Wang Man, male, 8 years old, is a sophomore in primary school. The student's academic performance is poor and he is eccentric, so it is difficult to get along with his classmates.
1, poor hygiene habits, always dirty hands and face;
2, bad interpersonal relationship, always bullying the students around, always appearing in a strong image, slapping or kicking classmates or biting people for no reason.
3, poor organizational discipline, when you have something to say in class, you don't have the habit of listening attentively, thinking seriously and raising your hand to answer.
Second, the reason analysis:
1 The student lived in his hometown with his grandfather since childhood, rarely saw his parents and lacked attachment to them. Grandpa listened to his words and tried his best to satisfy him, gradually forming a savage and willful character. (Influence of environmental life as a child)
Later, my father was afraid that he would suffer, and told him to hit back at the bully. Gradually, he changed from a bully to a bully, from a weak person to a big "king", which made the teacher extremely headache. (Father's wrong way of guiding)
Second, the reason analysis:
Because the student was too fond and indulgent since childhood, his parents were afraid that he would suffer, which made him gradually become a "little emperor" at home and among his companions. Others said not to touch him, but he was arrogant and always hit people. The student is self-centered and doesn't accept other people's opinions. He didn't realize that he came to school to learn knowledge and culture, and he didn't expect to obey discipline. Treating this kind of child, criticism and education can't solve the problem at once, and it takes someone to tie the bell to solve the problem. It comes from family diseases, and it needs the close cooperation of families to effectively cultivate students' healthy personality.
Third, comprehensive analysis and diagnosis.
The child needs to solve three main problems at present:
1. Aggressive behavior;
2. interpersonal relationships;
3. Learning adaptability.
Why are there these problems? The specific analysis is as follows:
1. aggressive behavior:
According to children's growing experience, aggression is mainly the result of experience. People's behavior has the characteristics of "seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages" A certain behavior is chosen because it can bring some benefits to the parties. In this case, the initial form of "aggressive behavior" is "being beaten", and his beating the child is a role change, but he didn't "punish" after hitting the child, which proves that this behavior is feasible again. The experience of "the strong beat people" and "the weak beat people" made him cognitively strengthen this beating behavior, and also made him cognitively strengthen the rationality of this behavior.
Therefore, the concept has formed such a reasoning: the "weak" are bullied by other children, and the "strong" can protect themselves through their own strength and force. And under the strong hint of "I am a strong man", I often give a warning to the outside world to show my strong posture.
When the behavior is repeated, it will become a habit and even become one of the personality characteristics. As far as the current situation and age stage are concerned, it can only be said that there is an aggressive tendency, so timely intervention can be corrected. Otherwise, with the increase of age, the increase of behavior recurrence rate will make it more difficult to change and evolve into personality characteristics.
2. Interpersonal communication problems:
The child's interpersonal problems are closely related to his aggressive behavior. Aggressive behavior may make him less bullied, but it has attracted the attention of his classmates. These behaviors have also formed his "bad image" in the eyes of others: he can't move, can't talk, has a big temper, loves to hit people, and even some behaviors imply "I want to play with you", but the way of "hitting" is not recognized and accepted.
3. Learning adaptability:
Nowadays, students have not made much progress in their studies, which is a manifestation of inadaptability in the process of development. This not only affects behavior and interpersonal coordination, but also affects learning attitudes and methods.
At present, students' learning problems are mainly how to adjust their emotions, pay corresponding attention to learning, and improve class efficiency, which is also an important aspect of promoting interpersonal relationships. Give positive advice and guidance in behavior, and the combination of the two can achieve the expected effect.
Fourth, interview and guide.
1, ask about the basic situation.
2. Reflect the student's performance in school to parents, indicating that he wants to educate his son's mind.
3. Learn from parents about their children's growth process, especially major events;
4. Talk with children to discuss their psychological contradictions and ideological aspirations;
Pay attention to let children express "what they think, what they want to do and how they feel". The first purpose is to let children vent; The second is to let parents learn and practice communication with their children; Third, it can guide parents how to do better and do a good job in education.
6. Let the child find the most popular classmate in the class, let him know how to get along with his classmates and be a popular person.
7. Point out the direction of continuous efforts: continue self-monitoring and control.
8. Set behavioral goals and strengthen self-management ability;
Evaluation of consulting effect of verb (abbreviation of verb)
Basically achieved the expected goal: improved aggressive behavior, promoted the development of good interpersonal relationships, and improved the level of learning adaptability.