The question group did not add any other information on this issue. Let's make two default assumptions. In order to analyze this problem.
1 Yes, my daughter-in-law didn't go back to his house for the New Year before, but she was at your house for the New Year. Because it seems that this is obviously your daughter-in-law 1 asking to go home for the New Year, so you want to refuse.
The second is that by default, I don't want to go to my wife's house for the New Year.
Let's talk about how to refuse first.
1. Rejected on the grounds of "serious epidemic situation".
Judging from the situation described below, your wife's home should not be in the same city as you. Like this, it is a mobile, even cross-provincial New Year's activities. Now our country is advocating local Chinese New Year. Although there is still more than a month before the Chinese New Year, various media channels have begun to call on everyone to celebrate the New Year on the spot and try not to move. When you refuse, you must first show that you are willing to accompany her back to her hometown for the New Year. But now that the epidemic is so serious, the country also appeals to everyone not to run around during the New Year, or not to go back.
2. Refuse on the grounds of work.
This is relatively simple. That is to say, I have to be on duty at work for some reasons, or I have to work overtime, or I have to deal with what kind of things. But before you communicate, you should show your attitude. You want to go with each other, so at least it won't hurt the feelings of two people. If you say you don't want to go from the beginning, just tell your wife, and she will definitely think that you don't understand her and don't think about her. Therefore, this kind of communication should be better said.
3. "Reverse Chinese New Year Method".
Since I don't want to go to my wife's house for the New Year, can I consider taking my wife and her family to your city for the New Year? This is also a popular way of celebrating the New Year in recent years, and it is called the "reverse Chinese New Year method". This not only meets the need for your daughter-in-law to reunite with her family, but also meets the purpose of your question. You don't want to go to her house for the New Year. This way does the least harm to the other party and the greatest benefit to both parties.
As an emotional counselor who has been exposed to many marriage cases, he often receives such marriage counseling. In fact, many problems lie in the communication between two people. Just as your wife makes such a request to you, what she needs more is your attitude, not to say that it must be specific. I think you must be firm when encountering this kind of problem. This is your wife. If you try to be nice to her, you won't be nice to her. Who will be nice to her? ?
When dealing with these marital communication problems, we might as well enlarge our eyes a little, so that many small problems can be solved.