One sentence makes people laugh.
Li Li has a very good relationship with Wang Jing, the head of another department in the company. One day, Wang Jing suddenly came to Lily.
Li Li was surprised and asked, What are you doing here? It's working time now.
Wang Jing said: Lili, our department now has a plan to cooperate with a company. But I have no acquaintances in this company, so I want to ask you for help!
Lily paused, and Jing Wong continued: I know you are very familiar with the public relations manager of a company, so you should be the middleman! Say a few words for me, and I won't treat you badly when it's done.
Hearing this, Li Li felt very embarrassed and wanted to refuse directly, but she was afraid that Wang Jing would not be happy. Say yes, but I don't want to mix business with personal relationship yet.
So she said to Wang Jing: I know the public relations manager of the company, but she is on vacation at this time. I'm afraid your plan will be delayed when she comes back. Jing Wong understood at once.
Actually, Lili's friend didn't go on holiday. She just doesn't want to get involved. Jing Wong and I are not in the same department, so I'm afraid my boss will be unhappy, so I'll intervene in other departments. Besides, if you can't do it, it will affect your friendship with Jing Wong.
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Xiao Wang's company has bought a batch of new household appliances, which are very popular. Xiao Wang's friend Xiao Li also works in an electrical appliance store, but Xiao Li's store has few customers every day and its business is bleak.
One day, Xiao Li and Xiao Wang had dinner together. Because of their busy work, they haven't eaten and chatted together for a long time. There are very few toasts to every bosom friend. During the dinner, the two men pushed a cup for a change and talked and laughed.
Xiao Wang said: this month, our home appliances sold out as soon as they entered a batch, and the bonus doubled. Today is my treat!
Xiao Li also wants to have face in front of his friends, but his salary is not even enough for his daily expenses, so he said, OK! It looks really bleak.
Seeing his friend like this, Xiao Wang was a little carried away and said, you should also go to Baiyunjia Power Plant for approval. There is an old acquaintance of mine there, just say that I introduced him, and they promised to give you the best price.
Xiao Li was very happy and went to the appliance manufacturer the next day. Xiao Li is very polite, always smiling, with big brother and master on his lips. In addition, he ordered a large quantity, which not only got a very favorable price, but also allowed Xiao Li to sell on credit in the first month and pay in installments later.
In this way, two-thirds of the goods in Baiyun Power Plant were ordered by Xiao Li. When Xiao Wang's staff went shopping, the products of home appliance manufacturers were out of stock, saying: our products are becoming more and more popular, and the products have been sold out this month. Thank you, Xiao Wang of your company, for introducing us to a big customer.
Soon, Xiao Wang was dismissed by the company.
Colleagues are enemies, and even a good friend can't reveal the company's business secrets. Xiao Wang lost his job because of the distinction between public and private affairs, and his relationship with Xiao can be imagined.
guide to action
Some people say that it is best for good friends not to cooperate at work, but fate and opportunity are not clear, and it is not unusual to happen to work in the same unit. No matter what your relationship with your friends is, don't confuse your personal relationship with your business, otherwise you will only put yourself in a very embarrassing position.
If you meet someone who is both a friend and a colleague and ask you to lend a helping hand, you can jokingly say: In fact, this matter is very simple, and you will certainly be able to cope with it. It may be bad to be influenced by my point of view. This sentence indirectly reminded him that a successful person must be independent and confident, and this will not hurt everyone's friendship.
Distinguishing between public and private is the basis of maintaining friendship. If you are running a company or starting a business with friends, you should strictly follow the agreement of both parties, communicate more about matters not covered, and stress credibility. Rockefeller said: Friendship based on business is better than business based on friendship. So, how about: friends are friends, and business is business. In other words, it is fair to friends and to yourself to put friendship aside when doing business. It is right to offer personal help to friends after business talks.
In short, between friends, we should also have principles in doing things, treat people with equality, don't generalize, and consider things comprehensively. In short, friends should distinguish between public and private.
The art of communication between friends: refuse friends without hurting.
The art of communication between friends: there are many times when friends refuse to help without hurting each other. It is very necessary to help others if possible, and it will also bring us many benefits, such as good interpersonal relationships. But sometimes friends may make unreasonable demands, and if they reluctantly accept them, they will bring themselves a lot of unnecessary trouble. At this time, they should dare to refuse.
One sentence makes people laugh.
Li Ming is a warm-hearted man. He never refuses a friend's request. Therefore, when a friend is in trouble, he always likes to ask him for help, and Li Ming is also willing. One day, a friend asked him an embarrassing thing.
A friend said, Li Ming, please do me a favor. Mother is ill, wife is in poor health, and the family is in urgent need of a sum of money. My buddy can only ask you for help.
