What was the last sentence before the disaster parted? We hope to fly in heaven, and two birds use one wing? Disasters fly separately. I don't know what I'm talking about, as the old saying goes, husband and wife are birds in the same forest, and when disaster strikes, they fly separately. One sentence has already revealed how indifferent the world is. Let's take a look at the last words before the disaster.
What is the first sentence before the disaster flies separately? 1 The first sentence of "Disastrous Flying Together" is: Husband and wife are birds in the same forest. Said by Feng Yulan, an anonymous writer in Yuan Dynasty, the second time: "Hey, it turns out that husband and wife are birds in the same forest, and they fly separately when disaster strikes. Madam, I can only save my own life, not you. "
Alas, husband and wife are birds of a feather. In case of emergency, let's fly separately. Madam, I can only save my own life, not yours.
The words "husband and wife are birds in the same forest, and when disaster strikes, they fly separately" are not from poetry. They were originally a folk saying, similar in structure to two-part allegorical sayings. It consists of two sentences, similar to two-part allegorical saying, without the next sentence.
Xiansi Pavilion was designed by Jingyuan Hou, and even the Eleventh Niangs suffered. More importantly, the person who presided over the Eleventh Niangs was "inspired" by Jing Yuanhou and gradually targeted Xu Lingyi behind the Eleventh Niangs.
Regardless of his tricks, Eleven Niangs began to wake up. She must do one thing in advance at the next joint hearing of the three departments, because as the hostess of the Xu family and Mrs. Yongping Hou, these two identities will definitely be used by her opponents.
So what Eleven Niang can do now is to turn passivity into initiative and take everything on herself. In this way, Xu, Jian Zong and Xu Lingyi can stay out of it.
→ Xu Lingyi stayed, leaving the book in order to give Eleven Niangs more sense of security.
Ordinary couples are intimate, and what they worry about is the cost of daily necessities. However, Hou Fu's husband and wife seem to be prosperous in Plutocratic family, but they are always on tenterhooks.
In order to find out the Xu family's mole, Xu Lingyi, Eleven Niangs and District Yanhang jointly staged a drama that was enough to confuse the real with the fake. The most important prop is to appear again and leave the book.
The appearance of "Li Heshu" convinced Qu that his plan was almost successful. Without the protection of Luo Shiyang and JOE, asking her name is as simple as asking anything.
However, Qu looked down on the feelings between Xu Lingyi and Eleven Niangs, and never thought much about it. If something happened, there would be a demon, and finally he ended his life.
It's over. It's useless without books. Eleven Niang wanted to burn the book, but Xu Lingyi said to let her stay, in order to make her feel safe.
In fact, Xu Lingyi also knows that Eleven Niangs have paid a lot for the Xu family. Although she won the glory of the Xu family today with her own life, she is even more powerful. I don't know when she will break into a furious rage, and the Xu family can't escape. Therefore, this peaceful divorce book can keep women from being implicated at critical moments.
People who really love each other are probably like this and can't let go of each other. Even if you risk your life for each other.
→ Eleven women took out their books and stayed to protect Xu Lingyi and the Xu family.
The emperor wanted to open the sea ban, and the most powerful promoter in Korea was Yongping Hou Xuling. However, after Jingyuan Hou was in an uproar, the emperor asked Xu Lingyi to divorce his wife when the witness and material evidence were unfavorable to the Xu family.
In fact, this implies a point that everyone pays little attention to. Why did the emperor divorce Xu Lingyi from his eleventh mother?
On the surface, I want JOE and Xu Lingyi to get out of this situation, and don't hurt Xu Lingyi because of this. But the deeper meaning is that I hope Xu Lingyi can find a way to survive in the Jedi. Because people are often cornered and produce endless power.
Xu Lingyi didn't intend to do this, but what everyone didn't expect was that Eleven Niang took out the book that had not been burned before.
This not only caught Jing Yuanhou off guard, but also surprised Chen Ge. People familiar with Xu Lingyi naturally know that this was planted by Xu Lingyi and Xu. But what I didn't expect was that eleven women, a weak-looking woman, were willing to sacrifice for the sake of the righteousness in their hearts.
