaching? "
"Just know is not enough. How can we do it? " The tone is harsh.
"Dick has answered, Dad!" A serious tone.
Since then, my son has successfully passed the "adolescence".
Prospering in poetry, standing in ceremony, and becoming happy.
After reading this article, I was taught.