How much do you need? Li Ming asked.
50 thousand yuan! The friend said.
Li Ming suddenly felt embarrassed. 50 thousand yuan is not a small sum, what's more, he doesn't have that much money
However, when friends are in trouble, it is obviously not enough for them not to help. Help them, they are willing but unable to do so. Li Ming is in a dilemma.
So, he said to his friend, I understand your situation very well. We usually get along well. You should know who I am. If I can help, I will help. However, you asked for 50 thousand at once, and I was really embarrassed and had no choice. I feel very embarrassed.
After listening to Li Ming, my friend said, it doesn't matter. I know what you mean. My requirements may be a little high. It doesn't matter. We will still be good friends in the future.
Friends borrow money, although it is difficult to say no, but they must have the courage to sayno. Only by saying it skillfully will they not hurt each other's self-esteem. You know, respect between people is mutual. You respect others, and others will respect you.
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A famous writer was ill, and people rushed to visit her, but she didn't want to hear those comforting words that were as boring as swallowing a big bowl of fat, so she hung a ban on refusing to visit at the door of the ward.
One day, she received a phone call from a friend. My friend said on the phone that she would come to see her.
Are you coming to visit the patient? She said reluctantly.
Yes, yes, I will come to see you tonight. The friend said.
But I can't. The doctor told me that I had just finished the operation and needed more rest. It's not convenient to see.
Oh, I see! My friend didn't say anything, thinking, hasn't she been out of surgery for three days?
Famous writers refuse others with lies, which naturally makes people suspicious and unhappy.
guide to action
Improper refusal will not only hurt each other, but also make them unable to accept your attitude towards them. Therefore, when refusing a friend's request, we should pay attention to the tone and way of speaking in order not to hurt the harmony. The following methods can be used for reference: (1) To suppress, popularize first. Listen and affirm before refusing, others will accept it more easily. That is to say, we should not say no to the other party's request as soon as we open our mouth, but listen carefully to the other party's situation, express understanding and sympathy, and then truthfully state the reasons why we can't accept it, get the other party's understanding, and let them give up the request automatically. Listening and affirming can make the other person feel respected and accepted. Even if you finally show rejection, the other party will appreciate you.
(2) Introduce others and shift the target. Explain your difficulties realistically, and at the same time enthusiastically introduce people who can help. In this way, the other party will not be disappointed and angry because of your refusal, but will thank you for your concern and help.
(3) Put forward a plan to slow down the troops. After the other party makes a request, it is not necessary to refuse it on the spot, and it can be delayed. You can say: Let me think about it and give you an answer tomorrow. In this way, even if you win the time to consider how to reply, you will make the other party think that you are taking his request seriously. Sometimes the other person may be anxious to get things done, but you really have no time and no way to help him. At this time, we must take into account the actual situation of the other party and his mood at that time, and we must avoid making the other party angry from embarrassment, so as not to cause misunderstanding between each other. You can show a positive attitude and tell the other person that it can only be done next time. If the other person needs to do it right away, he will find someone else.
(4) convey your refusal intention to the other party through body posture or indirect language. When I want to refuse to continue talking with the other person, I can use casual gestures such as turning my neck, wiping my eyes with a handkerchief, pressing my temples and pressing my eyebrows. These actions are tantamount to sending a signal that I am tired and unwell. I hope to stop talking as soon as possible. Obviously, this is a way to imply refusal. In addition, stop smiling, keep silent for a long time, stare at each other, etc. It can also mean that you are not interested in the conversation and feel embarrassed. Of course, you can also use language hints, such as: What can I do for you? I'm just going out. Would you like some more tea? And so on, thus indirectly expressing refusal.
(5) The other party asks for something, but you consciously avoid it and lead the topic to something else. This will not embarrass the other party, but also gradually reduce the desire of the other party and achieve the purpose of euphemistic refusal.
Generally speaking, you can also use the following words to express your refusal.
This is really a good idea, but it's a pity that we can't adopt it right away. Let's wait until the situation is good!
This idea is too good, but only from the current conditions, it must be abandoned, and I think it will definitely be used in the future.
I know you are a considerate person. If you didn't trust me very much and thought I couldn't do it well, then you wouldn't come to me, but I was really busy. I'll do my best to support you next time. Wait a minute.
(6) Take precautions. In life, we may encounter this situation: when someone asks you for something, you may know the other person's purpose, but you can't refuse his request. At this time, you can suppress first, take the attack as the defense and refuse his request. For example, if a friend borrows money from you to gamble, you can make your own request before the other person makes his own request.
The art of communication between friends: say more compliments.
