The Book of Filial Piety says: Although the family is small, the law of governing the world is in it! Serve your father, serve your brother. Treating wives and concubines, like treating people and subjects, must be treated with courtesy.
Once upon a time, four governors recommended Shun to Yao, saying, "Shun is the son of Yue Guanyou. His father is dishonest, his stepmother is dishonest, and his brother is arrogant and unfriendly, but he can get along well with them. He used the virtue of filial piety to influence them and strengthen his self-cultivation instead of being evil. " Emperor Yao said, "Let me try him! I married my two daughters to Shun and observed Shun's virtue through my two daughters. " So Emperor Yao ordered his two daughters to go down to the corner of Guishui and marry Shun. Emperor Yao said, "Deal with government affairs seriously!"
The Book of Songs praised Wen Wang's virtue, saying, "Zhou Wenwang can lead by example and influence his wife and brother with courtesy. Recently, he has educated the people of the whole country and governed the country." These are all examples of ancient sages ruling the country first and then ruling the country. To the later generations, from the gentry to the ordinary people, there are also many people and things who abide by family etiquette and can be examples for others to learn. Now, collect these typical examples and weave this family model.
Courtesy must be the first priority in running a family. Wei Shizhen said in the original text, "Yi Jun, a minister, the grace of the father, the filial piety of the son, the love and respect of the younger brother, the so-called six obedience."
Qi Yanying said, "Your majesty makes your minister * * *, your father is filial, your brother loves your brother, your husband and wife are gentle, and your aunt is kind." Your orders are not disobedient, my minister is * * *, my father is kind and teaching, my son is filial and praying, my brother is kind and friendly, my brother is respectful and obedient, my husband is harmonious and upright, my wife is gentle and upright, my aunt is kind and obedient, my wife is gentle and humble, and the gifts are good.
There is no such thing as etiquette in a husband's family. The difference between men and women is also a big ceremony, and the housekeeper must think it over first. "Li": Men and women don't sit down, they have different shackles, different towels and combs, and they don't give and receive; Sister-in-law and uncle don't ask, and mothers don't wash clothes; Loanwords do not enter the lot, and internal words do not enter the lot; This woman promised to get married. Don't come in unless there is a good reason. Aunt and sister, daughter, are married and turned against each other. Brother Fu sits at the same table, and he eats with the same utensils. Men and women don't know each other unless there is a media, no money, no kissing and no money. Therefore, the sun and the moon sue the king, fast against ghosts and gods, and drink and call friends of the township party. This is generous.
Moreover, men and women do not sacrifice or mourn, and do not give each other utensils. If they teach each other, women will be rewarded. If there is no fat, they will sit and drink it and take it away. No * * * well inside and outside, no * * * bath, no sleeping mat, no leave.
Men enter, don't scream, don't point; Night walk with candles, no candles. A woman will cover her face when she goes out; Night walk with candles, no candles. Road, men from the right, women from the left.
And the son was born seven years ago, and men and women don't eat at the same table. For ten years, I have been working and living alone. Women never leave for ten years.
And the woman can't go out when she sees her brother and doesn't cross the threshold.
And the monarch, wife and parents are present, and there is a loving mother. No, it makes qingning.