In fact, in the workplace, such a situation as Xiaoli is not uncommon. In particular, some newcomers to the workplace often encounter all kinds of problems, and it is inevitable that they will feel uncomfortable or even afraid.
Then, in the face of complicated workplace life, how can newcomers overcome bad psychology and be calm and comfortable? I think. It is important to control five emotions.
0 1 inferiority Xiaoli once said to me: When I first entered the workplace, I was both curious and scared. Strangely, many things have never been experienced and feel very fresh; The terrible thing is that many things are particularly subtle, and if you are not careful, you will be punished for violating the rules. So I began to feel inferior, timid, timid and afraid to move forward.
Inferiority is a kind of mentality that newcomers often encounter when they first enter the workplace. For example, others know some knowledge but you can't, others will do some work and you can't, so they will feel inferior and think they are inferior to others.
Any normal person will have an inferiority complex. Many people who look proud on the surface actually have no less inner inferiority complex than others, but they just don't show it easily.
Inferiority is an important experience in life. People who have no sense of inferiority often cannot have a deeper understanding of life. The key is how to overcome inferiority, overcome inferiority, and turn inferiority into confidence.
People's real inferiority actually comes from their inner ignorance and confusion.
Writer Ke Yunlu once said a few words to young people in "Emotional Intelligence Enlightenment": "Confident and positive, smiling and optimistic; Not afraid of difficulties, relaxed and comfortable; Be neither supercilious nor supercilious, be lenient and treat others with love; Dare to say and do, let go. "
Therefore, for newcomers in the workplace, don't be devastated by temporary setbacks. It is our only choice to overcome inferiority complex in time and regain our previous self-confidence.
If we feel inferior for too long, it will delay our next journey, because the road ahead is still very long.
Although negativity and inferiority come down in one continuous line, there are differences.
Elimination is likely to come from inferiority, but inferiority does not always bring negative effects.
There are three main manifestations of the passivity of newcomers in the workplace:
(1) negative psychology. With a carefree attitude, I don't treat my work with passion, but with an indifferent attitude. It doesn't matter whether I do well or not.
(2) negative emotions. This kind of people not only have negative psychology, but also feel a little dissatisfied, either sighing or complaining endlessly, spreading negative emotions and venting their dissatisfaction at will, which makes people feel that negative energy is mostly.
(3) negative behavior. Specifically, when encountering difficulties in work and life, the first thing that comes to mind is avoidance, not thinking about how to overcome it. Negative neglect is serious.
Workplace is like life, everyone has unpleasant moments, and one or two setbacks are nothing.
It is normal to have some negative psychology when encountering difficulties and setbacks, and it is understandable to complain once or twice. But negativity won't solve any problems, it will only make you more pessimistic about life, lack enthusiasm and even become negative and decadent.
A truly outstanding person will not just stop sighing and passively waiting, but will actively seek change and make life develop in a good direction.
When I take part in some campus recruitment, I sometimes ask some recruitment units that go with me what their overall impression of new people in the workplace is.
The answers are basically enthusiastic, energetic and quick to adapt, but some questions are arrogant.
Low mentality is a common problem for many newcomers in the workplace. In the final analysis, this is a kind of contempt.
(1) despise work. Some people just graduated from school, thinking that they have received a good education and are more than enough to do their present jobs well. In fact, entering a brand-new workplace environment requires an adaptation cycle. Whether the job is competent or not, it takes a process to adapt to the light environment, understand the process and change the role.
Why do some newcomers often make mistakes and get training after entering the workplace? Besides not being modest enough, they also regard their work as too simple.
Experience is the mother of wisdom. Many skills at work are accumulated over time, and books are only one aspect.
Suggestion: when the ability can't support the ambition, then calm down and experience it and strengthen yourself.
(2) despise colleagues. I feel that I have a high degree of education, new knowledge and much knowledge, and I don't care about my colleagues around me. This kind of behavior is undoubtedly arrogant.
Consequences of belittling colleagues: interpersonal tension; Give the impression of arrogance and make yourself a loner; When there are difficulties in work and life, no one helps; No one wants to work with you to complete tasks that require cooperation with others; I feel that everyone in the unit is biased and hostile to you.
In fact, for newcomers in the workplace, the most important thing is to have strong advantages, make up for shortcomings, have more experience, keep a low profile, constantly strengthen themselves and prove their strength.
It is undeniable that young people nowadays are basically spoiled from childhood, have not experienced any storms, and have some personality defects more or less.
The stubbornness here mainly includes the following manifestations:
(1) I don't know how to give in. There are mistakes in work and life, and they often refuse to admit their mistakes. Everything is someone else's fault, and you are self-righteous. In fact, it is a mistake not to admit your mistake. Admitting mistakes will not only lose nothing, but also make you look generous and organized.
(2) I like to compete for high and low. I don't know how to govern by doing nothing, and I don't know how to hide my strength. I always like winning or losing when things happen, especially winning in words. Fighting with others is actually a kind of consumption for yourself. A wise man never fights with others, but quietly does what he should do.
{3} Poor self-control ability. Expressed in work and life. When something happens, it will be immediately shown in words and deeds. I can't control my emotions. I can say whatever I want and do whatever I want, regardless of other people's feelings.
A famous person once said that a person who can control his emotions is a truly capable person.
Indeed, if a person can't control his emotions, even if he gives you the whole world, you will destroy everything sooner or later.
Because, if you can't be the master of your own mind, you will inevitably become the slave of your own emotions.
(4) Lack of tenacity and perseverance. Modern society is full of competition, especially in the workplace. Faced with pressure, lack of psychological endurance, can only be knocked down by pressure.
Writer Lu Yao wrote in Life: "Life is always like this. People can't be satisfied everywhere, but we still have to live enthusiastically."
Newcomers in the workplace want to gain more than others and suffer more than others. They rely on tenacity and perseverance here.
Remember: what can't beat you will eventually make you strong.
05 make public first talk about the consequences of publicity:
Expose one's strength prematurely; Seriously affect interpersonal relationships; Being a man and doing things is too high-profile, making yourself a target of public criticism; It is easy to have right and wrong, disputes and misunderstandings with colleagues; If you can't get it, it will come out of your mouth and make trouble for yourself; When a gun hits the first bird, it is easy to become a victim; Embattled, affect the mood. Although publicity is the nature of young people, if you are too publicity in the workplace, you are undoubtedly looking for trouble for yourself.
Laozi said in the Tao Te Ching: "People who are truly virtuous are not domineering, but points."
Excessive publicity, seemingly looking at the scenery, actually hides the crisis.
Sometimes, hiding yourself is a pragmatic self-protection.
A temporary scenery will not be a wonderful life. If you want to go steady and far, you must be modest, down-to-earth and pragmatic.
Conclusion: Newcomers in the workplace must control and overcome the bad feelings of inferiority, negativity, contempt, stubbornness and publicity, so as to have a good start, obtain the expected career development prospects and take every step of life in a down-to-earth manner.