I once read an article about the education mode of the richest man, Wang Jianlin, to "national husband" Wang Sicong. According to the article, Wang Jianlin advocates that young people should have ambition and arrogance. His educational method is that "young people without arrogance are not young people". Wang Sicong's impression has always been that he dares to speak and do, and he is a high-profile publicity. So, it seems that he really benefited from his father's tolerance.
"Is Wang Sicong in charge of Wanda?" Wang Jianlin's answer to this question is: "He has made it clear that he will not be in charge of Wanda. He has his own personality and his favorite fields. "
In recent years, Wang Sicong has a unique investment vision in the entertainment circle. Regardless of whether he is really as good as his father in the end, he dares to do what he wants and stick to what he thinks is right. Such arrogance is indeed an essential quality of a great man.
02
A Ling, a senior, recently started a business and opened a book studio.
Ling seems gentle and friendly and doesn't talk much. She has been listening carefully. Once she makes up her mind to do something, you will feel her domineering from the bottom of her heart.
Because it was a newly opened small studio, I asked Ling, "How do you talk about a big-name author? Will it be embarrassing? "
Ling smiled and said, "What's the point of underestimating yourself? We are all equal in cooperation, so don't belittle yourself. The less confident you are, the more despised you will be. You just need to show your abilities and advantages objectively. Whether cooperation can be reached in the end depends on both parties. Don't try to influence each other's judgment. "
Later, she shared some thoughts on cooperation with me: when talking about a big-name author, don't be shocked by his past glory, but judge whether the topic under discussion has a market and boldly win the topic with potential. For problems that can be solved with money, don't sell self-esteem, but be human; For topics that are not optimistic, don't be confused by the rhetoric of big-name authors, and refuse to be straightforward, which is so arrogant!
Sister Ling has written several super bestsellers, including well-known authors and small transparent authors. For her, accurate planning and positioning, exquisite packaging and powerful marketing promotion are the core, and this happens to be her advantages and strengths. Whether the author is famous or not is only a plus item for her.
"What if a potential big-name author just doesn't like small studios and can't afford high prices?" I asked.
"That can only be cold!" Ling said indifferently, "That's what cooperation is all about. He doesn't like my platform, so he doesn't have to be forced. I firmly believe that the future of the studio will be impressive, and we will cooperate again. "
To tell the truth, I was completely conquered by the pride and domineering of senior A Ling.
In the final analysis, your pride should match your ability: know your own advantages, do your best to do things well, seize opportunities, and don't regret losing them; Believe in your own strength, believe that the other party can make a correct judgment, and you don't have to condescend or make do with it.
03
This is not the first time I have seen the pride and domineering of Senior Sister A Ling. The first lesson that Senior Sister Aling gave me was in college.
At that time, she was preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination, not this major, but the broadcasting host major of Communication University. Sister Ling has always had a dream of hosting. In addition, I worked as an anchor in the radio station after I went to college, and I have a strong interest in hosting radio programs, especially playing with those devices. Later, I hosted several university parties, and I had an indescribable fascination with the microphone and the feeling that the host controlled the scene.
I have never been exposed to this major before. Baidu took a look. It is said that Communication University ranks first in the country in this major, and I am shocked. I am the first interdisciplinary in China. Such a cool decision can only be made by Sister Ling.
But the harder you work, there will always be people who can't expect you to be good and laugh at you behind your back.
"As long as she looks like that, she still wants to be a TV host, but she wants to be beautiful if she is not beautiful."
"I get up at six every day, and I know I can't sleep well. Now I am so hard. If I don't pass the exam at that time, I will be embarrassed. "
"People should have self-knowledge, and don't aim too high ... tut tut."
Ling always pretends not to hear. I know, what she thinks is that as long as she is finally admitted, it is the most beautiful face. Therefore, she worked harder to prepare for the exam and spent almost all day cramming up her professional knowledge in the library.
She worked so hard, so hard, but she didn't get what she wanted in the end. At first, the sarcasm surged in, but Ling finally couldn't help it and said, "I'll try my best to do what I want to do. I have worked hard, and I have no regrets in life. Yes, I don't know myself. I want to be beautiful, but you dare not even think about beauty. You only sneer behind people, don't you? "
They were speechless and ran away with their tails between their legs. Sister Ling was so cool and handsome at that time!
"In fact, why didn't you want to take an examination of this major in our school? You must be admitted without any suspense. " I asked.
"Knowing that there is no suspense, don't rush to do it. It's better to take a risk and do what you want on impulse. If you dare not act rashly when you are young, is this almost the case in your life? " Senior A Ling said with a smile.
Yes, young people have pretentious capital. Young people should be a little arrogant. What if they aim too high? Dreams are dreams because they are not so easy to realize.
I appreciate the pride of senior A Ling, and I work hard to do one thing, just because it is what she wants to do, and it doesn't matter whether it is finally realized or not. When you are young, you must fight for your dreams once without regrets, go your own way, and don't live in the expectations of others. This is the greatest pride.
04
Speaking of youth, I think of a cover illustrator I once worked with. In 1995, he was very young but very opinionated and lofty.
I once collaborated on the cover of a book. I found him a painting by a famous painter as a reference when I was creating. "I almost want this brushwork and style. You can also learn from this picture in terms of creativity. The information conveyed by the picture is also very close to what we want ... "
After a while, the painter replied, "Your model painting is really good from creativity to brushwork. However, illustration is a creative work, so it is better to draw lessons from it less, otherwise it will be easily criticized as plagiarism by peers. This is my principle. After listening to everyone's introduction to the content of the manuscript, I have my own new ideas on creative ideas, and I believe my work will be better. "
After listening to his words, on the one hand, I feel ashamed, and it is indeed desirable to learn as little as possible from creative work; On the other hand, he is full of doubts. "At least this is the work of a famous painter, okay?" You flatter yourself that you can draw better before you finish? "
But in the end, his unexpected brain hole really created more magical and bizarre works, which really conformed to the theme of our book and made me appreciate and admire him more and more.
Therefore, sometimes arrogance seems to be a gesture of refusal, but it is actually a principle of treating people. Let others know the bottom line and boundary of your behavior. Even if you are cold, arrogant and unsophisticated, your firm self-confidence, courtesy and restraint will make others praise you, instead of looking down on you like a little boy.
05
We often see such words: Young people should get rid of pride, don't aim too high and be self-righteous, and learn to be modest, keep a low profile, and step by step, in order to get out of a world.
I don't think so.
Why do young people in their teens and twenties want to erase the pride and momentum they have at this age? The more wit, the less courage. Why can't young people be proud and self-centered?
I am most afraid of ignorance, but isn't it sad to be timid at a young age?
Youth is the greatest capital, and there is still time to make mistakes and try and make mistakes, so don't bow your head easily, don't sell yourself short, don't give up so quickly, it's too plain and ordinary, and there are no edges and corners. Didn't you fail your youth? But remember, pride without education is arrogance, pride without wisdom is stubbornness and stupidity.
Arrogance is not a superficial effort to show others. Arrogance is inner self-confidence and self-confidence, and it is calmness and persistence in doing things.
True pride is a kind of self-sustaining humility. Your efforts should be worthy of your pride, and your ability should keep up with your fearlessness.
I'm Joanne, a columnist, a psychological counselor, a brain king selling literature and art, affectionate and rational.