The art of communication between friends: say more compliments, reach out without smiling, and deal with people. If you can praise them in a timely and appropriate way so that others can't refuse, then it will be easy to succeed in job hunting or making friends.
One sentence makes people laugh.
In ancient times, there was a lobbyist who boasted in public that the villain was extremely likable although he had no talent. I have a wish in my life to give 1000 tall hats to the first batch of 1000 people I met. Now I have given 999 hats, and there is only one left.
An elderly man shook his head and said, I don't believe it. Your last one can't be put on my head under any circumstances.
Hearing this, the lobbyist quickly handed it up and said that Mr. Wang was absolutely right. He has walked from south to north for most of his life, but there is really no such straightforward person as Mr. Wang.
The elder suddenly stroked his beard and said proudly, You really know me.
Hearing this, the lobbyist immediately smiled: Congratulations, I just gave you my last tall hat.
Everyone wants to be praised by others, and no one likes to be accused and criticized by others. People usually can't refuse compliments. If you want to deal with people, you must learn to praise others in a timely and appropriate manner.
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Once upon a time, Momotaro and taro watermelon lived in a small fishing village near Tokyo Bay. One day, each of them went fishing in a boat. It was a stormy day, and each of them only caught a dozen fish.
When I got home at night, Momotaro's wife saw it and said coldly, Did you only hit a dozen? Momotaro complained to himself: The weather is bad, and the sea is very stormy. You think it's easy to fight? The next day, he deliberately went home empty-handed to let women know that fishing is not easy.
Similarly, he caught more than a dozen fish, but taro and watermelon met the opposite. When his wife saw that he had brought back more than a dozen fish, she said happily, How many did you catch in such bad weather? In this way, we can keep half of it ourselves and I'll sell the other half tomorrow. You can save some money again. Watermelon taro was overjoyed and proudly replied, What are these? If the weather is a little better tomorrow, I can catch a boat of fish!
The next day, the weather was similar to that of the previous day, but taro and watermelon really came back with a boat full of fish.
Many people will never say a word of praise to their family. He just kept raising his face all day to urge his family to make the house look lifeless. Everyone is full of resentment, because they have never heard a word that makes them happy, and they will be scolded if they do something wrong. Such a family will never have a harmonious atmosphere.
guide to action
Everyone likes to be praised. Mary Kay, a famous American businesswoman, said: There are two things in the world that need people's recognition and praise more than money and sex. The strongest desire in human heart is to be recognized and valued by others. Everyone wants to be praised by others without exception, and everyone needs such a feeling of being valued. Once others help him realize or let him experience this feeling, he will have a good impression on this person.
It is very easy to express appreciation without any cost, but the rewards you get after praising others are various. If you can satisfy others' sense of identity and honor with sincere respect and sincere praise, then others may become happier, more reasonable and more willing to cooperate.
Sincere praise comes from the heart. It is profound and strong. If it can be expressed concisely, it will be an excellent language. We should try our best to express our feelings with accurate, appropriate, profound, vivid and complete praise.
The art of communication: resolving the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
The art of communication: resolving the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Most family disputes are caused by trivial matters. In real life, these little things are often infinitely expanded and eventually lead to uncontrollable endings. The reason is that many people can't speak, and if they are not careful, they will intensify contradictions.
One sentence makes people laugh.
Liu Fei and his wife usually live at home and usually go to Liu Fei's parents' house every weekend. Liu Fei is the only child in the family, and her mother loves her son very much. But she has some old ideas that housework is a woman's business, and it is only natural for women to take care of men.
One weekend, the young couple returned to their parents' home in Liu Fei. Mother-in-law said in front of her daughter-in-law, I haven't seen her for a week, and Liu Fei has lost weight. She asked if she did too much housework, didn't eat well, and so on. My son doesn't know how to answer. Mother-in-law's meaning is obvious, that is, blaming the daughter-in-law for not taking good care of the man as a woman. In the face of her mother-in-law's unreasonable censure, Xiao Huang, the daughter-in-law, didn't refute, but took up the topic and said, Mom, it's all my fault that I didn't take good care of him during this time. Starting from tomorrow, I will give him more nutrition, and maybe he will get fat soon.
On the second weekend, as soon as the young couple returned to their parents' home, Xiao Huang took her mother-in-law by the hand and said to her mother-in-law: Mom, I cooked him five meals of meat, one meal of fish and stewed chicken this week. Eggs and milk keep coming in every morning. But he still doesn't seem to gain weight. Mom, do you have any good ideas?
Mother-in-law was moved by her daughter-in-law's words, and quickly said, it's useless to eat anything like this. This is probably due to heredity. Everyone is as thin as a monkey. Look at his father, too This made the whole family laugh.