When Xu Lingyi, who was heartbroken, cried and asked Eleven Niangs how to live, Eleven Niangs replied tearfully, "Take the lesser of two evils, Duke." It takes a lot of courage and effort to make such a decisive decision.
It was also because of the decision of Eleven Niangs that Xu Lingyi tried to ask the emperor to give himself time to prove that Eleven Niangs had nothing to do with pirates.
Such a move makes many people feel ashamed. Shame is not to use women as chips, but to make a decisive decision to sacrifice and save the ego in times of crisis.
As the old saying goes, those who seek common ground from top to bottom win, and those who are in the same boat win. It is the practice of saving Xu Lingyi by Eleven Niangs that makes JOE unite from top to bottom to overcome the difficult times!
Husband and wife are birds in the same forest, and when they are in trouble, they fly separately. Many times, it's just because they can't treat each other sincerely and get along with each other purposefully. How can they get the sincerity of others? When disaster strikes, how do you choose not to leave?
What are the last words before disaster arrival? 2. People often say, "Three years of pain, seven years of itching."
In the divorce of many young couples, it has become the norm to get married at a young age. From a few days to a year or two, they can't stand the pain of three years and the itch of seven years.
In fact, everyone has discovered that the biggest reason for divorce is "money".
Divorce is not because there is no money, but because there is too much money; The goal of husband and wife is no longer to fight for material things, because both parents are satisfied when they get married, so they enjoy it more after marriage.
The material pursuit of two people is not lacking, so what is lacking? Of course, it is the pursuit of spirit, enjoyment and excitement. Of course, it also includes breaking up and changing wives or husbands when they are not fresh.
Some divorces are due to money, because the other party can't satisfy their own appetite, and one party pays blindly, while the other party is only waiting to enjoy the fruits of the other party's labor. If it is not satisfied, it will leave.
Second, husband and wife respect each other and share weal and woe.
This kind of sentence should be more about the scene of an old couple struggling.
The older generation, including many post-80s generation, in fact, the material conditions are not very good. With the help of their parents, they barely get married and have children. Don't talk about others, just take me for example. When you get married, it's also very difficult. The bride price is only 20 thousand
After marriage, the house is an old house. There is no decorator, only a wardrobe for furniture, a TV set, a gift of 30 thousand yuan for work, and a van at home. It has been in operation for 10 years.
In the process of 10, our young couple is still a province, and others can get 100000 at once, either as a gift or as a gift. We also borrowed 5000 yuan from our classmates, and when we paid it off, there were less than 10 thousand yuan left.
Therefore, like the older generation, we should strive for material things together after marriage. Two years ago, I bought a house with a loan. This year, I won't drive. I borrow money to pay the down payment, borrow money.
It is conceivable that the next two to five years should be a process of paying off debts. The house is still an old house, but at this age, it is no longer beautiful and comfortable, and the goal is to focus on the next generation.
All energy is devoted to the pursuit of material things. How can we find time to enjoy the spirit?
Third, what is the normal state of husband and wife getting along with each other? "make do"
Of course, the lovers in the world are not the kind of lovers made in heaven. "And more is mutual tolerance, mutual concessions, mutual understanding and mutual accommodation.
You can guarantee that after breaking up, the one you choose will be better than the one you chose at the beginning; Most remarried families are unhappy. Many times, they can't get out of their last marriage, and there is a problem of trust. The problem of children can not be effectively solved, and the economic strength after remarriage is a big problem.
Many people say that marriage is not fastidious, and marriage does not make do. In fact, it has been misunderstood by many people, and you will regret this argument.
When should I make do? There should be a difference when you don't make do.
Feelings are broken and cracked, and such feelings can't be made up; But in most cases, tolerance, understanding and accommodation are necessary.
1, because of a temporary impulse, because of each other's personality; This running-in is a running-in process.
2. Because of chores such as housework and children's education, we should make do with it instead of breaking up; Because the next marriage is not necessarily better than now, there is no marriage running-in without making do.
3, because of elders and work, we have to make do, we can't change others, we must change ourselves to adapt. For things that are not principled, the two sides can coordinate concessions, that is, make do with it.
Finally, what is husband and wife?
Husband and wife are a company, and the husband is the chairman. He invested in bringing his wife as a partner.
What the chairman does is to learn to manage and run the company, to satisfy the partners and not to withdraw shares at will. No matter whether the chairman is a husband or a wife, whoever is the chairman will have a great management responsibility.
And your family and children are the achievements of this company; Happy family and motivated children show that the chairman and partners are well managed. If the chairman and partners often start work, chickens fly and dogs jump at home and children play truant, it means that both the chairman and partners are unqualified.
If a company wants to grow sturdily, it needs both the chairman and the partners to learn, tolerance, unity and skills. Only when two people have the same goal can the company develop.
Come on, let's start our own company.
What was the first sentence before the disaster? Tell a love story of a talented woman, Li Qingzhao. Her first half of life is happy, but her second half is miserable. There are two main points:
1, abandoned by the first husband.
2, flash marriage with the second husband.
Li Qingzhao had two marriages, the first one lasted for a long time, which occupied most of her marriage time. But this marriage was anticlimactic, and it was very happy at first, but later it suffered a 180 degree turn.
Li Qingzhao and his wife
Li Qingzhao's second marriage was short, lasting less than 1 year. In today's words, it's flash marriage, flash marriage.
Li Qingzhao's second marriage is a chain reaction caused by the sudden change of the first marriage. Therefore, to say misfortune, the source has to start with the marriage change of the first marriage.
It should be said that Li Qingzhao's first marriage was happy most of the time. If it is unfortunate, it can only be said that the last day is not guaranteed.
Li Qingzhao's first husband was Zhao Mingcheng, and the young couple were not forced by their parents' orders and matchmakers' words. They are completely like-minded and naturally combined. This marriage can even be regarded as a perfect match.
Although Zhao Mingcheng is far behind Li Qingzhao in literary achievements, he also has his own unique skills, namely archaeology and collection. Zhao Mingcheng's Jin Shi Lu can be regarded as an ancient archaeological work, which still has certain influence on later archaeology. At that time, it was a noble taste to be able to play antique calligraphy and painting, and it was only a scholar.
Jinshi road
The combination of two talented and accomplished people in different fields is bright and envied by others to outsiders, just like the Beckhams now.
However, a cruel reality makes the married life of Li Qingzhao and his wife always imperfect, that is, they have been married for many years without a son and a daughter.
In ancient times, it was unfilial to have no offspring. Not only do you feel uncomfortable, but even society will sneer at them. So in ancient times, if the wife was infertile, the husband could take a concubine, regardless of whether the problem was with the wife. In fact, at that time, it was impossible to find out who the problem was. In the Great Song Dynasty, this article was even written into the written law by Sima Guang who was bent on opposing "Wang Anshi's political reform".
Concubine means that there is a "third party" involved. Although the status of concubine is not as high as that of wife, it will inevitably have more or less influence on the feelings of the original husband and wife.
Li Qingzhao and his wife
Since then, the relationship between Li Qingzhao and his wife is no longer as sweet as before, which is a small turning point. Facts have proved that the problem is not with Li Qingzhao, because Zhao Mingcheng has no children since he married a concubine. However, no one will sympathize with Li Qingzhao.
With the rise of Li Qingzhao's fame, their relationship seems to be more crisis. Why?
Because this makes Zhao Mingcheng feel a lot of pressure. If a woman is better than a man, can the man hold his head high in front of others (secular vision)?
As a result, Zhao Mingcheng began to be cold and hot to Li Qingzhao, and even some avoided Li Qingzhao. The only thing that exists between them is their collection of antique calligraphy and painting.
After the outbreak of the shame of Jingkang and the establishment of the Southern Song Dynasty, Zhao Mingcheng was appointed as the well-known Jiangning by Zhao Gou of Song Gaozong.
When Jin Wushu went south, there was a panic in Jiangnan, and civil strife broke out in Jiankang. In this civil strife, Zhao Mingcheng abandoned the whole family and the whole city to escape, and ran away by himself.
Jinwuzhu
Although the civil strife was later put down, Zhao Mingcheng didn't get much punishment, and Li Qingzhao and his wife were together again. However, does Li Qingzhao still have the idea to sing with Zhao Mingcheng at this time?
Later, Li Qingzhao wrote the famous "summer quatrains":
"Life is a hero, death is a ghost male. I still miss Xiang Yu and refuse to cross Jiangdong. "