When her mother-in-law blamed herself, Xiao Huang comforted her instead of convincing others by reasoning, effectively preventing her mother-in-law from continuing to blame herself unfairly and avoiding the intensification of the contradiction between her mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law.
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After dinner, wang hong was reading a book when she suddenly heard some noise from her neighbor Aunt Li's house, so she hurried over to have a look. When I came to my aunt's house, I saw that it was a mess, as if I had just fought a war. There are broken porcelain bowls and a large spread of noodles on the ground.
Aunt Li sat on the stool angrily, and her daughter-in-law stood beside her angrily.
Daughter-in-law said: No! If you don't make it clear to me today, I won't finish with you.
The son Xiaoruo stood by with his head down and said nothing. Aunt Li said weakly, how dare you say!
I cook for you three times a day and wash your clothes.
Daughter-in-law: I don't live at home. Going to work during the day is very uncomfortable.
Mother-in-law: You make your own money and eat in groups. I don't see any of you.
Daughter-in-law: How much I spend!
Mother-in-law: family expenses are not big? We have to pay for water, electricity, pesticides, fertilizers and gifts.
Daughter-in-law: What's it to me? I haven't had a good day at your house. It depends on your face when I get home. Let's be clear today! Say, the daughter-in-law wants to throw things again.
Seeing that the war seems to have a more violent trend, wang hong took Aunt Li's hand and quickly said, Auntie, Auntie, stop it! An honourable death is better than a disgraceful life. He took his daughter-in-law by the hand and said, Sister, have a rest!
Can you blame me? I have a fever these days and have no strength. At dinner, I told them to wash the dishes, and I went to bed. She said my son was lazy. I said, you are really good. She broke the bowl and said that she and my son had divorced. How am I supposed to live this life? Can't I just say something? Have any aunts, old and young, held wang hong's hand and cried?
Son Xiaoruo finally spoke: Mom, stop.
Daughter-in-law: You heard it just now. What does she look like an elder?
Wang Hong, afraid of the expansion of the war, said quickly, Sister, you should talk less. We young people should respect the old first.
Does she deserve my respect?
I don't want to say a word before my aunt passes out.
There are contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and it's not just her family! If the daughter-in-law can treat her mother-in-law as her own mother, and her mother-in-law also treats her daughter-in-law as her own mother, how wonderful it would be! However, it is difficult!
guide to action
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a very special family relationship, which is different from the blood relationship between relatives and the marriage relationship based on love. Therefore, it is easy to form equal love without natural cohesion and different sense of belonging.
Mother-in-law doesn't like many behaviors of her daughter-in-law. If her daughter had done such a thing, there wouldn't be so much unhappiness. Similarly, a daughter-in-law can't tolerate her mother-in-law talking a lot, and if her mother says the same thing, she doesn't feel anything. As a younger generation, a daughter-in-law should understand her mother-in-law's difficulties, respect and understand her personal habits, take the initiative to communicate, care for her mother-in-law, and change her heart. I believe that evil mother-in-law is still rare in modern society.
Some daughters-in-law can talk to their mothers endlessly, but they have nothing to say in front of their mother-in-law. They always feel particularly uncomfortable between them. To ease this atmosphere, we must learn to be affectionate and blow more sweet wind in our mother-in-law's ear.
First, call your mother more often. The mother of a daughter-in-law can bring infinite warmth to her mother-in-law. However, some daughter-in-law's sweet words are too precious to export easily. There are also some daughter-in-law who simply call their mother-in-law a child.
Most daughters-in-law who are separated from their mother-in-law call their mother when they enter her husband's house, and say "Mom, I'm leaving" when they go out to say goodbye. It seems polite, but not affectionate enough. If we can interweave open-minded family background and appellation, the atmosphere will be much better. You might as well say: it's cold these days, mom. You just wear too little. Don't catch cold.
You can wear such a thin needle Mom's eyes are really good!
Second, we should communicate more. Those old people who have little social interaction and are pampered are confined to a small area every day, but they also want to know something new outside their home. A clever daughter-in-law can communicate with her mother-in-law flexibly. They often talk to their mother-in-law about street chores, social news, movie plots, and the feeling of reading newspapers occasionally. Let the mother-in-law immerse herself in a happy atmosphere every day.
Finally, the son plays an important role in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Instead, we should actively adjust and communicate the feelings between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, at the same time, pay attention to creating a relaxed and free family atmosphere, increase the interest of family life, offset and alleviate the unhappiness between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, actively cultivate the ability to love and assume the responsibility of love. Only in this way can we effectively resolve the contradictions and disputes in family life and make the family happy.